If someone came close to an accident is it proper to check on the emotional well being of people?

[Anonymous]

Ok so it was at night and there were some people crossing the street and my girlfriend didn’t see them and had to swerve up on the sidewalk to avoid them. My first instinct was to check on them to make sure they were ok like they could have been really rattled but she got upset because my first instinct wasn’t to make her feel ok. Was I in the wrong

[mayur1598]

Dude... In this situation you panicked and run to see if people are OK...
That shows how great person you are...
Others are saying 5 seconds or 30 seconds would be enough for you to ask about whether you girlfriend is OK or not...
But this 30 seconds could had been life or death scenario for those people...
So what you did was right...
And running to those people first also was kind of caring about your girlfriend... If anyone major could have happened then rushing to it and saving them would ultimately benifited her by saving her from penalty...
And if your girlfriend is more concerned about why you rushed to them before her... Then sorry to say she is cold hearted...

[Asker]

Yeah and I see peoples comments down below like I’m being criticized for caring about someone who was in danger because they were in front of our vehicle.

[mayur1598]

Bro you did right thing don't feel guilty about it...

[Asker]

Like that’s the thing you slowly start to question your sanity because she makes me feel like I have legitimately done something wrong. Like even when I’m being a good caring human being I’m still doing something wrong because Im not putting her before the people she could have seriously injured. The only thing that matters to her is it’s a hypothetical she goes it could have happened but it didn’t

[mayur1598]

Well... I don't say blame her... its her natural reaction...
Her boyfriend just ran for someone who he don't know over her...
She is just feeling insecure and vulnerable...
You have to comfort her and tell her that she is always more important to you then others...

[Asker]

I pissed me off how selfish do you have to be to worry about yourself over others who could have got ram over

[mayur1598]

Its ok dude... relax her... let her know her mistake... let her know the consequence... let her know why you did it... let her know what could have happened if you haven't accede the way you did... let her know how stupid she sounds with such foolish thing... I know she will understand...

[AngryCarl]

You say your girlfriend didn't see them but that's obviously not true. If she didn't see them she would have hit them. Was it at night? Were they jaywalking? Was she speeding? I have so many questions, but in summary she was probably more scared than they were.

I'm not definitively saying who's right or who's wrong. I'm just glad nobody died. The other day I had two kids on scooters come at me the wrong way along a one-way street. I was not best pleased.

[Anonymous]

She was sat right next to you. It would’ve taken you 5 seconds to ask if she was okay 😅

[Asker]

So if she almost ran someone over my mind shouldn’t be on the person that could have gotten hurt or killed

[Opinion Owner]

Like I said, she is in the car next to you. It takes two seconds to turn to her and ask her if she’s okay. I think she has every right to be upset. They weren’t hurt or killed so there’s no point saying ‘they could’ve been’ when they weren’t. She would’ve been in just as must shock as them.

[Guy13]

Are you okay takes 30 seconds…. I would worry about your life priority too.

[Asker]

From me or her

[Guy13]

You. It takes 30 seconds to check on your love one…

[Asker]

Ok and we were less then 30 seconds between hitting them and colliding with a utility pole

[Guy13]

Alright. Hope you two straighten it out

[In_Trance]

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