Am I being negative or proactive?

[Ga-girl]

My boyfriend calls me "negative" quite often because whenever he brings up an idea I tend to shoot it down.

NOW example: he wants to get a 4k loan from a family member but has no idea when he could pay it back. I asked when he would be able to pay it back and it doesn't seem like he had even thought about it (which probably means he'll put a number out his ass). Then says that I always think bad about his idea

I'm simply thinking of the possible outcomes. Or risk management to see if that plan would meet the deadline he sets.
I've simply witnessed too many situations that could've been avoided if a plan was more thought out. I try to be proactive but he likes to be reactive.

[Glenn_lawrence]

you should ask him how is the 4k loan going to improve his financial situation to justify going into debt on a loan that he doesn't even have a realistic timeline he feels he could pay it back by. so no i don't think you are being negative i think you are thinking logically and since he didn't even think that far ahead like he should he is trying to make you feel bad by saying you are just thinking negatively

[Ga-girl]

Thanks for the response. I've already run through that in my head... I do this constantly. I'm in school for becoming a project manager so risk management has been on the for front of my mind.

[Glenn_lawrence]

well I will say this then your Boyfriend is a very lucky guy to have a woman that is as intelligent as you

[Ga-girl]

Awe thanks

[FilmGuy93]

We are going to need a LOT more context before we coudl have any opinion worth hearing.

[Ga-girl]

Liek what?

[Ga-girl]

Like*

[FilmGuy93]

Just more information about the relationship itself, his idea, etc.

[Ga-girl]

Eh i don't think it really matters but he has needed a lawyer for the past 8 months but the first time he didn't follow through with the payment so the lawyer stopped working for him. He needs the 4k for the lawyer and he's afraid that a court date is coming up and he still doesn't have it

[Ga-girl]

The relationship has communication issues

[LazerBean]

Your enot being negative, he's just being an idiot.

[d3n0939]

no, it is just you are being responsible. He should be happy

[Ga-girl]

Yah... Should*

[Jamie05rhs]

You are an asset to him. You are going to save his life. He should stop complaining and be more appreciative!

[pizzalovershouse]

Depends on if its something you like if not you won't do it it's like you might like mangos but not like strawberries

[Pinay_ako]

You’re just the voice of reason..

[Jennz6]

Don’t trust him…

[jon28805]

To me you’re just being sensible.