Crush/situationship says and texts “I love you” but every time it’s when he’s drunk?

[Anonymous]

This guy I’ve been talking to for 6 months (long distance but I’ve seen him in person 3 times since, has family in the same state as me) has told me multiple times that he loves me but every time it’s when he’s drunk. I know it could go either way, but I’d really like to get a guys perspective/opinions on it!

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1 y

Thank you for your opinions you guys are absolutely right lol

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1 y

Ok let me rephrase myself. This was a lighthearted question. I’m fully aware people can not mean things when they’re drunk. It has nothing to do with my “self worth” because I already don’t take anything this guy says to me seriously. I was curious about a GUYS BEHAVIOR which is why it was under the GUYS BEHAVIOR topic. Simple crush on a dude who I occasionally have sex with and I like talking to. Doesn’t mean I have a desire to date the guy.

[DaveJord]

So my name is Dave, and I usually always trust Drunk Dave when it comes to the matters of the heart. See when you're drunk you are less inhibited, it's like conscious self, and subconscious self come together.

So is this guy telling you the truth or is he just drunk?

So if Drunk Dave is telling me that I love someone, the truth probably is that I really do. Now my sober self would have all these reasons, as to why I shouldn't ever tell her thst yet. But Drunk Dave is like fuck it, it's fucking true might as well just say it and get it over with.

Here is the catch... will sober Dave remember what Drunk Dave said and agree or disagree?

Let me tell you, this why I had to quit drinking for the last 5 years of my marriage before divorce. Because Drunk Dave would get honest and tell the ex wife how he really felt about her. She was an evil, uncaring, unsupportive, selfish, vampireic love sucking, hate loving evil bitch. And unfortunately Sober Dave would have never said those things, but at the same time.. I would wake remembering what I said and didn't even regret saying it, because fuck it, it was fucking true.

But when it all started 20 years prior, Drunk Dave would call my future wife and tell her how much I loved her, how amazing she was, and how happy she made me. And you know what, I didn't regret it then either, because Sober Dave would be like fuck it, it's fucking true. And it was.

[DaveJord]

To the update... you better take what guys say to you when their drunk seriously. Do not buy into that bull shit, when they try to play it off later, buy saying, "I was only drunk. I didn't mean it!"

Truth is at that time in that moment they definitely meant it, they just woke sober and regretted saying it.

Now the guy that tells you, he was so fucking drunk he has "No idea what he was saying."

Well this is probably telling a half truth... meaning that he might remember some of the "what" he said, but its the "why" he would have had said it that is escaping him.

Or, there is a 50% chance, that he really knows thst he did say something, but honestly can't remember all the details of what it was.

The bottom line to you is, thst you fucking remember exactly everything he said, and that in that moment he meant it. What says the next day is less important... because you've seen his true heart.

[coachTanthony]

Imagine if you had more self worth and thought to yourself wait WTF am I doing? I am really trying to figure out if an alcoholic loves me or not that lives to far away to see on a regular basis. Surely you deserve better? Right?

[Asker]

You don’t know me or the person I’m talking about (who is not an alcoholic) I’m asking a question. It has nothing to do with my self worth, nor do I take him saying that seriously which is why I SAID it could go either way.

[coachTanthony]

You’re right I need to just stop answering questions that really have no context

[EricJonesAB]

It's difficult to deal with drunk people because they tend to exaggerate and lose their inhibitions. Then the next day they can feel differently.

[slatyb]

Why would you care about the feelings of an habitual drunkard?

[In_Trance]

You see the guy once every 2 months
I think you're wasting your time

[CallmeTheKnight]

You're wasting time