Is he an asshole or i'm overreacting?

[Iwantvictory126]

So there's this guy in college, who used to be close. When we got introduced to each other, I was pretty slender- however I started putting weight on due to depression. It was very drastic however I started losing weight and when I told my friend that I lost some weight he said "I hope you lose another 50 kg (sarcastically), and I did not even put on that amount of weight, so I stopped talking to him from about a week ago, and this morning he texted me saying "why aren't you answering me" so I just want to make sure that I'm on the right track and that I'm not overreacting because it makes me feel that I am so yeah.. what do I do?

Yes, very rude

No, you're overreacting

[Punkbuster107]

He is very rude, but I wouldn't cut him from your life.

Someone needs to tell him how hurtful that was, so he knows not to do it again. I'd tell him how you feel, and give him a chance to apologize, learn from his mistake, and make it up to you.

If we exiled everyone who did something wrong, nobody would ever improve.

Look at what he did as an immaturity, not something he said with the intention of hurting you. Ask yourself how you would respond to the situation if you had a child who made the same mistake. Maybe his education on women is lacking.

[Iwantvictory126]

I actually told him that he should quit joking but he didn't. It wasn't the first time he had tried to make me feel bad about myself.. i know im not the body type he likes (aka curvy), but for him to say that i need to lose 50 kilos when I jumped from 54 to 75? Is he even serious? Regardless, I agree to every word you have said 👍🏼

[Punkbuster107]

Ah, well thats really thick or him to keep joking when you told him to stop! He must have no idea how serious you were! Some guys think everything is a joke, and haven't learned how to listen and act maturely, I fear. He sounds like a real mess 🙄

[Punkbuster107]

I do hope he learns to behave though, or his ignorance may keep ruining his friendships, and hurting girls indefinitely 😕

[Iwantvictory126]

I figured he's being somewhat stupid about it. He's not taking any of this seriously

[Punkbuster107]

Sure sounds like it.

[Faraz_cybgamer]

The thing is that most boys who are close to girls say sarcastic stuff like that... it doesn't mean that they really mean those stuff.. We boys just like to tease you girls by saying sarcastic stuff like that sometimes but we don't mean it.. You got triggered and just took his words to your heart lady!

[Faraz_cybgamer]

It might be an irritating and new thing for you as a girl but we boys are used to it.. even we talk sarcastically mocking each other boys but we're cool with it and nobody gets offended... sometimes when we get hurt by their sarcasm, then we intelligently mock them in the same way too.

You did wrong by stopped talking with him... if you really hate his sarcastic talking habit then just say that to his face!

Tell him that you were hurt last time when he didn't complimented you after you lost some weight!

[Iwantvictory126]

No, i'm usually very confident about my looks even if I have put on weight. But I just felt that he was belittling me for that. Especially that I put on around 20 kilos and not 50!

[Iwantvictory126]

I wasn't hurt. He was rude. I told him I didn't like the attitude, and he just continued to be sarcastic. Thinking it was okay to make fun of the issue.

[Faraz_cybgamer]

Yeah but I agree with you on that.. he shouldn't have made those remarks about your weight like that. Personally, if my friend comes to me telling he/she lost weight then I would compliment them and encourage them to become more fit and healthy instead of discouraging like that.

Sarcastic replies are good and I like them too but sometimes they led to a person's low self-esteem and discouragment..

[Faraz_cybgamer]

No that wasn't okay!! He shouldn't have said that... If he knew that you didn't liked that then he should have stopped talking to you like that. That's absurd! 😕

[Iwantvictory126]

That's the point :/

[tootielynn]

depends, was he joking when he said it? me personally I dont think you're overreacting people spend so much time trying to make others feel uncomfortable in their own skin that it isn't funny. tell him how u feel and that he hurt your feelings if he's a true friend he will apologize and understand

[Apoka]

It was just a dumb joke. I would've reacted the same way since saying that is very rude, however, I wouldn't cut him out of my life just because of that. Tell him that you were hurt by his stupid joke, maybe he'll apologize and hopefully everything will be alright after that

[XRabbitHeartX]

I can't believe people saying you are overreacting. That is a fcking rude thing to say to someone. Decent people know you dont say nasty things about someone's weight omg.

