So I’ve been talking to this guy for a while now. We did have a crush on each other and still have feelings but we decided to just be friends in the end. The reason being because he’s in the US and I’m in the UK. I don’t want to live there and he doesn’t want to live here. I know he’s focussing on finding someone close by but we also like each other and for the most part we do act as friends but on the occasion we get in our feels and start acting more like a couple for a little while.
I always sent him pics of my face to shoulders. I never showed him my actual figure just because I was nervous that he would be critical. I am in good shape but I know he likes a certain body type, I fit it for the most part but I don’t have small boobs the way he likes, and he likes them curvy but on the skinny side. I’m very happy with my waist to hip ratio so the yesterday I decided to send him a pic. It was just my body in tight clothes that showed off my figure quite well.
He was already turned on before I sent it, just cuz we were being cute to each other, and when I sent it he was still interested in se*ting. He said I looked tiny, and that I look great. I was still a bit worried though, just cuz he never said I was hot or sexy or anything like that, the way guys do. After se*ting he kind of went back to being casual even though he was still responding to me.
Today he never spoke about anything that happened yesterday and I asked him if he actually liked the way I looked or if he’s holding back from saying what he really thinks and he told me he likes my body a lot, and that I’m hot. He told me to stop being paranoid, promised me there’s nothing wrong and “stop trying to speak to the critical side of him” and I said “Why, are you eventually gonna say something?”
He said “Only thing I got to say about your body is that it's too far away from me. It deserves love and I'm trying my best from 4000 miles away”.
Am I overreacting?
He said I was pretty but was critical about certain things like my forehead and stuff. He feels quite bad his behaviour and I know that if there is something he doesn’t like, he won’t be admitting it to me anytime soon because of the past and how upset I got. So yeah I don't know if he actually means it.
…since then he has admitted to me that the things he didn’t like have grown on him, and he is capable of loving every part of me. He just wants me to come live there but it won’t happen
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He said you looked great? Isn't that enough?
I didn’t have space to write everything but when he first saw me, like in the pics I sent of my shoulders and up, he said I was pretty but wasn’t that attracted to me at the time.
He said I was pretty but was critical about certain things like my forehead and stuff. He feels pretty bad about it and I know that if there is something he won’t be admitting it anytime soon because of what that caused between us. So yeah I don't know if he actually means it
Well, he was a dumb ass to critique you like that, so I can understand why you would have doubts.
Yeah, I mean I did keep asking him at the time because I was so nervous about what he thought knowing that he was critical towards his exes and we would talk about what we liked physically before he saw me.
So basically it didn’t help knowing how he was, he’s fussy. I got comfortable yesterday, after a long time and decided to send a pic of my figure and he’s been fine about it, I’ve mentioned the conversations we’ve had. But I can’t help being worried.
Worried that he’s holding back what he actually thinks and wants to convince me he likes it. I did make him feel bad about everything in the past when I first sent pics and he has a lot of guilt, so I know there’s no way he’ll say something now
I say try not to be worried too much for the time being.
Replying to the update: If you don't ever plan on moving, then why stay with him?
We aren’t together, we’re friends. I mentioned all that in my details.
I think you are.
What about now with the updates?