Can a man love two women at the same time?

[koko22]

Is it possible for a man to love two women at the same time? Is that even possible?

[Price511]

Well, as somebody who can say they’re polyamorous, I feel uniquely qualified to answer.


The short answer is: Yes, yes you can. There are a few ways this can be, but these are the ones I can speak from experience for:
- Triad of love: You all love each other and know about each other. You’re in love with the two girls and they love each other too along with you. I actually had a relationship for a full year like that, but one had decided we were better off as friends, and we still are to this day.
- Two like one: Both the girls like you, and they don’t mind sharing. Now, I’ve gotten up to 4 relationships like this at one point, but there is a limit based on your own poly style. Relationship anarchy, hierarchy, or equality are just examples of these categories. Based on that, you gotta take into account how many people you can feasibly love and date because you only have a limited amount of time per day, week, and month. This of course varies by how often they want to interact with you and how much time out of your day that you can fit that in.


A man can love two women at the same time. Hell, even three or more, as long as there aren’t any conflicting interests between each of the partners both short and long term. (And you’d be surprised how often this is the case, too. They can be quite agreeable as long as you’re considerate and caring about each partner.)

[TheSpaceGnome]

Among other problems, I would consider it impossible to be caring and attentive to 2 or more partners. Simply because of not being able to clone myself, so there would be countless times where I would have to tend to one while ignoring any others, and to me that seems too unreasonable, so I see no point to bothering with poly relationships.

[TheSimonymous]

As a christian I personally believe it's impossible for a man to love two women because God has ripped out one rib from the man and not several ribs. He also only created Adam and Eve, not Adam and Eve and Sandra and Leah and Lara etc. It also shows throughout the Bible that the men who lived in polygamous marriages always had one favorite wife which they preferred. Like Jacob Ben-Isaac who loved Rachel the most or Elkana, the father of the judge and prophet Samuel, who loved his wife Hannah instead of the other.

[TheSpaceGnome]

A god existing is impossible.
The bible is just a story book and the people in it aren't real.
Men don't have asymetrical ribs.
Men and women usually have the same number of ribs, cervical ribs are rare (even in women) , but both sexes can have them.
Rib count does not effect emotional capability.
Ribs getting ripped out would kill a person.
It doesn't make sense that a god could create adam just fine, but couldn't create eve without damaging adam for parts.
Cloning a new person using adam's rib, would just make a second adam.
There are plenty of logical reasons why polygamy isn't practical, so making up nonsense ones is just silly.

[HippieVeganJewslim]

Many people in the Bible married several times, like Moses, Abraham, King David, and King Solomon had 300 wives! At least one sect of Christianity allows polygamy.

[TheSimonymous]

@TheSpaceGnome:
1) Ah yes, the highest and purest form of foolishness in man: The belief that there is no existing higher intelligent being that has created us. There is no need to argue at this point.
2) I wonder what the inhabitants of Sodom and Gomorrah would say to this, especially considering the fact that the heat was so drastic that the only other place on earth where you had a similar destruction by heat was in Hiroshima and Nagasaki.
3) The Bible says that God has closed the area he took the rib from with flesh.
4) Adam was in a very deep sleep when this happened. Also why should God kill the man he has created to rule the earth?
5) God did this to put a special bond and significance on the creation of the sexes, especially on the creation of the woman.
6) A wrong belief concerning the topic of clones is that using the same gene material means that people look exactly the same, which is wrong because looks and character are based on other factors apart from genetics.
7) There is no sense without God, as simple as that. If God doesn't exist, it means that logic, order, stability and morals do not exist either. Therefore it makes sense to look in the Bible, the book inspired by God himself, for guidance and advice, especially when it comes to questions about the very understanding of man and woman.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Everything you guys said is made up bullshit.

[BlueScorpio]

@TheSpaceGnome God existing is very possible, we aren't just randomly here for no reason. This is mind without faith.

[TheSpaceGnome]

@BlueScorpio No, god existing is impossible because omnipotence and creationism are both impossible, and faith is for idiots. I'll stick to knowledge.

[HippieVeganJewslim]

@TheSpaceGnome knowledge of human beings is limited to what we know and understand, unlike imagination. Omnipotence can be possible, if it goes with the laws of science. I believe G-d Created mankind with evolution. Evolution is real. Even the Pope says so, I think.

[Anonymous]

I was on a dating site, and it wasn't geared towards the poly world, but there were still a lot of poly couples on the site. After reading a ton of profiles and talking to poly couples, I concluded that they were all just swingers who hated to admit it.

It's like in the movies when one partner cheats, but they call it "having an affair."

Isn't that a much more glamorous term? lol

No, I don't think a man can love more than one woman at the same time, but he can lust over hundreds at the same time.

[bamesjond0069]

"... a lot of poly couples on the site. After reading a ton of profiles and talking to poly couples, I concluded that they were all just swingers who hated to admit it."

I agree. Modern take on poly is just swingers and cuckolding play basically. However I don't agree that's all what this is. There is only one form of poly that has worked for a long time and it's polygyny... the one type of poly that modern poly people do not accept. Surprise surprise. In which i believe a man can love more than one woman.

[Opinion Owner]

Or polyandry?

[bamesjond0069]

No. Polyandry is widely accepted as part of poly and unlike polygyny it doesn't have widespread success in its application. It's also "cuckolding". So it perfectly conforms.

