What should she watch out for? When it comes to guys? This could be about when a random guy approaches her or if a potentially problematic guy tries to date her etc.


What should she watch out for? When it comes to guys? This could be about when a random guy approaches her or if a potentially problematic guy tries to date her etc.


This is a tough one. The chest-thumping, strutting ass holes who treat women like dirt are the ones they are most attracted to. I call this the “myth of women’s intuition.” Small children and dogs have amazing instincts. Women seem inexplicably drawn to the worst men. The ones who really like thugs should start a support group called “Future Battered Wives of America.”
Here are a few basics.
1) A fancy car is a sign of ego, not wealth. This is especially the case with younger men. It may just show he’s a spoiled rich kid. And, while women are drawn to men in sports cars, remember someone driving a Corvette is about 36 times as likely to kill you in an accident a man driving a Volvo is.
A new Mercedes may mean wealth, but more likely represents a $70,000 debt on a car that was worth $55,000 when he got home.
Gold diggers are chasing some of the brokest men in town.
I’ve left art auctions with the contents of the trunk being worth more than the car.
2) If your dog doesn’t like someone, especially an otherwise friendly dog, ask questions! When my brother brought his future ex-wife home to meet the family, our dog scowled at him and raised his leg to her luggage.
3) A bar is a great place to meet alcoholics looking for one night stands. I’ve been out on one date in my life with a woman I met at a bar. She was an employee. She said men normally ask what she’s doing at 4:00 AM when she gets off work. They don’t normally ask her what her day off is. When she asked if she could meet me at the restaurant, I gave her directions. She told me later that was an attempt to get rid of men. Men usually want a captive audience.
I guess you could use her technique.
4) Follow the Muhammad Ali Rule. He said he doesn’t trust anyone who’s rude to the waiter. He figured they would treat him the same way if he wasn’t in his position.
The way he treats the waiter or waitress on your first date is how he will treat you in six months.
5) (Maybe this should be 4B) The way he talks about his ex-girlfriends will be the way he talks about you in six months.
6) You’re not going to change him. If you don’t like him the way he is, don’t go out with him.
7) Being under six feet tall is not a character flaw.
8) The reason there are so many fuck boys out there is women keep fucking them. If they’re getting what they’re looking for, they have no reason to change. Also, many believe personalities are genetic, sex can lead to pregnancy and you’re breeding more fuck boys.
I might add 9 and 10 later.
Constant compliments, frequently buying you jewelry (those two are often signs he is cheating and is distracting her with excessive compliments or frequent gifts of shiny things. Seriously, that usually is the case.
Has a past of casual sex (he won't be faithful long term).
Drug use, or heavy alcohol drinking.
Is a democrat/liberal. (He won't be a good person morally for you or for your future kids).
Stays in contact with any ex.
Has kids from a past relationship. (child support expenses and drama from an ex).
No job.
No car.
No place.
Smokes
Does drugs
Love bombing
Female bestfriend
Flirts with everyone
Doesn't let you meet his friends or family
Doesn't post about you on his social media
I’d agree on nine out of ten. I keep my private life private and don’t post much on social media. The college I went to was the world’s biggest gossip mill, so I generally wouldn’t tell people if I had a date.
There are exceptions to every rule; but this is just a red flag warning of possible danger ahead.
Another amusing exception: a former roommate had a female best friend. This concerned new girlfriends until they met her. She was about the ugliest woman who has ever lived.
If he tries to get you somewhere alone with him off the bat, he is not to be trusted.
I invited a woman out to a steak dinner and she asked if she could drive herself and meet me out there. I gave her directions.
She later told me that was an effort to get rid of me. Most men want a captive audience and turn down that request.
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1. Listen to the "funny" stories his friends tell you about him for any stories about his temper. That temper WILL be directed at you one day.
2. Dirty, untrimmed finger nails. It's just gross.
3. If you see your guy getting a little too emotional about something small going wrong in his life; run.
If I'm warning a girl on how to avoid getting used
- Hold back sex, a guy who genuinely likes you will still really like and probably like you more for this. A guy who gets impatient was never genuinely into you.
- Ask to meet his parents and friends, a guy who genuinely like you won't mind introducing you, however a guy just after sex short-term won't want to bother making such complications.
