I've been seeing this guy for almost two months.. he told me he loved me after a month and he's said it about 5 times after that but every time he's said it he's been drunk. Usually during the week we text each other all day which tend to be making fun of each other & having a laugh and then on the weekends we'll have long chats on the phone which are still quite fun but much more deep and about our feelings. But our weekend chats usually happen after a few drinks. Do I take what he says seriously when he's drunk or do I just put it down to 'drunk talk' I don't really want to bring it up when we're sober because I don't want to make the fun conversations awkward but at the same time I kinda want to know if that's how he feels or if he just talks like that because he's drunk..
It's a common occurrence: you're out at a bar with your significant other and they start to get a little bit tipsy. As the night goes on, they start to say things that they wouldn't normally say - including telling you that they love you. Why is it that your partner only seems to express their love for you when they've had a few drinks?
There could be a few reasons for this.
Firstly, alcohol can lower people's inhibitions, which means that they are more likely to say things that they wouldn't normally say. This could be because they are feeling more emotional than usual, or because they are trying to take advantage of the fact that you are also feeling more relaxed.
Secondly, alcohol can make people feel more confident and assertive, which may lead them to say things that they wouldn't normally say in a sober state. This could be because they are feeling more secure in their feelings for you, or because they want to take advantage of the fact that you are less likely to remember what they said in the morning!
Whatever the reason, it's important to remember that Alcohol is a depressant and it doesn't always bring out the best in people. If your partner only tells you that they love you when they're drunk, it might be worth considering whether they are actually capable of expressing their feelings sober.
Truth is that it have a nephew who was brought back home by the police not cause he done anything wrong but they found him drunk and disorderly But he used to tell the police that he loved them and grabbed me saying the same However On the same track A guy who is naturally Alpha may see it as a sign of weakness but our inabitions are relaxed when we are drunk So this probably doesn't help So you have to answer this one by talking Never be arid to express yourself otherwise your giving control over to him now and will start to pander talk to him and be honest x
If he says that when he's drunk, you can be pretty sure that he's telling the truth. You can try approaching the topic when sober, and leave it if things get awkward. When people get drunk, they tend to blurt out whatever they're feeling at the moment. And loving someone is not something you can feel at the moment. Hence, yes he does love you.
Well 2 months is pretty short honestly. And saying I love you is pretty quick which make sense why he only says it when he's drunk. When we are intoxicated we tend to say how we really think and feel, but since it is so early on in the relationship he doesn't want to say such deep things sober because he understands that may rush things. I'd say keep what the drunk him says in the mind but realize it IS drunk talk, which is what he really means. Sober him still loves you just doesn't want to rush things, is how I interpret the situation.
Just talk to him. It's not worth staying with him if you can't communicate. That isn't a relationship, or a very good one at that. Also don't listen to the guys saying drunk tongues tell no lies. I have asked my old boyfriend multiple times while drunk if he cheated on me. He told me no and told me later on while sober that he did. That is just a bunch of bull.
First if you are dating and want a serious relationship you have to be willing to make things awkward once in a while for the better good. I mean maybe he does love you but words are just words. Actions are more important. If he treats you like he loves you. then you have your answer.
well i believe the real question is do you want to proceed with a relationship to a drunk will he need to be drunk for your wedding so he can say the vows its Never a good sign if a person can only say certain things when drunk. If they won't say things when their sober but only when drunk. then it means absolutly nothing. I would recommend raising your standards. he sounds from what you you said to be an alcholic. he's by himself and feels the need to be drunk. thats never good. and it gets a lot worce befor it ever gets better. choose wisely. when it comes to relationships. hearts are on the line. youve only just met him. and there are otheres out there
I've done this in a couple different relationships. Each were different. With one I didn't really love her but I liked the idea of loving her and wanted to believe it. When I drank I was just loosed lipped and more optimistic. The other relationship I did love the girl but was afraid to say it too soon. When I drank the fear of saying it was gone. Don't push him to say it when he's sober. Time will tell. Don't be paranoid about his feelings but trust your instincts. Good luck.
if it's only once or twice he is probably just saying it because he's drunk. You say it's been 5 times? if I were you I'd make a joke when you're both sober like "You know sometimes when we are drinking you have said you love me. How do you normally feel about me?"
