My Ex Boyfriend Friends likes me? but what should I do one of them claims my ex doesn’t care about it?

[Anonymous]

My ex boyfriend friend likes me and he stated the other night on the phone that my ex doesn’t give Af if me and him was to have something going on but why Don’t some dudes understand bro code because as far as in me I don’t want any dealings with him on that type of level but he isn’t on the same page and he also was getting an attitude when I told him the reason why he can’t be my main or so called side Nigga as he would say because he’s my ex boyfriend’s Homie and I have more respect for my self then that to allow myself to have something going on with any of my ex boyfriends friends/homies and plus I feel like my ex does give af in my opinion

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I need more advice and answers please😐

[ohsheeT]

Life is just 10 times better drama free and I mean your boyfriend's friend or your ex-boyfriend's friend he's not really his friend if he's going to go out with you that's why he said what he said he doesn't give a f*** I'm sure the guy does give a f*** especially if one of his friends are going to start going out with you in the old days that's something you just wouldn't do go out with one of your friends exes because you were a French and you respect each other but today is a new day and guys don't think about that they don't care about drama they don't care about anything except for themselves to be honest I guarantee it if you go out with the guys not going to last very long

[Asker]

I totally agree with you on this one it’s very Disrespectful and disturbing in my opinion he even was trying to touch on my buttocks and I told
Him to not do that and I told him that he need to stop acting like he knows everything because saying that my ex bouffant doesn’t give af isn’t going to make the situation any better. And tbh I feel like my ex boyfriend does care but he’s probably just that to him or to them to make it seem like he isn’t bothered when in reality he will cause he’s always been the jealous insecure type and me and him have only been broken up for only 5 months now and I’ve dealt with his bad jealousy problem the whole relationship so I’m pretty sure he cares because the other friend likes me as well but he used to date my friend when we were in 10th and I go by girl code but my ex knows he likes me as well because he’s the one who told me plus my ex started to get an attitude with me because his friend had commented on me and my ex boyfriend relationship and about my ex ways and I decided to not tell my ex because I think that he was going to get offended based off on what his friend said since we had a conversation about it and he started accusing me of keeping secrets away from him but the thing is we’re not dating anymore so it really shouldn’t even matter whatsoever so he responded by saying oh so we’re keeping secrets now I said I’m not trying to keep secrets it’s just that I know who you are as a person and your going to get offended once i tell you because the comment could be a good or a bad thing depending on how my ex boyfriend would’ve took it but I decided not to repeat it so I told him to ask his friend instead of me so he was like so atp I’m not even going to ask anymore Because your keeping secrets

[ohsheeT]

Well like I said I think your it's kind of really good you have a good head on your shoulders you sound like a very passionate you're very caring and giving person with your heart so I know the inside of you is beautiful and I'm sure the outside is just all the extra bonus but you can already see the drama that it's started most of the time when your ex's friends want to get you a pick up on you is because your ex has said things about you that you have done together or blah blah blah you know what I mean so they're looking at you as an easy target in a roundabout way I mean I can't tell you what to do I mean life is an experience you have to experience it I just don't want you to go through it with a broken heart for a while if something was to happen and I would almost guarantee something will happen you will have the drama on your with your ex and then with your ex's friend the new guy but I would almost guarantee that guy went last more than 2 weeks anyway you said something about girl's code well guys have a code too and if you're a good friend first of all you don't talk bad about them and second of all you don't try to go out with their EX that's just not right it's just not cool so I look at it like that if the dude's talking about your ex badly trying to make himself look good and then trying to date his ex-girlfriend there's just it's not going to end well I don't think but like I said it's your heart you need to find out yourself I mean there's a big big planet out there there's better guys than that guy that's for sure he's already telling you who he is and what he's all about just by trying to date you and what he's doing or saying about your ex he's just not that good of a person I don't think and from what I've read from you I just think that you're a much better person than that and

[Asker]

Thank you because I am very much passionate and very caring and I have a good heart. But lately I have been just not talking to him because we were cool as in friends but i just never had to deal with it experience a person a boy at that getting that much of upset or catching some sort of attitude with me just because I said that It’s going to come down to a situation where you can’t date me or try to be Fuck buddies or anything because he felt the need to say oh I can be your main or your side and I’m just like no that’s not going to happen whatsoever because once again for the last time your are my ex boyfriend homie/friend and as far as in me he’s like literally raising his voice on the phone and it’s 3 am in the morning and he’s like bruh your ex doesn’t give Af your ex doesn’t give Af so stop saying that he kept repeating it over over again y’all aren’t together so he don’t care if me and you was to have something going on or not and I’m just like atp your disrespectful asf and you don’t understand bro code whatsoever and you don’t have no respect for no one not eve yourself and then he tried to used the excuse oh I know your ex but I don’t know him like that because me and him just started being homies last year and I was like dude it doesn’t matter how long y’all have been friends at the end of the day y’all are homies and I am his ex girlfriend so their for me and you are not going to be having anything going on either we can continue to be friends or don’t be anything at this point and it’s funny how he said damn near like 2 months ago oh I don’t want you and this and that but I knew he was lying because me and him don’t follow each other in Instagram anymore and he literally stalks my page every day that I post on Instagram and I never watched his story or stalks his page and then he was getting upset because I wouldn’t follow him back like no it’s going to happen

[ohsheeT]

That's your smartest move ever I mean everything that you just told me was one big giant giant big red flag for him to getting pissed off for him raising his voice for him trying to tell you what he's going to do that's all he's trying to do is control you to get what he wants I wouldn't even answer the phone if he called anymore he's nothing but a problem for you he's going to be nothing but a problem for you and why in the world would you want anybody to treat you like that you haven't even started dating and he's already treating you like that that guy is a total jackass sorry that is your friend for calling him that

But any guy that was being honest with you or serious with you would never ever treat you the way he just treated you that is crazy I wouldn't even want him in my life he's nothing but trouble and more trouble and more trouble

[ohsheeT]

You need to find a guy that will treat you like a woman like a queen that has passion and desire that wants to melt you in so many different ways who doesn't get upset at all about anything you can read or see or feel the situation

[ChillaxingLove]

He’s shown you his character flaw. He isn’t loyal enough to respect his own friend, how well will he respect you when you are with him.

[Asker]

I agree with this answer as well. He’s most definitely not loyal and he does not have any respect for no one not even himself and like I said he doesn’t understand what bro code is

[Asker]

And he claims my ex doesn’t give af but in reality it’s weird and it’s disrespectful asf and no one should ever do that and plus my ex boyfriend along with his homies keep asking me where do I work at

[Anonymous]

Sounds like you hang around some really wonderful people.

[Guy13]

I’m not following 🤷🏻‍♂️

[Asker]

The whole situation is just weird

[Asker]

He’s basically mad cause I won’t fw him the way he wants it to happen but I told him like at the end of the day your my ex boyfriend friend so their for I’m not going for that and then he caught an attitude and said oh your ex doesn’t give af so why are you even mentioning him and I said at the end of the day whether he cares or not I care

[Guy13]

I think he is a little sensitive to be honest 🤷🏻‍♂️ Can’t do much with that but NOT talk about Past