Does my professor have a crush on me?

[Anonymous]

Hear me out … I’m 21 and my professor is in his mid 30s. He’s single with no kids.

I noticed him staring at me in class last semester when I wasn’t paying attention. When I would turn to look at him he would look away or down. The few times we would make eye contact is when he tells funny stories or jokes. I’m very quiet so we never rlly interacted until one day I shared something personal with the class. His eyes lit up and he said, “Thank you for sharing (my name) blah blah blah…” But when the other students shared after that he didn’t care.

The last day of class last semester we were busy taking notes for the final exam. As I’m writing I could feel his eyes on me. Then I looked up and we made eye contact. He gave me that, “what’s up?” nod that guys do. I smiled shyly and we broke eye contact. