Is it normal to feel jealous when he talks to other girls after I rejected him?

[Anonymous]

He confessed that he liked me and previously we hung out before that. He's extremely intelligent and talented and he's very good looking as well. So it was yesterday he asked me out and I rejected him because I was still unsure about my feelings for him yet. He said that he must've misunderstood because I do kinda act nervous around him sometimes and weird stuff. But not he's distanced himself and is talking to other women and when I see them I get jealous and angry. What do I do?

[MrsTurkleton]

Yes, it’s normal….. but he is also free to pursue other women, especially as he now thinks he knows where he stands with you.
Nobody will wait around to be rejected again.
A guy with options will explore them.
If you want to have something with him, the initiation will have to come from you. Don’t mess him around. Either straight up ask him out, or let him move on.

I know how you feel. I know a guy who keeps telling me he likes me and he flirts a lot, but I was never really interested in him romantically until recently…. but I’m still not sure if I like him enough to pursue anything with him. I’m attracted to him, but there is still some doubt there. Yesterday, a girl he works with was chatting with him and it looked very cozy. She likes him and it‘e obvious…. and realised I was jealous, but it’s better that he be with, or spend time someone who is 100% into him.
It’s unfair to waste somebody’s time just to satisfy an ego.
Most guys always have options, and in the end, all of us as humans are drawn to people who like us & who make us feel good about ourselves. If he can’t get that from you, he will look elsewhere

[victoriaxoxo]

It just means you're territorial. Doesn't mean you like him. I feel jealous about every other guy that hit on me if he suddenly started getting attention. Also if he rejects me because it is just unusual. But that doesn't mean you actually like him. Once you think about him 24/7 and can't sleep at night and generally crave being with him all the time that's when you know you like him :).

[loveslongnails]

"Normal" ? Only in that it's typically dumb behavior because it happens a lot. The reason is even though you rejected a direct date, now you going to lose his attention! And you want attention, even if you don't to date HIM. It's childishly selfish at best, and ridiculous at worst.

Someone suggested you "talk to him about how you feel", but that would be bad news for him, in my opinion, because you had to ask this question. If you can't be truthful with yourself about "why" you feel this way, what's the point in talking to him? The only reason I see would be to keep him hanging on while you "make up your unsure mind" if you even want to date him!

Figure out what's in your own head before you do anything else, and don't lie to yourself. If it's all about the attention, get it from someone else.

[Twalli]

Maybe tell him that you weren't sure about how you felt so you rejected him, but seeing him with other women makes you jealous, so it turns out you actually do like him. He probably thinks you didn't like him when you rejected him. At least I don't think you can be jealous of an attractive guy is talking with other women without having feelings for him.

[Guy13]

Yes, because you no longer have his attention which means your emotional connection is severed. Basically what you are jealous about is the ego boost loss.

[spartan55]

What do you mean what do you do? You had your chance and you passed. Accept that your choices have consequences and learn from it.

[boggboss]

Stop being a idiot and talk to him About how u feel or move on