Why does he not tell me important stuff?

[Anonymous]

We have been dating for 3 years. We got engaged at the beginning of the year. Prior to all of this, he lied about being married to his ex wife. They got divorced in May of this year. They have a daughter together. He has a daughter (oldest) with another woman who is married. He does not see the oldest daughter or talk with her. I have a baby with him as well. He doesn’t want his middle daughter with his ex wife to know that she has a little sister. He takes down her pictures when she visits with him. We don’t live together but lately, when I talk to his mom, she tells me that he talks with his ex wife and he has been seeing his daughter. He does not tell me about when he has his daughter or talk to his ex wife. Talking and seeing his daughter is not a problem. I feel we should be able to talk since we are engaged. The only reason I know is because his mom tells me when he talks to his ex wife or has his daughter. Lately, my baby has been looking for her daddy and I call him to tell him but conversations are very brief because he is tired, working, or busy from working two jobs. He doesn’t try to spend time with me, accuse me of cheating, call me out of my name and cancel on our plans that we have. Should i try talking to him again or move forward by letting him go?

[Pyrofox]

To me the main question that needs answering is what happens when the youngest kid discovers they have two older half siblings? 🧐🤔... And what if they met without his permission?

As to the whole being too busy I feel like ya need to put your foot down if he doesn't have the time to spend it with you and the kids and find a peaceful resolution to the whole kids situation. There's been enough wrenches thrown and dodged it's about time to just focus on the overall family.

[Asker]

You’re totally correct. That’s another conversation he has been dodging. He tells our baby that we have together she has siblings. While the others don’t know about her. One day I just told him to stop telling her she have sisters and let her think she is an only child since she isn’t going to meet them. Eventually she’s going to have questions.

[Pyrofox]

🤔my question is what if the kids circumvent the dad in the equation. Kids are a lot smarter than what parents give them credit for lol.

[Anonymous]

Oof. Sounds like you're going to be another member of his growing list of baby mamas. He seems like a dick

[Guy13]

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[Asker]

He never tells me when he talk to his ex wife or see his daughter. He hides it from me

[Guy13]

Wow, yeah that's an issue. Why does he not involve you over time. What a red flag. I would have a very tough time not getting loud over that. That's pretty devastating to me...