How do I cope with male "friends" who aren't really interested in being friends?

[Anonymous]

A couple days ago I went to a little get together at my friends apartment and we watched the England Vs France game.

When I turned up no one else was there but me and my so called friend who'd invited me.

Everything was fine and we had a really good time. I trusted but he wasn't a creep because he has a girlfriend and I have a boyfriend.

As the night got darker and later he kept moving closer to me on the sofa. Before I knew it he was trying to cuddle with me and resting his head on my chest. I awkwardly laughed and said "what are you doing?" He said he was just tired and needed to rest. I said "well why don't I leave then and you go to bed" he giggled to himself and said "you sure you don't wanna join me" I just looked at him in disgust. Then he started kissing my neck and running his hands on my thigh.

I pushed him off me and ran out the door.

I put on a brave front but I cried as soon as I got in the car. I'd been really good friends with this guy for years and I thought he was a good person and then he just throws himself at me like that. I was so scared.

I feel as if I can't trust any of my male friends now and I don't want to be left alone with men anymore.

[Anonymous]

The sad truth is that if you’re cute most of your male friends will want to get w you. I’m sure they at least think of you sexually. A lot of men try to make friends w the cute girls, especially if they know they have the looks to attract friends like that. As for him. Well you can choose to remain friends w him but you have to talk to him. To tell him that was inappropriate, that you trusted him more than that. That your trust w him isn’t what it used to be. That you may not be able to trust him as much as you used to. That he needs to respect your boundaries, you don’t see him in that way. Not to mention you’re both involved w someone. To take advantage of you like that as far as your friendship was uncalled for. Or you can tell him you can no longer be friends w him. Your trust for him is no longer there. Please don’t think that every man you’re alone w is going to do what he did. I mean yes I know this isn’t helping knowing that a lot of men think of their cute female friends sexually, most aren’t going to act on it.

[boggboss]

Are u sure there where no signs that he didn't want you to be more then a friend

[Asker]

Well the fact he has a girlfriend already was big indication to me but he wasn't interested

[boggboss]

Thats not a indercator as u say that like its impossible for someone with a partner to do somthing with someone else

[Asker]

I'm aware of that but I always thought he was a good person and wouldn't be like that

[boggboss]

Clearly u read him wrong then hun

[boggboss]

But that whay I ask was there no signs seems crazy he would just out the blue do this with no other steps

[Asker]

Well the only thing I can think of is we've had issues with the hugging before and I've told him I don't like being hugged and he respected it at the time