We just date each other starting from 2 months ago. And all of this time, he only calls at night. He never texted or called during the morning or the afternoon. He has a full time job and working from 8 am until 8 pm at night. He only has a time for me at night. Is it a normal thing in relationships? Should I text or call him first?
A couple of things to keep in mind:
Men's brains work differently from women. Men's brains are designed to focus on one thing at a time, to the exclusion of everything else. This is because men had to hunt dangerous game, or go to war, or figure out complex engineering problems, but this means it's much harder for us to "change gears" - if we get interrupted, and have to think about something else, we lose everything we were working on, and when the interruption is over, it can take 5 or 10 minutes to get locked back in to what we were doing and remember everything we had in our mind before - and that's horribly inefficient. Women's brains connect everything to everything else, so they tend not to be able to focus as well, but they also find it much easier to multitask and think of several things at once. Most men just don't do that well.
And editing movies is definitely one of those jobs where you have to keep 20 or 50 things in your head all the time, which is why editing studios tend to be small, dark rooms where people can be left alone for hours at a time to do their work. Long ago, it was figured out that this is the kind of work were people need long periods of concentration to be able to get the job done. And when he's not directly working, he'll be meeting with the director or the producers or the graphics people on the next scenes, or on his work so far, etc., so he'll be expected to give THEM his full attention. It's not the kind of job where he can surf the web all day and spend an hour on the phone with his girl. That doesn't make him bad or uncaring, it's just the nature of his job.
And lots of jobs that men have are like this. If he was an oil field worker, or an electrical lineman, or any of a thousand other jobs, then his time when at work is virtually 100% spoken for. These are just the kinds of jobs that many men do.
The fact that he's calling you every night means he's thinking about you. But if you need more than you're getting from him, then he might not be the guy for you, not because he's a bad guy, but simply because you need a guy who can devote more of his day to you. That's just not something every guy can do - his career will play a big part in that.
No working 12 hours a day isn't normal. Unless you do it in sprints with a lot of free time in between. Ie if you work on a oil rig or something.
Girl this happened to me in my last relationship. If he works but texts you straight away after. GIRL HE LOVES YOU! but if u have to text first after he finishes work and he doesn’t reply for a while… he might slowly be losing feelings but rlly don’t listen to me it’s just my opinion I don’t wanna ruin people’s relationships 🥲
Means he's probably busy during the day and likes to listen to your voice before bed to check how are and how your day was.
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It’s not normal. When do you get to see him on dates?
You're not his priority...