I wouldn't introduce mine till were practically living in each others pocket s, theyre embarrassing and my mum can put me down
@Monalisa77: I probably didn't think that through, as I was always dating a girl a couple of months before introducing her to my parents, family and friends.
Sounds like you don't get along well with your mum.
Partly the reason why i probably haven't had a boyfriend before now and why I've no friends, she never enxourages me to speak to people when were out and when she's met my friends she takes over and they talk to her all the time
*when i did havw some before
@Monalisa77 What age are you? It sounds like she is a dominant personality.
Its on my profile:) she never listens
@Monalisa77: Oh okay. And you've never had a boyfriend yet? Are you living at home at the moment?
Yep I've got millions and one health issues and need help daily, but i believe a lot of my pain is anxiety which could get better with a better social life, when im at work its not half as bad as when im at home
@Monalisa77 Sorry to hear that about your health.
1. Arrogant/Aggressiveness. There are some guys you. d be careful of in a bar. Girls seem to like arrogant guys but it will bite them. Arrogance can become aggressiveness and certainly entitlement ie entitled to sex with other girls.
2. Boastfull. They'll bs you as they are used to lying and therefore good at it. Somewhat related to point 1 but with a need to prove it.
3 Ineffectual. They'll never get anywhere with anything.
4 Drugs drinking
Well, I did warned my long distance ex of 3y about her new boyfriend—she actually get to know him. All that happened some years ago. To make it short, she explained, without much details, how her boyfriend was pressuring her to dress in certain way, and advising her not to dye her hair, because it was harmful. Also, she explained about her dad running him from his house—at the time she still lived with her parents. Now, I have no clue, but I am glad to advice her a bit and encourage her to speak it out with her sister, instead of me.
One thing I tell everyone dealing with hard things in relationships is that repetitive behavior is just that. When people claim they will fix issues or stop doing something they do, they won’t. I’d also tell them to make sure you enjoy spending time together, but also make time for your own time…. It’s all about balance. And obviously communicate, but make sure it works.
When I see people that are unhappy it’s usually something that’s just ongoing. Like verbal abuse. Cheating, lying….. those things never seem to get fixed.
I would say just trust yourself if he seems like a player, he probly is if he seems like he is into guys he probably is don't set urself up for a heartache later
Thank you so much for your comment :)
It's really quite simple. There is really only one red flag. And that is sex.
If he tries to get anything sexual from you, it's a red flag. If he tries to put you in any unsafe situation where he could potentially get something sexual from you, it's a red flag.
@Jamie05rhs. So a man wanting sex is a red flag, got it. 😏😏😏.
@KrakenAttackin No. Not WANTING sex. I said trying to HAVE sex!
@Jamie05rhs. Just stop talking.
@KrakenAttackin Lol. What's the problem?
Regardless of what I say, girls are still gonna chase bad men.
But if they would listen to you, what would you tell them? I am truly curious to know
Judge a guy by his behavior, not his words, and by his behavior towards others in general, not just towards yourself.
So many women validate selfish assholes who hurt other people because "he treats me like a princess".
I'm sure he does, but he's still extremely harmful to society and it would be better if his lineage went extinct.
Thank you for your advice, I honestly hope the women in your live do give you a listen.
My mother and grandmother were among those people whose “lineage should go extinct.” My mother was one of four children, I’m one of six grandchildren and there is one great-grandchild. She’s about to turn 28, unmarried, and so lazy and sorry I can’t see anyone wanting to marry her. We may have succeeded.
One of mine would be easily distracted, playing on their phone instead of talking to you
Also showering you with compliment s and constantly saying sorry
I would tell her never take relationship Advice from a women go find a trusted make relative that isn't trying to fuck you to get advice from.
I would tell her to ignore really Confident Guys, But it's highly unlikely She would listen.
I think thats a bit unfair, nothing wrong with being confident
@Monalisa77 Most of the Confident Guys I have met in my life have been rude to me and I have also seen some of them cheat and use Women and most of the Shy Guys I have met have always been nice to everyone including me.
Yes thats my fear but i dont think theyd all be like that
@Monalisa77 Trust me, Most of the Shy Guys I have met have been really Nice and Good Guys and Caring and they haven't been rude to me.
Exactly the guy I like is confident but comes across as caring as well
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