See, the first thing is we boys love to take care of our girl, we express our love when we take care of you girl. We know every single thing about you, we know what to do at the exact time, If you want snacks : here is the snacks, If you want candy : here is the candy, If you feel sad : here are the cuddles, If you need hug : here is your teddy bear (bae), If you want cookie : here is the cookie, you need to talk : here I m a good listener, If you need to punch something : here is my face, (yeah I agree, we are little bit lazy to move). But, HERE IS A THING.
When you take care of ours, sometime it feels like you are doing too much for us Inside our mind we think, "stop worrying about me, I m good now", we don't want you to get stressed about us, don't worry about us. We boys are not use to these things, it's kinda new for us. All we need, when I told you to do that thing, then you'll move yourself to help me or else you can just hug us and sit beside us for all day.
Your question with the first statement in your sentence makes it almost a two way question.
Guys: Do you get annoyed/irritated if a woman shows you too much care?
When you ask it like this then, yes. Depending on the situation, we men like to help and get involved when we can. I wouldn't want to do everything nor, would I want my partner to do everything alone either.
However, you mentioned that, "Recently my fiancée got sick, I was home cooking and cleaning."
When I read this after reading your question, I would actually say no. If I am sick and you are doing everything temporarily then, why would I be irritated? It would make it easier for me if anything. But, most men don't handle being sick well and he can also just be grumpy because of it.
Some guys interpret your help as being "Mothered" and it creeps them out. Men want to feel loved and cared for, but not mothering him.
Worry when a caring woman stops caring.. she’s done with you.
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Have you ever said something awful when you were sick, because you were so miserable from the illness? It sounds to me that this is all that this is. I wouldn't overthink it.
When you are sick, you can be extremely oversensitive and even outright mean. Any doctor or nurse can tell you that they have to deal with this all the time - and the patients who do this usually don't really mean it, but when they're miserable and in pain, too much light, loud noises, vibrations, etc. can drive them crazy.
I’ve never been engaged so I can’t answer for that side. But in general I’m pissed by excessive care from everyone towards anyone.
When people take too much care of me I feel suffocating and this piss me off.
When I see people taking care of others (adults) with coaxing and caressing like a little pet, it makes me pissed because adults have to be… adults. A fever is a fever, it will be solved in a little time, if one is sick he has to manage first of all himself to solve everything, and only after that you can receive care from others… but I sincerely don’t stand people who let others care so much that they seem their mother.
Interesting question. I'm going through a similar thing right now. The problem w/ a women caring to much is that your Martin for error as a man is so slim. Women think of themselves as the prize so when their investing their time in you, they need validation that its appreciated and they have even less acceptance when you make a precieved mistake. Lot of times they are getting advice from the sisterhood which constantly ask them "why are you doing this for him" so they in turn put the guy under pressure to validate that question.
I really believe that everybody has their own space. If you try to invade that space, anything may be the reason, people may really get irritated.
This space can expand and contract based on the situation. I would never try to force my help on my girlfriend unless she needs it and is demanding it verbally or through obvious body language.
If I try, then there is a greater chance that she will try to get me away from her, irritated towards me and what not.
No I would appreciate it. I have experienced where a girl was too emotionally needy and called me constantly and it was overwhelming for me and I needed space but that is something different. Having a girlfriend that's supportive and caring is something I would like :)
Well is he getting off his lazy ass and doing any cooking or cleaning? The food isn't going to magically cook itself and the house isn't going to clean itself. I appreciate anything somebody does to make my life happier or easier. Tell that big fucking baby to get up and do something.
Nope never that sounds perfect. Some guys are weird though and have a independent complex all thanks to toxic masculinity.
I know it happens. Guys don’t want to be babied and want to feel in control of their own lives so sometimes when they are getting told what to do or getting cared for it can seem emasculating in a way.
no after being married for 26 years it’s nice to be taken care off. But I do feel bad because I know she has other things to do so I won’t ask much but she voluntarily wants to make sure I’m okay and I like that.
God no I have been wanting to find a woman who does that and treats me like a human being unfortunately I have bad luck with women its not them its where I'm finding them. Also it's been helping that I'm working on myself
Do you like doing that for him. My sister likes doing laundry, cooking, and cleaning for her boyfriend. She also likes it when he doesn't do the dishes when he doesn't know how to (like trying to put dish soap in the dishwasher).
You're not his mother or wife. So yeah it's irritating. And no offense he is going to most likely replace you for a girl who doesn't do what you're doing.
I guess it could get annoying if it got too forward and/or too pushy.
No, I've never had a relationship where the woman "cared too much". If I got "mothered", I let her know, but I'd rather have her caring than not.
Probably because you use it against him. Like, "I do this and this and this and this for you and you never do anything for me."
It can leave you feeling like a child sometimes.
Listen, too much of anything becomes annoying.
Balance is key to living life in a healthy way.
Thats because guys are smart enough to know we're not getting help we're accruing debt. Nothing in mens lives is free.
Personally, no, big no.
it’s awesome when a girl cares for you. I really like it when a girl “mothers” me like the girls in here said.
No, But i can feel a bit awkward if She is too Caring.
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