He asked me out and I haven’t seen him since shall I add him?

[Anonymous]

I had a gym crush for the LONGEST time. We both did.

He finally asked me out but it was in front of his friends so I declined. I felt awkward and embarrassed.

I haven’t seen him since (been 3 weeks) and I think he’s embarrassed.

Coincidentally I drove past him today.

I found him on social media through a mutual (also a guy - don’t judge me). Should I request him?

[Part2603]

YOU FUCKING ASSHOLE!!!

Asking you out in front of friends is a fucking compliment. He's saying to you, "I like you so much, that I'm willing to put my reputation on the line. I can't wait another minute to get you alone, I don't care if everybody knows that I like you, I want to know, 'Do you like me back?'"

And stupid you, you had to say no because it was slightly uncomfortable in the moment.

All you had to say was, "Hang on, let me think about it, I'll get back to you."

But you had to let your awkwardness crash over you and you RUINED IT!

You need to run up him next time you see him, wrap your arms around him in a tender embrace and tell him that you were crazy to tell him no.

You fucking chicken. "Should I hit him up on social media?" NOOOO! Make things right.

[Man-O-Metal]

Go ahead and request him. He may be confused at first. But if he accepts then I suggest taking the time to explain why you rejected him. Be upfront and honest. Same goes for if you run into him at the gym again. I get that girls do this sometimes, but if you still feel for him then you have got to go for him. Don't let this guy get away!

[Pinay_ako]

You rejected him and in front of his friends? Come on. Double blow. If you want him, reach out to him and apologize. The ball is in your court!

[_deeznuts]

yeah ofc. then if you still have a crush on him you should explain your reasons and apoligize *if* you want to date him.

[spartan55]

You girls just never cease to amaze me with your complete lack of self awareness. You just expect to hit the 'redo' switch ignoring what you did. Just no shame.

[spartan55]

If you are interested in making things right (and yes that means apologizing) ffs do it in person, not over stupid social media. That's the chickenshit way to dodge accountability.

[Asker]

I haven’t seen him since, read my question. Also he embarrassed me by doing it in front of his friends.

[spartan55]

Doing it front of his friends means he was much more confident. Not sure why you were embarrassed, they were his friends. So that's your justification for doing that, you were embarrassed?

[spartan55]

I read your question, you said you just drove by him today (whenever that was) so you have seen him.

[Asker]

Yes that's why I considered talking to him again... felt like it was a sign lol.

[spartan55]

But you didn't I assume?

[DrewJay]

If you want to make things right and explain why you said no and you really meant yes then request and do what you need to do. He at this point thinks your not interested in him so he is leaving you alone. Or you can go up to him in the gym and ask to speak with him away from his friends and explain to him and ask him on a date.

[spartan55]

There's no way she will do that, I'd bet anything.

[Birdlegs]

He’s been having sex with a new girl everyday for the last 3 weeks all because you rejected him smh

[Asker]

Wait what 😂😂

[noohair]

You have on idea the damage you did to his ego. If front of his friends. Have you herd the story of Humpty Dumpty? Not fixable.

[IsoUser]

You essentially made your own decision so OWN IT!!

[TheMajesticKing777]

So now you are gonna ask him out?

[Asker]

Maybe

[TheMajesticKing777]

Worth a try I guess

[priya10011]

Gym crushes have such a big package down there😬😬

[Asker]

Loooool

[priya10011]

But maybe your guy had a tiny one😂

[Asker]

Loooool perhaps

[Waldoe]

nope... he took his shot, he is OVER it

[Anonymous]

Wait, I thought you had a boyfriend.

[Asker]

We weren’t talking and I was being stupid. I never hit on that guy.

[Opinion Owner]

So what you described in this question happened while you were with your boyfriend, yes?

[Asker]

The asking me for my number thing happened while I was single

[Opinion Owner]

But you're stalking him and showing interest while you have a boyfriend.

[Asker]

No I’m not it was a dumb question I posted

[RuthlessAggression]

So you're a player?

[Asker]

I’m not a player but I can certainly play the game if you try me, yes.

[RuthlessAggression]

You're def. a player

[Asker]

LOOOOOL until my husband comes around yes.

[RuthlessAggression]

You have a boyfriend, and you're not wanting a husband too, you're def. a player bro

[JakeS00]

Do it!

[driven159]

that's up to you

[Tstrbrainer]

Add him