[Opinion Owner]

I talked to a woman who had a husband, a boyfriend, a friends with benefits and two fuck buddies.
My ass she's poly. LOL

[bamesjond0069]

That's seems pretty typical of the kind of people one would find at a poly meetup.

[Opinion Owner]

Is a fuck buddy love?

[Darkrainbow]

@bamesjond0069 🤡🤡

[BlueScorpio]

No, not in my opinion. Eventually he's going to have to choose one or the other and both women are not going to be happy about sharing a man. Most people don't want to share a partner and want to be the only person they are in love with romantically.

[FilmGuy93]

It's possible. He would love the women in different ways

[OlderAndWiser]

Not in the way that I define "love." Loving a partner means that you want to spend the rest of your life with them, with them at your side for all of the trials as well as all of the joys in life, wanting to go to sleep with my arms around her every night, laughing together, crying together, and being the one person who we know - without a doubt - will ALWAYS be there for us.

In that definition, there is no room for "half of the time" or "sometimes." It is always and forever.

[Chazmatazz269]

Of course. Women can too. Monogamy isn’t in our nature, as some would suggest. It’s a series of choices, mostly informed by societal expectations. How is it possible to lose someone we love then go on to find another? What happens when we meet the latter before losing the former? Ell oh ell! How do parents love more than one child? How do we love multiple siblings, or other relatives for that matter? We are easily capable of loving more than one person at a time. The tougher question is: why shouldn’t we?

[Anonymous]

No! Have I been "interested in more than one woman at one time before? Yes, but I wasn't in love with either yet. And when I want a woman, I want ONLY that woman. As I've tried to explain it before to women who've asked similar questions on here before. Think of it as a volume knob. Sure you can see other beautiful women. And even see the beauty in them. But you simply aren't interested in them. Because only one woman has your heart. The volume gets turned way down on all other women.

[NikosBlackwood]

Polyamory is having multiple partners at the same time. This is a valid and very real thing, however it requires a lot more open conversation with each partner.
This also works between any gender- a man can date two people, who can in turn date more people or even each other- each partner just needs to communicate effectively with their partner (s).

[TheorionMage]

The 'trick' lies in the multiple ambiguous definitions of 'love'.
Ancient Greek philosophers defined SIX types of 'love'...
MOST folks love their parents, few 'love' their parents;
just as you MAY love your children or siblings... but pedophilia & hebephilia
are defined as 'criminal' in MOST Western Judeo-Christian cultures
but not necessarily in Polynesian island extended families.

[DoctorSex]

Of course a man can love 2 women at the same time. A dominant, quote unquote "Alpha" man's love is expressed through the structure he brings to your life. He can bring structure to many women's lives simultaneously.

Kind regards,
DoctorSex

[inhua]

not equally they can not.

for the same reason parents can't truly love their kids equally either. there's always gonna be that one favorite kid whom the father or mother are more proud of than the other kid/s. same thing goes for multiple cars or multiple pets.

[caring__1]

Polyamorous relationships can work for certain individuals, and both partners can be loved. The question is whether you are comfortable sharing your partner with someone else. If any partner is a secret from another, then the relationship is doomed. It's just a matter of time before everything explodes in your face.

[Finchie40]

No , if a man truly loves a woman he will only have pure love for her , he might be infatuated by another girl but he will only truly love one girl , if a guy says he can love 2 girls at the same time then he is lost and pretty much a selfish person that is only thinking of himself , he will never experience true love

[allthewronganswers]

Yes very possible. Take for example a father with his wife and adult daughter, he can love them at the same time.
If you are referring to love in the sexual sense then the answer is also yes. In some cultures this is very much the case is very acceptable and would also be with 2 or more women.

[Meatunnel69]

Yes, men love women for their beauty mostly so we are capable of developing feelings for lots and lots of women some men just hide their impulses to maintain their relationships cuz the woman would leave immediately if she found out. Womens “feels” are different than a mans

[Dontkillthepigs]

It is definitely possible to have feelings of strong attraction to more than one person. It happened to me in a happy relationship I was in. I developed strong feelings for another woman. It didn't lessen my feelings for the one I was with. A concept that seems to be difficult to understand for a lot of people. To me, love isn't exclusive. But I can choose to not act on it.

[sheenagwapa]

i think regardless of gender we can like a lot of people we can like a lot of stars but there's inly one sun so be careful chasing a lot of stars because you may lose your sun for good

[AviatorTom]

Yes, it's possible to love more than one person at a time. It's very difficult, if not impossible, to have a meaningful relationship with more than one. That goes for both men and women.

[AdithyaR]

Polyamorous people do exist.
Unless of course this situation is a guy cheating on his partner and using this as a justification.
Cause poly relationships are all about consent and what the partners involved are comfortable with.

[Adam1978]

Yes all people can love more than one person that doesn't mean they want to have relationships with multiple people.

[Helllo123]

Yes! it happens to women too.

I was in a situation where I loved two guys at the same time and i’m a woman. it happens.

[BCRanger10]

No. A man may have emotional and sporadic attractions to more than one woman, but to truly love someone is a free and conscious choice.

[Soremain]

It's impossible for a man to not love everyone at all times, whether he knows it or not. Love is the ingredient of life.