My ex-boyfriend (20) and I (21) have been talking for about 4 months but we only went out for 3 weeks after he asked me to be his girlfriend. He broke up with me 3 days ago and he said it was because he rushed into the relationship too fast and that he wasn't ready to be in a relationship.
He also said he was very sorry. 4 hours before we broke up we went to have lunch cause I told him I wanted to talk. I just wanted to talk about why he has been distant for the past 2 days and he said it was because he was busy with school and work.
I asked him honestly if he was losing interest in me and he said multiple times that he was still interested in me and that I hadn't done anything wrong. After we had lunch we kissed, said I love you, and then he went to see his best friend for a few hours and shortly after seeing his best friend, he texted me that he wanted to go on a short walk after my class. He broke up with me on this short walk.
Part of me thinks there is more to it that he isn't telling me. Everything felt like it was going well. He was my first boyfriend and he knew I never dated anyone before. He was my first kiss and first cuddle. We also had a serious conversation before we started dating, like expectations, so it wasn't like we just immediately started dating.
Every day since we broke up when I post stories on Instagram he looks at all of them. He is always the first one to open my stories. Doesn't matter what time of day he is always the first to see my stories.
I still harbor feelings for him and if he wanted to get back together right now I would probably say yes. Part of me wishes he comes back to me and the other part of me wishes I could get over him for how he hurt me and my trust.
I know I am probably overthinking this but I just wonder what does it mean?
I'm going to try my best to treat this situation with grace and treat him kindly.
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Looking at your stories means nothing. You girls take that shit way too seriously.
maybe at 51 years old it means nothing but for my generation, little things like that mean a lot. We are the generation of overthinking on stupid little social media things hate to say it! lol
Wrong, maybe girls of your generation do, but I promise most guys do not gaf about it. And if they do, they certainly don't value it as much as girls. Girls assume that guys think and value the same things as them. This is where most get it wrong.
I've asked several guys around my age and they all say the same thing. It's strange he's always the first to view my stories.
I really doubt that you asked 'several guys' about it, but whatever. If you want to think all that means something then go ahead. You will just end up disappointed.
sounds like he is interested in other girls at school
He has only dated girls inside of the church he goes to. I actually didn't go to his church but now I do and I plan to continue going despite the fact we broke up because I started to like the church he goes to as well. He has only dated 3 girls and each one broke up with him after they dated for 3 months. He told me this before we started dating,
maybe he is distant for religious reasons
I think so... We might of rush to fast with the kissing and cuddling and he's tryna put a pause on it and find his way back. Maybe this is something we need?