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there are other ways to find out if he loves you or not
1. Notice how he treats you ( give him a rating by comparing with other friends, if its too high then u know) 2. Check how much time he spends with you ( if its more than 5 hours a day, he is definitely deeply fallen for you) 3. See if compromises little things for you 4. See if he like to be close to you in public
drunk talks are not to be taken seriously. if he is too drunk he would even propose the bartender if he gives him a free drink
Nope, you can't love someone you've known/being with for two months. That's not love but for sure it's a good chance that he might like you very much. Alcohol disclosure of love doesn't translates that he's meaning it less... alcohol usually drops barriers, it doesn't raises false ones.
I don't drink, I never try it in my life, but one thing I have been observing about drunk people is the when they are drunk 90% of what they say is always the truth, because it always happens at a moment whey they don't fear confessions, if they hate you they will let you know, if they love you they'll let you know, whatever it's they always have the strength to express themselves because it's always the best moments for them, so you just have to watch him when he's not drunk to see the implementation of his drunk words, to see if they are related to his words, example the way he treats you when he's not drunk.
As someone has stated - Alcohol is liquid courage, but how sincere is his love if it isn't said when sober and during a serious intimate moment? Love is mostly shown through actions rather than words however. So seeing his actions towards you should tell you if he truly loves and cares for you or not.
he dont love you. take that as a given. if he did love you he would tell you sober. more than that, he would show you he loves you. i would tell you and show you that i loved you. but thats me. simple solution to it is --- dont ask him if he loves you. see how he reacts to you. look for the signs of love in him. every woman needs love at some point. getting it is another thing.
I'm on the fence. I would say that usually what's said drunk has a ring of truth to it. But I also work in a bar where I see people say and do things they would never do sober... so I say he's drunk and just take it as that. 2 months isn't long enough to love someone.
A lot of people just have sober thoughts while drunk. Others just have heightened emotions. What you're seeing here might very well be either, especially since it's not like he hates you sober bur says he loves you drunk. But if you're not willing to risk any thought into it while you're both sober maybe neither of you want it
While I like to think drunk words are a sober mans thoughts, it's not a reliable source of what goes through someone's brain. You can't really think about what you're saying, nor put what you're actually feeling into proper sentences, while drunk. The general mood is, "I cbf with everything". He could very well love you and have feelings for you, however, I wouldn't consider his drunkenness as a reliable source.
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My boyfriend tells me he loves me when he's drunk and sober, but it always tends to be a more extravagant way of telling me when he's drunk. For example, he'll give a simple "love you" or "I love you" when he's sober but when he's drunk he says things like "I love you so much and nothing can ever change that. As long as I'm with you I'm happy." I think he doesn't have the guts to be that sappy when he's sober Abd he's worried about being too "soft", but when he's drunk he doesn't care as much... at least that's what I like to think
when people are drunk they speak their mind. What he said is genuine because he thought that an he still does every second he spends with you try to get him to open up , look into his eyes create those quite romantic moments
Owe this is never a good. If your guy has to be out of his head drunk to tell you he loves you You have to find the courage to speak to him when sober. Explain it hurts you he can only say these loving words when drunk or had a drink Good luck xx
initially you guys do talk good, and have healthy and deep conversations. you do feel comfortable with him too. secondly, he says he loves you only when drunk. now that's been a few times, you could definitely try asking when sober, cz of you keep waiting more and if it turns out to be a NO, it would be hard to get back up than to have a little awkward scenario in the friendship.
I think drinking gives people the guts and courage to tell their partner they love them. After all alcohol does play a big part in lot things in life look at the people who have one night stands from night of drinking yes it happens.
I'm not saying he doesn't love you but drinking does bring out the true facts hey when my one third cousin was drinking, one time she ask me if i was horny so you see if she wasn't drinking she wouldn't have the guts to ask such a question.
I say you guys have a really great relationship from the sounds of it so I would believe he is telling the truth, you just get some guys that can't admit how they feel when sober.
in my experience someone's true feelings and intentions come out when they are drunk don't know how it works just in my experience. that is what has happened
You've only seen each other for a couple months but truth comes out when you're drunk. Have you ever heard the saying "A drunk man's words are his sober thoughts" or something like that?
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