Does anyone know how I can be seen as tough or what people call a "bad boy"? No matter what I do people think I'm soft. Why is that?

[starberry149]

Right now I am in college. I've been getting money by doing gigs as model for a few years now. I actually make pretty good money, but I'm not stupid enough to dropout. I know modeling isn't a career that last forever. I do better than most college students. I have an Instagram with a couple thousand followers (I won't post it on here for spamming violation.) Most of my money comes from my gigs though. That was just a little background info. People usually refer to me as a pretty boy. I am muscular with a Sixpack but slim at the same. (I'm still not intimidating. People often compare me to a Ken doll.) The problem is that for some strange reason people often try to take advantage of me and automatically assume I'm a push over. When I am in line at the dining hall someone might cut in front of me. I'll tell them to move but they won't listen. (I noticed there were plenty of other people that they could have cut in front of but out of everyone they chose me.) One of my friends ask me for money when he needs help sometimes and I usually give it to him. One day he asked me for some money, but I only had my card on me and no cash. I told him I couldn't give it to him right now. He got mad at me and left. There was this girl that would come around and ask me for a little money for food. I usually helped her but one day I didn't have cash on me. She told me I was lying before left with an attitude. Someone that I was cool with needed money for textbooks I let him borrow a few hundred dollars. He told me he would pay me back but he never did. I asked him to pay me back a few times. He said he would but then he ghosted me. I notice that people get shocked if I stand up for myself. I attempted to pull off a bad boy persona and dress like one. People saw right through it. A group of girl I spoke to said I was so shy and cute. I never heard any describe a bad boy like that. People still scouted me out to ask for money. How do I break out of this soft persona. It sucks.

[SueShe]

If your basic attitude and personality does not match the one of a bad boy, you can try as much as you want, you will not succeed.

Furthermore, refusing to be stepped on by everyone is not a sign of being a bad boy. It is called fighting for your rights. You don't need to give money to everyone that asks for it because that will give you the image of a person that can be misused. By not giving money or favors, you only indicate that you don't let others dictate your behavior.

Your entire attitude, character and personality is what makes people believe that you are a soft boy and will never be a bad boy. You cannot change what is deeply rooted in you. You may temporarily give the impression of a bad boy but you cannot change the soft core in yourself.

[WhitneySnow]

Stop giving people money and they’ll stop asking for it. And you’re lucky. You’re super good looking and a model. You should be able to get a certain type of girl no prob. Maybe more than that if you also have a genuinely nice personality. But yeah def stop lending people money and they’ll stop trying to take advantage of you.

[Guy13]

You are too young, probably extravert from this dissertation post, overly communicative, and naturally sweet. You’re screwed as your personality does not allow you to be mysterious bad boy.
—People can sense when someone is trying to be something they are not, Usually, when this happens, people think that guy is strange, creepy, or a joke.

[Guy13]

Make sense⁉️

[starberry149]

It does. I wish I could figure something out though.

[Guy13]

If you are naturally polite and well raised it is hard to mysterious. Mysterious people will purposefully miss a date, may or may not say sorry, does not give a reason but sets agenda or reschedules in a commanding Man way. That’s the “good side” of mysterious and enough to keep them interested until the darker side is evidenced once but not fully…your date will guess and make it into whatever they want.-At this point, you learn the level of Mystery required for the individual you are with. It comes natural or it does not….

[Iron_Man]

You know what they say walk soft and carry a big stick

[Nikki1989]

Don't be the bad boy. They are the worst.

[starberry149]

I'm tired of people trying to take advantage of what they see as my innocence.