He said he felt we were distant during date. What does that mean from guys perspective?

[Anonymous]

Did he want me to show more interest and he wanted more intimacy? I don’t understand. We didn’t teach each other at all but we’re both kinda conservative…

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[FilmGuy93]

He means that he wants you to be more expressive and show your interest more. I feel like a lot of women struggle with this, and I'm not too sure why. For any reasonably socially competent guy to be interested in you, and for him to feel like he should escalate his interest in you; you have to act like you want him to do that.

If you don't act like you want to be there, or you act like you could care less that you're on a date with him, he's not going to want to be around you because you make him feel frigid.

[Asker]

I interpreted his comment that he just wasn’t into me

[FilmGuy93]

Nah... He was into you; you just gave off the vibe that you didn't want to be on the date with him.

[Avishh]

I think this guy doesn’t know what is he doing. If he felt distant that’s 50% his fault. A person will not respond if you don’t ask. Usually woman likes to talk more on dates, but a guy has to lead her into the conversation when she becomes comfortable to open up. Followed by the touching, eye contact and teasing back and forth. In this situation he didn’t do any of that and pretended somehow it was your fault. It was a very weak move.

[Asker]

Yeah I agree with you but why would he blaim me though?

[Avishh]

Could be his immaturity, he is not ready to own his part so put it on you. Or Sometimes ego gets in the way to see through things clearly, but it doesn’t matter why, it shows you what you need to see to decide whether you wanna keep going or step back.

[Asker]

I interpreted his comment that he just wasn’t into me. Do you agree with me?

[Avishh]

It’s too less of a information to assume anything, but i think he was into you.

[Asker]

Why do you think he was probably into me?

[Guy13]

Feeling no positive vibe. No sexual tension or activity.

[Asker]

Was it probably because of my shyness/nervousness?

[Guy13]

That sounds right. Breathing exercises would be good so tgst you can relax and engage.

[Asker]

But he has really nervous too soo I don’t understand

[Guy13]

Give it another shot. It might come together.