Why do guys there are not ready, then turn around get in one. Instead of being straight up?

[Justneedtokno]

ITS OK TO TELL HER…. I don’t think this will work out. Just Don’t have sex with to realize you don’t want her. No hard feelings

[VIVANT]

I don’t think I bad timing is often the culprit especially if they go with someone else quickly. Sometimes people dk how they feel or how they feel changes. It’s probably better to wait for sex into a commitment if it bothers you to have sex with someone who doesn’t stuck around.

Yeah some people pretend to be interested to get sex, but plenty of people wait to see how they feel after sex. So if you don’t like sex being used casually as kart if the getting to know you stage, getter to wait on it.

as far as I know when someone does not think it work out they will say so before having sex, unless they are a jerk —in which case they are no good for you anyhow.

I think you can solve this problem without having to make sure the other person is fully upfront ( which there’s really no way to make sure) by just doing things in your own time 😊

[NathanDavis]

easy, some dudes don't want you...

they just want to sex

so they will do or say anything to get it and then leave... they're not honest people and they do target naive people for it as well

[FilmGuy93]

Sometimes you just don't know whether the relationship has longevity until you do get physically intimate. Sometimes we just change our minds.

[ShadezMcgee]

... what? Your question should be edited because I can't really tell what you are getting at. Are you asking why guys say they aren't ready for a relationship after having sex with a woman?

[Justneedtokno]

Basically I think it’s bad timing when you realize what you want or don’t want

[ShadezMcgee]

So was my assumption correct about sex being the reason for this question and the decision being made sfter having sex?

[Justneedtokno]

I’m trying to get it taken down

[ShadezMcgee]

Ok? I wasn't asking to have the question taken down, just clarification because I don't feel this was the best asked or explained question.

[Anonymous]

It's hard to express your feelings as a guy without being called a sexist or being demonized so most guys won't tell you.

[Justneedtokno]

Yes it hurts because women put in the time and effort but we will find someone else

[Opinion Owner]

Alright, but you're not going to date a guy who shares his feelings because, again, women don't find them attractive at all. Otherwise, they would not be dating the less expressive guy.

[Philyouup]

i’m sorry, i don’t understand the question. perhaps not enough coffee on my part😊

[Andres77]

Sometimes we don’t know

[Justneedtokno]

I think y’all have shitty timing

[Andres77]

In my case I was diagnosed as having aspbergers. If I’d known that when I was young it would have helped a lot. I was also innocent and naive. I was taken advantage of a lot, on top of being molested a few times and being physically abused. I was not in a healthy place to know if I should be in a relationship or not. I’m sure there are others like me. I’m just saying that some of us are broken, try to do the right thing and don’t understand what the hell is happening around us.

[Andres77]

I’m ok now (I hope😜) but I suffered through a lot of mistakes and hurt others because I was just oblivious, not because I wanted to

[Justneedtokno]

Yes, if you knew then, what you know now it all makes better sense but at the same time now that you’re an adult how will you change this in with this diagnosis don’t let you tell the truth all the time

[Andres77]

I’m married and I have a good wife but we still fight. We’ve both been through a lot of shit. But we’re examples of hope. Life can really suck. Just don’t give up. Everything is a case by case basis. There’s always hope.

[Jamie05rhs]

They were lying to you. They just wanted the sex.

[msc545]

What is the question here?