Are these redflags?

[Anonymous]

So i started dating this guy last year I lost my virginity to him. We've been dating but he has these mood swings where he gets mad if I talk to another guy and blocks me for a few days after cussing me out about how much of a slut I am. He then says thus year it was all a test and now he wants to be serious. Does he take me for an idiot?

[Breanna_nonbinary]

Yes. Those are all big RED FLAGS. He’s not going to get better about it but worse. Anytime in a relationship one person calls the other a derogatory name like “slut” that’s the time to end things because they don’t see you as a person but as an object. It means he has no respect.

[Anonymous]

I’m sorry but there’s no way you should be allowing a guy to cuss you out and disrespect you multiple times. I know that ideally when someone is your first you want some sort of relationship with them since you’ve given something special, but don’t stick around and be mistreated for things like that. You can do so much better than signing up for more of his bs.

[HighValue]

What kind of conversations were you having with other men? And were they people you already knew for a long time, or were they guys you met after being in a relationship?

[Asker]

After he took my first he completely ignored me the day after. Then the following day he called me we met up he wanted to fuck I didn't but he pulled my skirt up and did it anyways that's when I figured that's all he wanted his own little virgin so I decided to go out with someone else that genuinely liked me and didn't treat me like crap I went out with that guy slept with him we were going fine but then he showed up and said he'd do better and apologized if I misunderstood him to think of me like that. Whenever I'm vocal about any of thus he calls me naive or childish.

[spartan55]

If you don't recognize these as red 🚩flags then you are completely hopeless.

[Catarine]

I think this is toxic behaviour. If he loved you he should never call you slut and if this is on a regular it probably not gonna stop because you are still with him and he doesn't learn anything from it. He also doesn't seem to trust you. Seems kinda like he was grooming you

[kylee2437]

Sounds very controlling. If he has an issue with you communicating to other men, he should be leaving. Name calling is a form of abuse as well. I’ll leave a man alone as soon as he name calls

[HelloHell]

Well. If you love him, and he loves you, you guys should work on the differences. Otherwise, move on, he might not deserve you right now.