Why can’t guys be acquaintances with a girl, without wanting more 🤡?

[JoyGirl]

Why is this? 😂

Unless that wasn’t their intention from the start. 🤔

Hmmmm…what are ya thought? 😂

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Please, don’t take this question seriously. 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
I don’t like the guy. I haven’t seen him before, and he is not the only guy that has acted the way he did. Even guys irl have acted like that towards me…

[sassy_receptor]

i think a lot of it is because they don’t really receive the essential emotional and mental support and affection that women can provide, from their guy friends. and when they receive that from a woman they tend to get attached quickly or think they have a chance with said woman because they feel they’re receiving something special instead of realizing that women are naturally that way with most of our acquaintances.


regardless, because men don’t know how to control their emotions and i don’t have time to deal with betrayal, i purposely avoid befriending men. i don’t trust them and i don’t have time for the emotional games. any guy i become an acquaintance with is a guy i am attracted to and that i’ve expressed my attraction to from the start.

[JoyGirl]

Slow your horse partner. 😂
Not all men are untrustworthy.
But yea, sometimes it is better of not having male friends. Especially in a relationship.

[sassy_receptor]

lol nah i meant what i said. i don’t trust a man who’s trying to be friends with a woman. i think more women need to take that route because most of them end up sad and shocked when they find out their guy friend was only using them for something more. in this situation, i think it’s better to take a “guilty until proven innocent” approach.

[JoyGirl]

Oh, girl. 😂😂😂

[sassy_receptor]

if i wasn’t right you wouldn’t be asking this question😂

[JoyGirl]

Honestlyyy 😭
Like yesterday a dude was talking to me on a video game, and my friend thought I was being too nice to him. So, to clear the air, I posted my relationship status. He ran for the hills. I was like…tf…🤡🤡🤡

[SwellStroke]

Its unfort that you ladies have this view. As I have never seen it as a problem. As I certainly don't have the intention to sleep with every girl I meet. However, I was also raised that ladies are to be respected unless given reason to not be.

In addition, since gaming was brought up, I have groups depending on the game that is being played at that time, where a lot of the time its more ladies than guys. Some of the funniest games I have had the pleasure of getting. Where I was raised when gaming you were in the same room as other people and shit talking was better than the internet days we have now. But to hear them go off in game chat or post lobby has had my sides hurting more than a few times.

Regardless, hope the day finds you well and continues to be nothing less moving forward. :D

[oh_k789]

No woman will give them any of that support and other things you listed, if the woman doesn't want to be "more than friends", though.

As for emotional control, men may find it hard to control their emotions. Women don't even know what emotional control is.

[sassy_receptor]

ah yes nothing like the man who thinks he knows more about woman than an actual woman.

[Vendela]

Because men are taught from the beginning that they are "extremely sexual creatures" so deep in their subconscious they think sex needs to be had with every female they see even though they don't. 🙂

[DoctorSex]

Wrong.

[SwellStroke]

Very incorrect.

[Guardian45]

I have to disagree, but your partially correct. Men are very sexual.

[Vendela]

LOL these replies are hilarious

[SwellStroke]

Glad you find humor in some guys disagreeing with your take on how we are. Since it was generalized. However, that is your right to be able to do so. :D

[DoctorSex]

@SwellStroke

I think here we can find the deep issue with society.
A female has a view point about men. 3 men outright reject that viewpoint, 2 females like the opinion. How is there such a gap in understanding, it's as though we are living in two different realities, what would you contribute this to?

[SwellStroke]

@DoctorSex

Is this a tree falling in a forest with no one around situation?

[DoctorSex]

@SwellStroke could you elaborate?

[SwellStroke]

@DoctorSex I can attempt in so much as being over the internet no one is truly around, yet could be considered Incorporeal in a manner of speaking since we are here. We have one side of the discussion which could be considered the wind, then the other side could be considered as the tree. To which side is which I will let the reader decide as I choose to be an Oak. Knowing where I stand in regards to the topic.

[Guardian45]

@DoctorSex. Agreed. Men are from Mars. Women are from Venus. And NEVER shall the two understand the opposite sex!

[oh_k789]

Not as hilarious as your original comment.

[Vendela]

Yeah I still find this hilarious

[NathanDavis]

because they are still guys... immature

men are different, more mature, less desperate, more genuine...

as I've mentioned many times before, most of my best and close friends are women, and many of the acquaintances I am friendly with are women as well, and this has been ongoing for the last 26 years of my life as a constant... lol

but I am a man... also worth to point out that for the last 16 years of my life, at least 80% of that time I have been with a girlfriend of mine and in a relationship, so I do not really need to go out and be desperate and wanting to hit on everyone woman that crosses my way, lol

I can just be acquaintances and friends with them, like I do with the dudes as well

[JoyGirl]

Good, at least you like the 1% that can do that. 😂

[NathanDavis]

good thing, is that for the most part... we can do well with a few true and genuine friends and acquaintances... lol

they're out there, sometimes it takes a bit longer to find the right ones

[bigpauly]

What are you talking about? We totally can?

by the way are you single yet? 👀

jk yea I think it is their intention from the start in a lot of cases. I have known a lot of guys that really do talk about women as if they're sub human. It's sort of baffling how common it actually is.

