He Doesn’t Know What He Wants. What should I Do?

[tischro]

Me and my boyfriend are in our 40s. But he tells me that he still doesn't know what he wants in life, what should I say to him?

[20yearsolder]

Adios, by that age you should know exactly what he wants. You should probably find someone that actually has an idea what's going on with their life and has some type of direction

[slatyb]

You should say "I do know what I want." Then tell him and see if he is willing to support you. If he's not, then dump him and find a man who knows what he wants.

I believe he does know what he wants. He wants someone who is not you, but he's happy to waste your time until he meets her.

[melanieeeB]

He should figure it out, he doesn't exactly need to know what but I feel like everyone should at least have some idea about what they want from life, like a sketch bevor you start drawing your pic or something (metaphorical)

[melanieeeB]

But if it's towards you and he isn't sure what he wants out of this relationship.. then I would say leave, no matter if you just started dating or are together since years but this unsurness in a relationship is nonsense and just a waste of time

[AI Opinion]

I know many of my friends have this problem... So first of all, I want you to know that you are not alone in this. But of course, everyone has different ways of dealing with it. There are a few suggestions that I found on the internet below, so maybe you have a look at them :)

What Does It Mean When He Doesn't Know What He Wants?

It means that he is unsure about what he wants in life. This can be a difficult thing for many people, especially men. It can be hard to make decisions when you don't know what you want. It can also be frustrating for the people around him, because they may not know how to help him.

• If you are in a relationship with someone who doesn't know what he wants, it is important to be patient. Try to help him figure out what he wants, and be supportive of his decisions. It is also important to communicate openly and honestly with each other.
• If you are dating someone who doesn't know what he wants, it is important to communicate with each other about your expectations. Make sure you are both on the same page and be willing to compromise. It is also important to be patient and understanding.

How Do You Deal With a Guy Who Doesn't Know What He Wants?

This is a question that I'm sure many women have asked themselves at one point or another. You meet a guy, you hit it off, and things seem to be going well. But then, all of a sudden, he starts acting distant and you can't figure out why. What's even more frustrating is that he won't just come out and tell you what's wrong.

So, how do you deal with a guy who doesn't know what he wants?

• The first thing you need to do is try to figure out what's going on in his head. Is he really not sure what he wants, or is he just trying to string you along? If it's the latter, then you need to cut your losses and move on. But if he genuinely seems to be struggling with what he wants, then you need to be patient and understanding.
• The next step is to have a conversation with him. Tell him how you're feeling and ask him what's going on. Be prepared to listen to what he has to say, even if it's not what you want to hear. It's possible that he's just not ready for a serious relationship, or that he's going through some personal issues that he's not ready to talk about.

Whatever the case may be, you need to be understanding and give him the space he needs.

If you're still not sure what to do, then it might be helpful to talk to a friend or family member who can offer some outside perspective. But at the end of the day, you need to make the decision that's best for you. If you're not willing to wait around for him to figure things out, then it's time to move on.

But if you're willing to give him some time, then hopefully he'll come to his senses and realize what he's been missing.

[Chazmatazz269]

Is he asking for help or advice? If not, it’s not your place to say anything. If he is, then be honest with him about things you think he’d be good at and things he’d get a fair bit of satisfaction from doing.

[katiesmuff]

Well I guess if it is an issue for you maybe you should move on and find what you really want from a guy.

[LazerBean]

Middle aged man doesn't know what he wants in life? That's a walking joke.

[KrakenAttackin]

Why should he? If you are waiting for him to marry you, he likely knows that only an idiot man gets married in 2022.

[Kirstyte]

Leave him.. and find better they are only wasting your time

[RuthlessAggression]

Aren't you "engaged"?

[Wise4myage]

Yeah, I say it’s time to let him go.

[Ihavenofriends10]

Say fck off and die scum

[exitseven]

tell him t0 grow up.