Guys! when you’re newly dating a woman for a month?

[Sammie_hunts]

Is it offensive or a turn off if the woman asks you where you see things going?

[Dingsbums]

Well how can it be a turn on? Nothing sexual about that.

how the guy will feel depends on his motives. If he is just trying to fuck this question will be annoying for him because he doesn't want a relationship and probably doesn't want to lie to u either. But a guy being honest here often leads to the girl distancing herself because most dont want to be friends with benefits

if he likes u but is too shy to ask u to be his girlfriend he might like the question because it shows him that he can make a move now

[Sammie_hunts]

So its either he wants to fuck or he’s just too shy to discuss? Lmao 😜 Scary. Anything more?

[Dingsbums]

It can be more things mayne u r just moving too fast

[Sandeeppingping]

No she should be asking that, but she shouldn't be forcing me into it at that very second, like where do you see us going if I'm saying serious relationship and she agrees we're fine, if she wants us to eventually get married I understand that and I'm fine with that, but in that very moment don't ask for it that's all that's what's scary that implication..

[Sammie_hunts]

If you were interested in her seriously would she ever really need to ask you the question? Meaning , would you be holding back from telling her you wanted or saw her as serious?

[Sandeeppingping]

I understand what you mean, we guys usually don't talk about it before the girl or woman mentions it and asks about it for reassurance, like we've already made up our minds so there is no need to discuss it, it's also scarier and more needy for a man to ask so we never ask her either, so yea if I saw her as serious and we didn't have that talk and I felt like that's what she wanted but she needs the reassurance I will tell her, but I'm not gonna feel it unless she asks or makes statements that make me feel like she wants to know where we stand, hope this answers your question

[20yearsolder]

Why do you have to ask? You've decided to
Enter into a relationship with this person. After a month's time you should have a good idea of where you see this relationship going. If you're not comfortable and don't feel it then in the relationship. If you're only looking for something serious then you should tell the guy at the very first date. Why waste his time for a month and then pop the big question what are your intentions? Are you going to marry me?

[Sammie_hunts]

No we’re dating. I didn’t know if he was someone I would want a relationship with until getting to know him first. Dating is not a relationship

[20yearsolder]

I would have to disagree, if you're dating someone for over a month then it's a relationship. If within a month's time you can't figure out whether you want to continue the relationship/dating whatever you want to call it then there is a problem

[Sammie_hunts]

People date for way longer than a month before they enter a relationship. I’m definitely not in a relationship until the exclusivity conversation has taken place.

[Ryan1979]

Turn off. Usually when a girl asks me that question, she wants more from me and it can be several things 1. Time 2. Money 3. Not spend as much time with my friends 4. Become exclusive guys don't like a needy woman. It's a scary question because we don't know what you want to hear

[pizzalovershouse]

I be wondering the same but dont talk marriage to guy not less he mentions it cuz it takes time before they want to make that desion

[DarkWinterNights]

Too soon in my opinion. Minimum would be 3-4 months. Before that and it sounds a little too hurried or desperate. You need to spend this time determining if you’re even compatible for long term.

[Googlemyahoo]

Depends what he's looking for. My girlfriend and I bought a house lived together for a couple years when she stated we were getting married. I was like oh ok.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

No, it's not a turn-off, to ask him where you see things going

[Jamie05rhs]

That is absolutely NOT a turnoff! I love direct communication!

[Fryday_Knight]

No, but your answer better be the same as mine or we'll have to call it quits.

[Andres77]

Nope…it’s honest

[Wise4myage]

No, not at all.

[spartan55]

Too soon, I'd be put off.

[exitseven]

no, especially if things seem to be going good.

[KrakenAttackin]

Just forget marriage.

[htmndg183]

It is a legit concern and a question.

[Anonymous]

It can be.