Why would a guy keep trying to reach out to you when he completely blew all chances and you want nothing to do with him?

[Anonymous]

I was very close friends with this guy for a long time... like 10 years. During that time, we were friends with benefits off and on. We'd stop once I got a boyfriend, but we would still be friends. He would sometimes say disrespectful things regarding whatever relationship I was in, but I tried to ignore it and chalk it up to being jealous over no longer being friends with benefits. Well, let's just say I found out his true colors. He turned out to be very toxic. I opened my eyes, took off the rose colored glasses and seen him for who he really was - an emotionally abusive individual. I also realized this situation was very one-sided even as a friend. I'd be the one doing everything. I was always there for him no matter what. I'd stay up all night texting him if he was down/needed someone. I'd go visit him if he wanted company. I'd give him cards for holidays/special occasions as well as just random pick-me-up cards. He never gave me a single thing for any occasion. Never treated me for my birthday and half the time didn't even TEXT to say happy birthday. He'd be drunk or something. I am not one to drink, and he'd make sure to remind me what a loser I was for it (and not in a joking manner). He would not invite me to parties for that reason (said I'd ruin the vibe). I came to realize he was not going to change. He just wanted to keep me around for whenever he was interested in some quick, easy sex or needed a favor. He didn't actually want me to be a part of his life. It was a disappointing realization, but I knew I had to cut him out altogether, even as a friend. So, I did. I stopped talking to him. I blocked his texts from coming to my inbox. I haven't spoken to him in over a year. He still tries to text me. He uses a different number (I know it's him based on the texting style). When I go to delete blocked messages, I see his regular number I blocked still texts me here and there. Why would he still be trying to contact me after all this?

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Sorry the spacing didn't work. It all jumbled together lol That was not intentional!

[Anonymous]

i'm in an emotionally abusive relationship myself did everything for her never got a damn thing in return not that i was ever expecting anything but she never showed the slightest bit of appreciation or loyalty to me no gratitude completely unfaithful she didn't give a damn and she knew it

[Asker]

I am so sorry. I know how it is. It really sucks when you would do anything and everything for someone and you know they wouldn't even piss on you if you were on fire. It is really hard. The best thing to do? Leave. It sucks. It hurts. It's hard. But you have to put yourself first. This chick clearly doesn't know what she has. She doesn't care or appreciate you or your efforts. It is time to set her free and move on. It will be hard, but it will be very well worth it in the end. You deserve better. Find someone who will love and appreciate you. Find someone who believes in a relationship being a 2 way street as it should be. One person should not be doing all the giving while the other sits back and takes everything. Good luck to you! I am sorry you are going through this and wish you the best for your future!

[spartan55]

Figures you will eventually give in and want that dick again? Why does matter WHY he does it? Just go about your life.

[Asker]

It just makes me wonder why people can't take a hint. With him, you'd think he would be well aware of why I'm no longer interested in being in his life. I do ignore him. I empty my block box to keep it from clogging my phone and that's that. I am content without him. I just don't understand why he won't move on and stop messaging me.

[spartan55]

Who cares? Why are you even worried about it?

[spartan55]

It must not be that big of a problem since you won't block him

[Asker]

I block his number every 2-3 months (what my cell company does for blocks). Then when I forget it's time to re-block, he always comes back.

[Guy13]

That makes no sense. What a ride you had 🤷🏻‍♂️

[Asker]

Eh. It wasn't that great. Yeah I thought we were good friends... but who needs someone like that? He started being more and more crappy when I got into a truly serious relationship and was on the verge of marriage. I knew he wasn't good even as a friend at that point. All the nasty things he'd say to me without reason just made me more confident in the decision to cut ties.

[ZenJen444]

He's bored.