Is this dude being an arrogant asshole or no? because I can’t tell sometimes it feels like that but I don't know?

[Anonymous]

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1 y

Yeah he’s this really popular TikToker and motocross dude

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1 y

I just feel super stupid I realized I was initiating most conversations and he was never asking any questions about me etc I was doing everything and then when I talked about meeting him to hangout he’s all I haven’t even seen you nude yet

[WonderBell99]

I can only provide you with a better answer if you provide us with more context. I have a few questions

- why did you feel like he was ghosting you?

- next time, when someone is being distant, match their vibe. don’t say stuff like: “I’m always here if you want to chat” or “oooff I totally thought you were ghosting me, lol” that just comes across as though you’ve been waiting for him and that you would always be there even if he makes the conscious decision of stringing you along.

It might have just been bad timing as he said. We cannot predict anything and we certainly are not mind readers.

Are you romantically interested in him?

[Asker]

He left me on delivered 3 times and only talked to me when I reached out and I don't know found out he has a girlfriend

[WonderBell99]

Were you flirting before? It might just be that he wants to respect his relationship with his girlfriend and not get romantically entangled with any other woman. I’d strongly advice you to nip this in the bud. Block him, and move on. As harsh at this sounds, you need to hear this.

[WonderBell99]

And the fact that he left you on delivered 3 times is a tell tale sign that he is not interested.

[Asker]

Yeah we were sending nudes and telling me what he wanted to do to me etc

[WonderBell99]

he has a girlfriend.. and he’s cheating on her. yeah, no. that is not the type of man you want to associate yourself with because of two reasons:

- you never know how this could backfire on you. his girlfriend might find out about this affair one day and may go bonkers. people do crazy shit when they’re angry.

- you’ll get terribly hurt if you get entangled (emotionally, physically and sexually) with someone who’s already taken. he’s never going to leave his girlfriend for you, and if he does; I assure you 100% that he would cheat on you again.

End this by blocking his ass. He got what he wanted, and he is just stringing you along. He thinks he could get your nudes whenever he likes because he is keeping you hooked by using the oldest trick in the book - he chats with you once in a while and says really heartwarming stuff, but when he gets what he wants, he leaves you on read. He will hit you up again when he’s horny.. this is just a constant cycle of manipulation and you getting used by him. this is not good for you emotionally. please find someone better who would love and appreciate you for who you are.. someone who is not a cheater

[WonderBell99]

And yes, he is an arrogant asshole that you need to block.

[WonderBell99]

With reference to your update.. it does not matter how popular he is or what he does for a living. He could be the richest person on earth but have a shitty personality but is he the relationship material? Absolutely not.

[Asker]

My responses went as a status update lol

[Asker]

And yeah I think he does this with a lot of girls

[WonderBell99]

Ask yourself this question, do you REALLY want to be with this crappy guy when you could do so much better than him? He is not even doing the bare MINIMUM.

[Vegasrunner]

@wonderbell99 That's a falsehood women tell themselves and other women to make themselves feel better. She probably can't get w/ a higher status man than him which is why she is chasing him.

[WonderBell99]

@Vegasrunner I don’t remember asking for your opinion.

[Vegasrunner]

@wonderbell99 That sounds like a personal problem. When I read something stupid I typically respond, and your comment was stupid. This guys "crappy" because he doesn't want her? GTFOH. Reality is the guy has options and she's low on them. How do you know she "can do better" when you dont know anything about either person involved? She could look like a sea donkey for all you know. I tell men all the time if a woman really likes you you dont need to "do" anything this is just another example of this. Like most women she's led by emotion and her emotions and ego won't let her accept the fact that this man proably has higher value women in his orbit. Instead of teaching her how to actually retain a man like this your providing the same dumb ass advice that has so many women single and alone in their 30's and 40's.

[WonderBell99]

@Vegasrunner Again, that is MY opinion. If it’s stupid, why the fuck are you even taking out the time to respond? So you clearly do care. Besides, you are the one out giving shitty advice (or lack thereof). That guy is a piece of shit for cheating on his girlfriend with multiple women and the asker is also in the wrong for entertaining him. Basically, BOTH are in the wrong.

