Guys, Why do guys want a girl that can manage her emotions?

[Anonymous]

Can you really not handle it?

[Man-O-Metal]

It's not that we can't handle it. It's more so, you are much harder to talk to if you can't keep yourself aligned. And when in a more unstable mode, you interpret things differently and can lash out at people for no reason. Just look at guys. We try not to let anything phase us (but obviously some stuff still does). When girls get so distraught over everything, it's a fricking nightmare to put up with. But not even other girls should have to put up with your nonsense. You become a fat burden to everyone around you and then everyone else has to adjust FOR YOU!!! It's selfish to want/need other people to coddle you and tell you everything is ok when it's not a big deal in the first place. If a girl is much stronger built when it comes to emotions, she is so much more fun to be around because we don't have to keep an eye on her like she's a grenade that could go off at any second. I'm not just talking about irritablility. I'm also talking about depression and mood swings. I understand that it's more common amongst girls. But the more aware you are of it, the more you can control it. The more you can control it, the more time people like to spend with you. When you take care of yourself for the sake of others, people notice and appreciate you for it.

[RavVid]

Well my requirement is she is consolable.

That is a dynamic between me and her I guess but if she is not consolable with me then she needs some one else (and let me of the hook I might add).

I do want to be the man and be of use to my girl and I don't mind her being a bit of a challenge at times. But not to be impossibly difficult.

I have just gone through this. My friend was in an emotionally traumatic situation with her family that wasn't resolvable. She wanted to talk on the balcony so she could drink and smoke. There would be moments of anguish and I would hear balcony door after balcony door slam shut. That was impossibly difficult to do and impossibly difficult not to do. I am grateful for the forbearance my neighbors showed.

[Notcreativenough]

Nobody handles their emotions, we're emotional creatures and anybody that says different either isn't the least but self aware or is a psychopath. I think what you're referring to is called a red flag, if a woman can't handle even basic amounts of emotional control its a huge red flag and it shows that they need more self discovery before they hurt someone. Men are no different, it's a 2 way street but I think the question was worded in a biased way.

[Wubs3000]

My sister used to be unable to manager her emotions. I would not want to date someone who couldn't handle their emotions. The littlest things would set her off and she would yell at me for no reason. She's not like that anymore and she's a lot happier but dating someone like that would be torture.

[ronaldo75]

Because I'm a grown ass man and dont have time for little girls who can't keep their emotions in check. I want a woman who's creative, attentive to *her* goals and desires, and has control over her thoughts and emotions. Why? because y'all are supposed to strong and independent... right? Yeah? So start acting like it.

[NamerOfStars]

Can we really not handle it? "We" aren't the ones incapable of managing our own emotional states. We as a society expect that from *children*. If you can't control your own actions, you're nowhere near mature enough to be in a relationship.

[Adam1978]

Why should we handle something if she can't and she has had a lifetime on her to manage it. Only babies are excused from not handling their emotions.

[spartan55]

Why do I have to 'handle' anyone's emotions except my own?

[Sixgunsound]

It’s reasonable to expect an adult to manage their emotions. do you want a partner or a babysitter?

[UniquelyBasic]

It brings unnecessary stress and men shouldn't have to "Handle" a woman.

[Anonymous]

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Oh, so because you're mentally unhinged the problem is he's just not man enough. Do you hear yourself?