Boyfriend is depressed and I don't know if I am overreacting?

[Anonymous]

So we've been together for more than a year and half and everything has been great, we talk every single day and shower each other with love even tho we live 3 hours away from each other we make time for each other. Lately he has been so depressed he can't even call or answer my calls, and when he calls he just say a few words and hang up , he responds 2-3 hours to my messages and tells me he's way too tired to talk and he is very depressed. He texts me 'I love you' and then he leaves me on read when I reply. I know it's selfish but also I have my needs and I get upset when he's acting this way, I don't know if I have the right to get upset but I haven't gotten any attention from him in days. I do tell him that he always has my support and I do reply to him every time he texts/calls. Should I leave him alone or do I have the right to be upset.

[jorfan3]

How would you feel if someone got upset with you for being depressed?

Legitimately put yourself in his shoes.

What good would that do for your relationship, if you expressed this?

You can be upset privately. Even pout a little. But getting onto him for being depressed will not grow your relationship. He will probably pull away even more.

Talk to him about seeing a therapist instead. You can help him find one that does virtual appointments. You might even be able to set one up for him.

Why is he depressed anyway? It could be chemical, or environmental. Or both. It does matter though.

[spartan55]

Sounds like another woman.