[Vegasrunner]

@wonderbell99 Um, now you also can't read? I never said anything about not caring, I clearly said when I read a stupid comment I typically respond. Your comment was stupid at best, at worse it's destructive advice, I'll give you the benefit of the doubt because your a child and dont have any real life experience but in the real world men who have options are going to entertain them. If you think this guy or any guy for that matter works his ass off to settle for one chick, then you are clinically insane and I've got a bridge to sell you. The fact that this girl is openly chasing him only goes to validate that fact. You're still young enough to believe in fairytales but you have to grow up soon.

[WonderBell99]

@Vegasrunner Again, I don't care. I'm plenty sure I would find a *monogamous* man to get into a long-term relationship with. There are plenty of those out there... good luck being alone for the rest of your life.

[WonderBell99]

I don't believe in fairytales either

[Vegasrunner]

@wonderbell99 I never mentioned anything about "being alone" sounds like that's something you're struggling w/ rn. So if you can't even find a man to committ to you do you think you're the best person to be giving relationship advice?

[Vegasrunner]

@wonderbell99 Your responses prove otherwise

[Flunkerdunk]

I was going to say this is pretty normal and he is just being sarcastic, but he is really busy... Something along those lines at least..

That was until I read your update, ha!

Popular and rides dirtbikes? You initiated almost all conversations? (yellow flags)

"when I talked about meeting him to hangout he’s all I haven’t even seen you nude yet" (RED FLAG)

You ma'am (I believe, based on personal experience) are the side chick. That is why you felt "super stupid" when you noticed you were doing all the work and he barely ask or cares about anything other than your "nudes". I think you know deep down what is going on but I'm going to guess that this guy is pretty physically attractive, right?

(I could be totally wrong, but this screams familiarity for me on the "other end" of situations like this, but correct me if I'm wrong)

[Asker]

I found him attractive yes but now not so much I guess because I’m seeing him for who he really is but I don't know I got my feelings caught up in all of it now I’m trying to detach

[Pot8o]

Imagine you're shopping for a house. You go to view one that's really promising. When you arrive, your eyes bulging, you can't hide the fact that this is the house of your dreams, and you proceed to tell the seller "This house is amazing, I bet I can't afford it, it's too expensive for me, right? I'd do anything to live in this house but I bet you're gonna sell to someone else, aren't you?"

How do you think your evident desperation to buy this house would affect the price you're offered? Consider that the seller has hundreds of other potential buyers lined up.

This is not a great analogy, but I think you're selling yourself short by second-guessing and doubting yourself and seeking validation from the object of your desire.

[SomewhereElse]

So I read your responses to @wonderbell99 and she is 100% right with her advice. Block this guy and go work on your self-esteem. This is painful to read. Never sell yourself short like that again, and learn to match effort in the future. Never send nudes unless you are cool with them ending up all over the place. To answer the title question, not sure if he is arrogant but he is 100% an asshole for cheating on his girlfriend.

[WonderBell99]

Agreed

[FilmGuy93]

doesn’t sound very arrogant to me. It just sounds like he’s living his life.

[Vegasrunner]

No he's not being arrogant and I'm glad you shared this as it is more proof that men shouldn't be chasing women if they want to be successful w/ them this guy has done his work on his image and career and now he can sit back and decide which chick he wants to spend his time with.

[Pot8o]

Heard Jordan Peterson say something similar recently, and I respectfully disagree. This approach comes with the risk of spending your life perfecting things that women don't actually care about. Like guys who go overboard with fitness or even their career. You should strive to get feedback from women as often as possible, and the best way to do that is to chase them. This should tell you what matters and what doesn't.

[Pot8o]

Also, I'd wager that most chicks that worship famous dudes aren't exactly nines and tens.

[Still-alive]

I dont see anything arrogant about this…

maybe a tad insecure but it happens

[Asker]

Me or him? Lol

[Still-alive]

Either. I see nothing ‘arrogant’ here. You’re overthinking this

[Asker]

I don't know he left me on delivered like 3 times lol and he don’t reach out unless I do? So I’m assuming he don’t like me then I said arrogant cause that’s what everyone is telling me he’s being lol

[Asker]

I don’t understand his last text though what does he mean with timing

[Still-alive]

He probably doesn’t like you like you hope he does. I say move on

[Asker]

That’s what I though haha he only txts me back when I text first but responds right away so I don't know super odd

[DermalPunch]

Never pursue a man.

[jimmy2]

Stay away from him he toxic