What does it mean when a guy tells you that you treated him like be was a punk bitch?

[Chesneymarie]

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Okay so here is a little more insight for you all. At this time this guy was my best friend. We were really close and ya we hooked up here or there, but I was actually actively seeing this other man. My best friend knew I was really into this guy and I never intentionally treated the best friend bad, I just wasn't into him like I was the guy I was actively with. So me n the best friend would tell each other every thing. Well I would always put him off for the guy I really was into.

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Well he would make comments like sorry im not good enough like Jacob! Jacob was the guy I was really into. And the best friend would make those remarks. Well I couldn't help who I cared for. The best friend was suppose to be a gangster with no feelings so to be im thinking don't even try to go that route cuz he just told you he has no feelings. Well Jacob the guy I was into just cut off one day and that was it. Never heard from him again. So I continues to hang out with the best friend our

[DaveJord]

Yeah, it means you played him like a punk bitch. Basically, you were keeping this guy around as your back up guy. Guys do this all the time. But you lead him on to think you were seriously interested, which is probably true on some level you were seriously interested. But that was contingent on how it ended up with the other guy.

So, you didn't really commit to anything with the 2nd guy, so you were not really cheating on him or doing anything wrong... but at the same time, you were not seriously wanting a relationship yet with the 2nd guy, but you were keeping him around because he was a good guy and if it didn't work out with the 1st guy then you would want a relationship with the 2nd guy maybe.

So, you were never being truly honest with the 2nd guy, even though you didn't outright lie to him you were not telling him all the things you should have told him... which means you were playing him as bunk bitch the whole time.

Truth is you probably only ended up cheating yourself, the 2nd guy was probably the better guy because he was trusting you. And this is why they say good guys finish last, and why women say they always end up with wrong types of guys or can't find good guys. Because they play these types of games and good guys will not put up with it. Eventually, the guy figures it all out and are done with you. And the more it happens the better they come at figuring it out faster and calling women out on it. And women want to act like men have no right to do that. They women are only ones that get their feelings hurt by fucked up men, when are not the victims of fucked up women all the time.

This was happening to me a week ago or two ago, but I only been with this woman for about week. She was sending off all these Red Flags... so I called her out on it. I asked her straight out, "how many other guys are you chatting with right now."

She got so defensive and hostile so fast over that. She responded with "None of your Bunises." I responded with "Anything other than NONE, is the wrong answer... GOOD BYE." She calls me and tells me that the other guys are just friends, but I am only one she is seriously interested in. Like that was supposed to make it better, she just admitted to doing exactly what she said she was not doing... of course, she did not see it that way.

At some point I think I actually said to her, "What do you think I am, I am not some punk bitch, do you think I am some type of idiot?" The point for me is all she had to do was be completely honest about from the start and not try to hide it. But the conversation deteriorated from there. She said in the end that I have issues with rejection, and that I need to stop texting her... I was like okay, but you called me you stupid bitch.

Other guys were freinds she meet online, no like friends she know for long time and I was just a guy that she strung along for two weeks while was checking off all the other guys.

[Chesneymarie]

I appreciate the response. Thing is I never intentionally didn't keep him around like a rebound. He knew what was up and I didn't like him at that point like that. I think he should have just came out and told me how he felt if I would have known I would literally dropped the other dude.

[Chesneymarie]

To me he was a coward for how he handled it instead of telling me be had no feelings he should have stepped up n said something. But at the end of the day it just sucks. He literally made me hate my self, as well as life. Took my self worth and everything else. I'm the one hurt now so I guess it is what it is hu

[DaveJord]

Well if had feelings then could of acted 9n them yourself as well... so mixed signals all around. Sorry for your loss, but was no more the coward then you were. Sure he should of stepped up an been the man right?

But women are equal, right? We are all supposed to respect that, women an men.

If was saying he was cool with it, then why were you oksy with him being oksy with it. Maybe you should of said, that your not oksy with that... I kind of would like to be with you. But that takes guts right? Takes real courage to put yourself out there like that, right? Why should it of been easier fir him than you? Becsuse he's a man, right?

Guys these days have been programed since birth not to think that way. They were raised like your dad and I were raised where a man was a man, and was supposed to be the man and act like a man, and wimen were women and they would act like wimen but thats oksy because we love women and we cherish and protect them. Guys these days have been demaculated by society since birth, to the point that they act more like women then most women do.

[DaveJord]

* were NOT raised

[Chesneymarie]

I guess your right. Thanks for the advice I can see why things ended up the way they did. It sucks cuz I care for him a lot even to this day he degrades me and uses me. But I allow it cuz I just want that time with Him ya know. It is what it is tho shit happenings and life will go on... It's all a healing process from here on out now. Thank you for the insight on a mans point of view much appreciated!

[DaveJord]

I am sorry, but its kind of story of my dating life... simple shit that get blown up, becsuse people can't communicate effectively with each other without ego getting in the way.

Good luck to. you! 👍

[Chesneymarie]

I agree! And thank you good luck to you as well

[Guy13]

He believes you played him…did him wrong. Did he give you specific examples ⁉️

[Chesneymarie]

If read the updates I guess I would say those were the examples. Thank you for responding

[Guy13]

Alright. Good luck 🍀 with it all.

[Chesneymarie]

Lol thanks

[User3191989]

He just doesn't think you are treating him well. Whatever that may be. Likely just not respecting him

[Chesneymarie]

Thank you for the response! I figured as much just wanted validation I guess

[User3191989]

It’d be interesting to see how you do treat him though, just to see if he’s just overreacting or whatever. I don’t need you to tel me but, like, if I was ever in your vicinity and I observed your interactions, I could probably see what was going on

[Chesneymarie]

Kids meet we go to a family park together. Things are great im starting to fall in love with my best friend now. And then im guessing it's my karma or his revenge he still has in the back of his head how I guess I made him feel when he liked me and he went and fucked my sister and now treats me like dirt and I rather see my sister dead at this point. He got me good. But don't think I deserved if.. This is the rest of the update

[Chesneymarie]

Read the updates above then the comment I had to finish in the comment section it wouldn't let me donmore then two updates. I hope this makes since

[User3191989]

I told you I didn’t need to know. Did you not read

[Chesneymarie]

Then you don't read it

[User3191989]

I did

[Avicenna]

He’s saying you treated him badly. Or so he thinks.

[StanDan]

Because of the female gender reference, you use him in bed and then treat him bad.

[In_Trance]

It means he feels like you treat him like a punk bitch

[Summeroflove]

You treated him like shit

[Guardian45]

That he is a punk bitch