Y did he do that?

[Anonymous]

So my boyfriend and I have been dating for the past year and we haven't done anything besides kissing. He said he wanted to go a bit further but we wouldn't have sex so I agreed. While we were fooling at his place he tried to put it in. He only stopped after I repeatedly told him too and started screaming and crying. When we were cuddling after he said if I just had let it happened it would only hurt for a second and I wouldn't feel anything next time and I would have thanked him for it. I got up and locked myself in the bathroom until he agreed to bring me home. When I got home I was bleeding so he lied when he said I wasn't. I haven't spoken to him in the last few days even though he's been calling and messaging me none stop.

[SnowedIn]

Why? Because he's selfish and horny and thoughtless. Stop seeing him. This is a red flag combined with a blaring red strobe light and a loud siren. Don't respond to his messages or anything else. Be done with him.

[Lis-the-librarian]

I mean a year is a long time. Without anything sexual. He complitely messed up also. So its a mess for sure.

Talk it over on the phone. What you both want.
And consider going separate ways.

[Asker]

I asked if it would be a deal breaker for him. He said yess but he's still messaging and trying to convince me.

[Lis-the-librarian]

Every guy will convince you one way or another. Its not like you will start dating a monk. So you can't escape that part.

Him waiting a year is also a pretty good sign, most would have bolted long time ago. Have you met eachother parents? Made a motion to get married etc.

You two could probably use an unbiased relationship/marriage counceling by a pro. As conflicts will happen in relationship, and both having opposing views on certain areas.

Im not pro breakup, i think people take the easy way out way too fast. doesn't even fix any issues and actually makes more. Sometimes it is needed but shoulb be a last resort.

[Asker]

I guess him waiting that is a good sign but when he held my arms and tried to tell I didn't feel a thing when I was down. He Dr didn't seem like the guy that I really liked for a second and I was scared of that. U guess. but I'll try working it out before calling it quits completely.

[Izzy_3991]

Run girl. Run far away from him. That’s a huge red flag 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩


I am so sorry that happened to you 😢