I understand guys rarely get compliments from women. But I noticed that when a woman gives a compliment to a guy, they always act doubtful, as if she’s not being genuine, act awkward or take it as a joke. So why do you guys have a hard time accepting compliments from a woman? (It can be a friend, girlfriend, a woman that has a crush on etc…)
Guys: why do you have a hard time accepting compliments from women?
In all honesty the answer is in the body of your question here. We aren't used to getting compliments from women or our fellow men, so it feels alien to receive them and feel good, it does feel awkward and to a degree uncomfortable.
The reason why we struggle with getting them from women, to better draw an analogy would be like this. You know how a "nice guy" can be nice but it comes with subtle strings attached? That is the way we see compliments, "Okay, what are you really after? What do you really want? You aren't being nice just to be nice. You are being a kiss ass for a reason."
I am working on taking compliments when I can, but it feels very odd because it is something I rarely heard from anyone. Men and women.
Some guys never received compliments.. for compliment sake. Always a task. Always Something behind it. Some guys will freak out and never talk to a girl who thinks getting him flowers are good idea…
Sex is the best compliment. The woman being mine is a compliment to my life. Actions speak louder than words. Therefore you expressions of gratitude or compliments mean nothing verbally. We feel less. Woman feel more, Think emotionally. Men think action. Physically. A really good way even if inappropriate. Is to hug a guy and say than you instead of just saying thank you. He will thank you back. Guys are thinking in terms of intimate and respectfulness. Just cause you say good job, doesn't mean you respect me. Their are more important thing we want than just to fill up are egos. We don't except something that can bring us high because we don't want women trying to slam us down after caring what they think of us. Hence the reason girls saying thank you or compliments is a joke to men. And thus its not taking seriously. And we are serious about nit taking it seriously.
The compliments women give are often not genuine, whether they give them to men or women. They generally come with ulterior motives. Women commonly say one thing when they mean the opposite. How does one respond to snarky comments or when the objective isn't clear? Sometimes, they're just used to prove the guy has a swelled head... if he accepts them. Guys aren't likely to accept anything they believe may be a set up.
If you want compliments to be received and appreciated, understand the differences between men and women. Women like to be complimented for how they look, whereas men prefer being appreciated for what they say or do.
We don't do it to each other so it's weird when just about anyone does. Girls compliment each other all the time, so to girls this is completely normal. You gotta remember that guys are like cavemen. We're very simple, almost too simple. And because we really aren't that complicated, we get confused or sometimes feel awkward when something out of the ordinary happens. I can tell you that I personally find some compliments to be nice, but a majority of them I don't need to hear. Also, women are very emotional beings. So hearing a little self esteem booster every now and then is what women like. Guys are less emotional, therefore we don't need to hear it as much, sometimes at all.
Because they’re rare. We’re used to that, we don’t need compliments the way women seem to need them. It doesn’t hurt me emotionally if you did t notice my hair or something else that I changed. Men are just taught to get out there, tule the world, do what you have to do to get to where you want to be. I don’t need compliments. The compliments come from myself when I see I’ve achieved a goal knowing that I did it. A compliment or lack there of isn’t going to detail me from the train track the way it does to many women. Plus it’s usually because she wants something.
Mostly it’s because you’re probably giving the wrong kinds of compliments. Compliment dudes on the things they DO more than the things they are. You’ll likely see different results. It should come from a place of knowledge of his values too. This is simply because men are only valued for what we can do. So we can’t do anything with a compliment on what we are.
Because to women, the guy she's with always has a bigger dick than her previous partners... Yeah not buying that one bit. They are often generic, something said to any guy without personalization. Women seduce to get the results they want, its in there DNA. Its why many of them aren't on favor of legalized prostitution, strips the power.
I think it depends on the occasion, if it´s not happening regularly and if it´s not the consequence of an action or connected to something we did chances are high that overthink it. Plus we guys generally tend to have problems articulating our feelings so it might seeem that we can´t take a compliment while we´re actually trying to figur out what we could say.
Over the past couple years I've developed more insecurities so it makes it harder to accept compliments if its about my appearance (not related to clothes) Even if my boyfriend compliments me, its hard to see it as genuine even though they do it a lot. It's just how it is ig
Its not just that we rarely get compliments that makes us wary when we are complimented, it’s because that there is usually a hook buried in the reason behind the compliment, we’ve learned from painful experience that we usually only get complimented when the person giving it wants something from us or wants us to do something that’s sketchy at best, the only exceptions are usually family or very close friends.
Because it's usually a joke and right behind it are women laughing at us because one of them said something sweet to us. We have seen it and even dealt with it before. Why would a girl even more so if she's extremely attractive compliment a man? We just don't see it like you see it
Because we rarely get complimented like you did so we act suspicious. We are doubtful because 1 she is lying and giving out the compliment because she wants something in return or 2 because the guy doesn't belive her because he rarely gets complimented so it's hard to believe.
Because women almost NEVER compliment men whatsoever. So any attempts at such are seen as sarcasm or mockery. Most women are also rather self-absorbed.
Society is pretty hell bent on making sure that men know that they don't have much to feel good about. It's tough to hear that your entire life and then believe that the occasional woman is being sincere when she compliments you.
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Women use compliments to manipulate men... some men are aware of it. I noticed this the other day. A woman made an indirect compliment but only did it because she wanted some validation back to inflate her ego. We do not need compliments!
I think it has something to do with a insecurity. You might be telling him he’s the most beautiful man on the planet but deep inside he know that isn’t true so he take it as you playing and joking around and just pushed it to the side.
Because it seems unreal, plus because of how females are we can’t take anything you say seriously, and y’all always sending mixed signals about everything
Guys receive so few compliments (from women at least, if you aren't super attractive) that they can remember and count them on one hand from the last few years. So we are not used to getting praise.
I have women out of the blue make compliments about my hair which I have thick full head of hair so that is not unusual to me, so I say thank you and smile
Because it's rare that it's genuine. More often, compliments have ulterior motives, like someone wants something out of you or it feels like it's just politeness.
Well... Because we're so used to women complaining about everything and anything that on the rare occations she actually pass a compliment we have to assume it's just a clever trap.
Answered the question right there in the first sentence because we don’t usually get compliments plus when a women does there’s gotta be a reason for it. I doubt she’s just complimenting for the sake of complimenting.
cuz most of the time they are insincere, women usually only give a compliment so they receive a compliment back or it’s cuz they’re trying to manipulate you to get something they want.
Because most girls, at least of what I have met, seem to say, nice things to people and bitch or trashtalke them to another, so it doesn't feel real when you get a compliment.
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