[JoyGirl]

Nah, I am taken for life. 😂
I don’t think you were here when my SO was on here. He has a G@G account, but he dipped from the app shortly after we started dating…lmao 😂

Also, yeaaaa. Men…🥲

[bigpauly]

Ohh... I see...
*stops talking to you for all of time

No I don't recall him. Lol why'd he leave then?

But, yea I don't know what to even say on that front

[JoyGirl]

He got tired of G@G. 😂

*pat pat* 😌

[bigpauly]

That makes sense, lol.

Hey no head pats! *swipes at your hand

[JoyGirl]

Too late.
Remember you are shorter. 😏

[bigpauly]

*mumbles to self like Yosemite Sam

Lmao well yea I’m shorter than literally everyone 😒😒😒.

on second thought, I don't know how tall you are so for all I know you’re the one person here shorter 🤔

[JoyGirl]

How tall are you? lol

[bigpauly]

Not very 😂

I was measured at just under 4'7" a few years back. And I may have been wearing shoes..

But I had growth hormone issues growing up that stunted me, a lot.

[JoyGirl]

I am taller.
It is ok.
*pat pat* 🤗

[bigpauly]

lol I think all adults are.
Thank you, but stop the pats!
🤗

[JoyGirl]

Hehe 🤭

[bigpauly]

*shakes fist

[Wicked_Witch]

This whole exchange cracked me up. 😄

[FilmGuy93]

I think girls strongly overestimate the quality of their friendship, in men's eyes. Men view friendships totally differently from how women do, and friendship with a woman is just not emotionally fulfilling for us.

[Wish4UrB00ty]

I think we have just been programmed to think we need to be in relationships. My dad won’t stop asking every new girl he meets around me if she is single and if she is he makes it very obvious that I need to get to know her and ask her out on a date. And then I find myself doing the same to my nieces and nephews. I hat the structure of it but that is how it works. It is fine and encouraged to he friends when you have a loved one. But you seem to have to have that one first. I brake that rule! I am friends first. I won’t date anyone because I want to be friends first and foremost.

[SnowedIn]

This is such a great question. I think they can be. And I think there's probably a lot more of it out there then we may notice/give credit for. I have a lot of women friends and acquaintances from whom I've never wanted more.

But, then, I read the responses below and what you wrote and others responded with has so much validity. I wonder, though, do all the times that men just want more outweigh any of the times that men really genuinely want to be friends/acquaintances? I also think that @sassy_receptor nailed it in her comments about men latching on to emotional connection/support/affection and getting too attached. I wish that we (humans generally) could actually encourage more of that connection between men and women so that we could normalize it. Maybe then men could start to discern between being friends with a woman and seeking something more.

[DoctorSex]

The truth is, he has nothing to gain by being your friend. Absolutely nothing. The only one who gains is you.

You want permission to use his time and attention and give him nothing back.

This question is the equivalent of a man saying,

"Why can't girls just give me blowjobs when I want and not require anything else. 🤡"

This question shows a wilful disregard for the needs of the other gender.

[JoyGirl]

You need help. 😂

[ArrowheadSW]

I am friends with several women without wanting it to lead to more. It is just the nature of the relationships for me. Some women I just hit it off with as friends. I'm not interested in crossing the line to romance with these ones because for whatever reason, the dynamic is such that we are "just friends".

[humanearth]

Hi Joy long time no see

Because males have this instinct to mate with all females. Yes and females have this need to mate. This is why humans survived over 10,000 years

It's basically in our DNA and it can't be breed out of us

As much as some humans want to try to believe different, you can't beat human core survival instinct

[TheSpaceGnome]

We can, we can also be just friends with girls. Most women are not going to be compatible enough to be attracted to mentally, and as guys we are usally very picky on looks.

it's way more common for a woman to be friendzoned than to have to deal with every guy friend wanting to date her.

[Anonymous]

I have hoped to be friends with a woman all life, and all of them has either quit the "friendship" soon as they lost the "other interest" in me, or soon as it became clear to them that I had no "other interest" in them.

Come on, it's two-way.

[SpringValley]

The road to hell is paved with good intentions.

Mother Nature is a powerful force.

[UniquelyBasic]

Thats not how men think in general. A majority of men, if given the chance will want more from their female friends and anyone who denies it is lying. That guy is very rare to be just friends with a girl.

[DancingQueen16]

Guys can be friends with girls without being interested in them in a certain way like my boyfriend is friends with other females and I don't mind because I'm not the jealous and controlling type

[TroyDT2]

If I want more I make it immediately clear. If we simply share a common interest and I do not immediately ask her out, I'm not interested in romance.

[nawtee_me]

Can we just be friends? No, not friends with benefits….. just friends….

[JoyGirl]

😂😂😂

[dustybiker]

I grew up with a bunch of guys like that. 👀 Chosen brothers.

[Wicked_Witch]

I’ve had this happen too often. I think they are made to believe women are objects in some way or another.

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

I am just friends with many girls. No problem there.

[weysally]

I may add, why can't girls be acquaintances with boys without wanting more?

[Berethor]

They can if the girl is ugly, but guys prefer to be friends with attractive girls.

[jshm2]

Because they usually want more, but are too shy/coward/insecure to ask.

[MysticDevice]

They certainly can be. But I mean its literally programmed into guys and girls brains to want more. Biology is a really bugger.