[Wurdom]

Couldn't agree more

[Iwantvictory126]

I'm also not the kind of person who'd hurt anyone. I told him to quite his stupid attitude and he just continued to!!

[XRabbitHeartX]

His parents didn't raise him with manners. Move along dear and dont hold your breath for someone like that.

[Iwantvictory126]

👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼

[BrittBratt2416]

Yeah that was uncalled for, but it was being sarcastic which probably meant he didn't think you really needed to lose that much weight

[Iwantvictory126]

Even when i told him to stop and he didn't?

[BrittBratt2416]

O well then yeah he was being kinda rude about it especially if you didn't weigh that much to begin with. I don't know, has he said anything?

[Iwantvictory126]

No, he's just trying to talk to me and he's like are you sad i told you that? He didn't even gave me an adequate apology. He's like doing the bare minimum (im really not asking for much), but apologizing for this stuff should not be over text

[BrittBratt2416]

Well don't wait for him to apologize, just keep don't let bother you any further. I'm sure he didn't mean to hurt your feelings though.. maybe let it pass this one time?

[hippie23]

My guess is that it may be a very poor attempt at a joke. Has he said things like this in the past, or is it the first time? Have you discussed with him how that comment made you feel?

[Iwantvictory126]

No but he has definitely tried to make me feel bad about my body (because I'm curvy). anyway, i told him that i didn't like his attitude this time, but he didn't care..

[hippie23]

He is an asshole then.

[artie1983]

How are you overreacting? He was a twat pure and simple. If he knew you even slightly, he would have known how you were feeling and hearing a comment like that wouldn't have helped

[Wurdom]

You are not overreacting. That is not something a guy should joke about

[Iwantvictory126]

I thought so too! I told the guy that I didn't like the attitude, but he continued anyway. I'm not even 50 kilos overweight, I just put on 20 and lost 16. Unbelievable!

[Blonde401]

Rude as fuck. In future, don't discuss your weight with anyone. It's nobodies business! I'd tell him that he was being rude. He might not know.

[Iwantvictory126]

Told him, he still continued to act like an asshole.. we were supposed to be close so i thought it was okay to discuss it! But you're definitely right👍🏼

[Blonde401]

Ah sack him off then. Ain't got time for 'friends' like that.

[Iwantvictory126]

Yeah good point!👍🏼

[Penged]

he is rude. but some people dont realize their jokes are retarded. if he apologizes to you and makes up for it, you should forgive him. after all people always make mistakes 😊

[PartialisticMan]

i chose overreacting but its somewhere in the middle

[splashofyellow]

Honestly, I think you're overreacting. He just made a stupid joke.

[Cosomica]

He was rude to you.. So you are totally not overreacting

[Totally_A_Dude]

He was trying to make a joke, but he really screwed up. I don't think he meant it.

[TacosRAwesome]

He was rude. But maybe he didbt mean any harm. Still you should tell him his comment was hurtful.

[Anonymous]

You're overreacting. After all you yourself said it was sarcastic.

[Iwantvictory126]

No, wait. The situation wasn't sarcastic. HE was being sarcastic about ME.

[Opinion Owner]

Yes, but it doesn't sound like he actuall meant it. I guess it depends on the relationship you two have.

[Iwantvictory126]

Yes. Especially when i told him to stop. I know he's not fond of my body type and weight, but that doesn't give him ANY right to make fun of it. He knows this is not okay!!

[Opinion Owner]

From the post I understood he said only one thing, I guess I've misunderstood. Then it's rude, but guys don't really know where to stop

[koltepreetam]

you are doing it right

[Anonymous]

He was attracted to you while thin, not so much when overweight

[CT_CD]

No, you're overreacting

[Arya_Christ]

he was just kidding lol.

[disgustingweebtrash]

No, you're overreacting

[Anonymous]

Overreacting