My boyfriend blocks me out for days when stressed about things- is it normal?

[Anonymous]

The last time he did it he didn’t speak to me for over a week when he was stressed due to family problems. I had to keep asking for him to finally tell me what was wrong because he just started ignoring me out of the blue and I didn’t know why. Is this acceptable behaviour?

[Melinara]

Hey my dear, I suppose that being ignored by your significant other has made you feel quite bad and lonely. Maybe you're very close to your boyfriend and you trust each other about many issues, but never forget that some issues such as family ones can't be discussed with details because you come from a different background.

I'm pretty sure that your boyfriend has undergone a lot of pressure lately. You don't know what exactly has happened in his family and it's all unclear. Maybe it's an issue that he can't share with you, but that doesn't mean he does not trust you...

I think nobody likes being ignored, but it's sometimes unavoidable, even by the people you love and value a lot. This hurts even more, but that's the case. You boyfriend is shy to discuss what has happened with you cause he feels you won't be able to fully understand him. Maybe his relatives asked him to keep it a secret. And maybe he totally wants to focus on his family issue and he avoids him cause you are a distraction for that.

That's not necessarily bad. At some point of our lives, we all feel the need to alienate from others, even though we deeply love them. Just give him space and time... Maybe he'll come back and explain everything to you when the matter is resolved.

Best wishes! ❤️

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Not normal. Well, I should say not *healthy*. It is "normal" for most men in that most men won't know how to handle or process emotion and thus go into this silent phase like a little girl giving the silent treatment.

It's an indication of an adult unable to regulate emotion, unable to communicate, and likely to get worse with time.

If I were you, I'd be looking to break up. Every man I've dated with this trait ended up needing a mother and a manager, not a partner.

[Shamalien]

While I think it’s not right to full on block, women must understand that men need to deal with stuff alone from time to time. We withdraw and it’s natural and healthy.

[Guy13]

This is way beyond normal….

[LazerBean]

Nope.