Guy friend doesn't think I should chill with friends with benefits? Is this jealousy?

[7barbieringz]

So I was talking to my guy friend otp (we talk otp just about everyday) and I told him I might go see an friends with benefits tonight. However about a week ago I told him that I wanted to take a break from dating/sex for awhile, I said maybe tho because I wasn't sure. My guy friend says I shouldn't go since I wanted to take a break, and he told me that I should think about if I really want to do this. He then went on a rant about how women always change their minds. At the end of the convo he told me to do whatever my heart desires, then he had to go and said he'd call me back once his girlfriend fell asleep. This is the same guy friend from my last question.

Is this jealousy? Or is he just trying to be a good friend?

[_Troian_]

Lol your friend ain't a man at all, how could somebody still try to keep the woman in relationship who has a back up plan to fuck with anyone she wants. Someone like this wouldn't have a value for me, If I were him I'd tell you to f*ck off and have sex with whoever you want then I wouldn't get u back lmao. I guess you found yourself a cuck-beta boy, who really needs you in his life.. yeah I'd say thats jealousy and he doesn't want to lose you.

[7barbieringz]

What are u even talking about? I'm not in a relationship with anyone, as a single woman, yes I can fuck anyone I want tf?

U sound unhinged

[_Troian_]

Well I thought u were in relationship with this guy then said u want to give a break and he told you u can't see ur friends with benefits cause u had a break.

If its not like that then its my mistake lol, well.. we can't directly say if he is jealous or not. However, in man's lower brain we think women who have sex very easily as a bit slutty or unworhty, there is nothing about you. I am explaining you the true psychology of man, so if that guy is a friend of yours who gives you a value he might be thinking like that, advicing you to not have sex this much easily especially when u gave a break or maybe he might be also into you, but I personally believe its the first one I said.

[7barbieringz]

Nah he's just a friend and he has his own girlfriend. He was friends with my ex boyfriend. He's been a bit flirty over the year I've known him but nothing to crazy, lately he's been reaching out a lot more literally everyday, so we've gotten closer

Also I didn't go to the friends with benefits because I couldn't find my keys lol

[Danny_dan92]

Yes it is.




Why don’t girls understand that 9/10 times, a man that is willing to be “friends” with a girl is cause they know or think she’s out of their league but they’re attracted to them.


And so by being their friend they think maybe they’ll get a chance someday.

[7barbieringz]

He literally has a girlfriend lol and he's close friends with my ex boyfriend, that's how we met

[Danny_dan92]

Ok and?

[7barbieringz]

That's fair

[Danny_dan92]

Kinda weird how you’d remain friends with a dude who is a mutual friend of an ex….

[7barbieringz]

That's probably why he only calls when his girlfriend isn't around huh?

[Danny_dan92]

He wants to see what his boy had

[Louis-1]

not really, I am sort of in his situation with a girl, had feelings for her but over time it became more of a friendship, I guess it could change back but I'm not really hoping or striving for it,

anyway he probably just looks out for you, and also friends with benefits are always emotionally draining, you may not see it now but every time you are with someone, as a girl especially you produce oxytocin especially during orgasms, eventually you either get so used to it that you get trouble bonding with anyone which is terrible for finding the one, or you bond with these flings and you get your hearth broken directly, either way it is not great and I do believe that past generations may have had a point in having a more restrictive society sexually, which is funny because our parents generally had more intercourse than our generation does, just with less partners I believe

[Danny_dan92]

@Louis-1 Ok. You just said you had feelings for her initially.

I’m pretty sure if she hit you up asking you if you’d be down to fuck you would.

Or am I wrong?

[7barbieringz]

Well I met the dude last year and we hung out in groups back then a lot, and he was single back then. I'd say he was kinda touchy feely with me, like he'd put his head in my lap or on my shoulder and hug me all the time, and ask if I'd be around etc. Back then my ex said he thinks dude wants to fuck me and if my ex was a different guy he said he'd say something, but he didn't wanna start drama. This year ole dude asked my ex once if me and him (dude) could hangout alone and my ex said sure. Ever since we hung out alone he's been reaching out more. Like he calls me or texts me everyday, even if it's for a few min, but sometimes we talk for hours. But dude still has a girlfriend, I never met her tho. Dude says he sees me as a friend and has never really tried anything, but we do talk about sex stuff sometimes and he said he feels bad about that because of my ex

[Danny_dan92]

Lol yeah he’s trynna convince you he doesn’t want your pussy but the topics he talks about contradicts that

[7barbieringz]

@Danny_dan92 lol yea maybe, it definitely confused me that he always talks about sex stuff (even sent me an anime that's basically porn) but randomly says he only sees me as a friend, when he said that I didn't even ask, he just randomly blurted it out

[Danny_dan92]

It’s a buffer.

Tells you he see’s you as a friend. Then sends you sexually related shit to see how you’d react. See if you’d flirt or open the door to you two fucking.

If you don’t believe me, next time he sends you some sexual shit. Say it’s a (hentai) or a suggestive picture of a woman of some sort.

Say “that’s what I wanna wear in front of you”

Watch what he says…

[7barbieringz]

So u know hentai, a man of culture I see lol

And I'll try, I mean he runs an online sex toy shop right? And he needed a model, so he asked me (hesitantly), he said I'd have to be naked and he'd have to smack my ass. I laughed and told him I'd do it but I wouldn't wanna hide it from my ex, so dude said nevermind cuz he didn't wanna upset him (my ex)

[Danny_dan92]

I feel most men know about it.

Oh wow. He’d have to smack your ass? Yeah. Sure you’re just a friend

[7barbieringz]

Oh that makes sense lol

Exactly, that's why I get confused

[Danny_dan92]

I don't know how you could be confused it’s obvious what he is thinking

[7barbieringz]

You never know, he could just be like this

[Danny_dan92]

Lol doubtful

[FilmGuy93]

Sounds like he's just trying to be a good friend

[7barbieringz]

Ok why do u say that? Others say different

[FilmGuy93]

I said that because he's just responding to what you told him previously. You said you weren't sure if you wanted to continue having sex with your friends with benefits and now you're talking about going over to "hang out" at your friends with benefits's house. Those two things are at odds with each other.

[7barbieringz]

But I'm saying, why would he care? Regardless if I changed my mind or not, why would that bother him enough to preach to me not to do it?

[FilmGuy93]

He would care because you’re a person in his life and he wants to see you do well? Sometimes people just do things for each other. It’s not like his comment took a ton of effort to make

[7barbieringz]

Maybe, but he went on a whole 20min rant about it

[Summeroflove]

Maybe he’s looking out for you. Having friends with benefits is kind of dumb and degenerate and gross and just using one another for sex spreading your nasty STI’s to one another

[bowenw]

He may have feelings for you and is jealous of your friends with benefits.

[Alex8736]

definitely because he feels as if he should be your friends with benefits

[spartan55]

I doubt it's jealousy.

[7barbieringz]

Why? Everyone else is saying it is

[spartan55]

He was frustrated with you because you were flip flopping about relationships/sex.

[7barbieringz]

Why would he even care though? My sex life isn't really his problem

[spartan55]

Then why were you talking about it with him?

[7barbieringz]

He talks about his, so I assumed it was fair game. He's not shy about talking about that stuff with me

[spartan55]

Okay?

[7barbieringz]

Uh? I don't know

[Hardworkingguy]

Probably wish you were with him instead