How would you let a shy woman, without talking, know that you are interested in her?

[Anonymous]

I'm not good at taking hints if a man likes me. And I think that's why men only stare at me.

[Aelleden]

It's impossible unless you know she's shy.
If I know you and I know you're shy then I can just try and make you more comfortable and relaxed but if I don't know you, I'm not gonna assume that you're shy and that;s why you're not taking hints.

[Asker]

Oh yeah that explains a lot. Sorry didn't think that through. I'm always been bullied so for me it's something new flirting and all that haha

[Aelleden]

Getting hints is always a challenge at first, i think we all struggled at one point don't worry.
Also some guys are very much harder to read than others, I think I'm myself much much harder to read in that regard, I never show when I'm interested ahah, don't ask me why tho, cause I have no clue.
Are you more comfortable by text then for these?

[Aelleden]

And I think I can very much relate to "that's why girls only stare at me" ahah

[Asker]

Yeah exactly!! That's what makes it hard for me to read others and I don't wanna read into too much. Yeah I am more comfortable by text. It is soo much easier and then I get to know them better so I know if I understand their feelings towards me

[Asker]

Me too! I can't behave right or give hints at that moment. I just get awkward, act as if I haven't seen anything and it's a normal day. It's also because most are from my home place so I just don't feel okay to start a conversation 😂😂

[Aelleden]

So what do you usually do when a guy you like stares at you?

[Aelleden]

It could be a cultural thing actually aswell, I'm from France but I live in Canada now and I noticed flirting is extremelly different here than it was when I was in my native country. May I ask where you are from/live?

[Asker]

Well my first thoughts are like "well maybe I look weird..", "they stare at my boobs", or "someone is behind me right?". Then I look behind me and act as if I've seen nothing 🤣😂 I just don't get what the stare means so I'm afraid to react to it

[Asker]

Omg so amazing that is possible for you! I hope you have good days there. I didn't know it could be that different in these places. Oh I live in the Netherlands!

[Aelleden]

Bruuh I'm exactly like you lol
When I walk past girls and they stare at me I never know why xD
or if I'm in public transports and they would stare at my crotch, I don't know what to do, I act like I didn't see her staring or stuff like that.

[Aelleden]

Wait actually I think I know why you're like that, but I'm not confortable talking about it openly lke that with people reading (cause I'm concerned too) Do you mind sending me a pm? I'd be quite funny if you were actually like I think you are ahah

[Asker]

Omg I get that soo much. I understand why you react like that. Yeah sure! Let's talk there. PM me ! 😇

[Asker]

I can't send a pm because I don't have a high level for that. Do you want me to follow you?

[Aelleden]

I can't PM you because you asked your question anonymously, try following me or yeah let's figure it out

[Anonymous]

Why would I do that? If she's too lazy to even make an effort?

[Asker]

Not too lazy but I mean more like, doubting herself because she is shy. So having thoughts like "is that a good sign? Is that meant for me?"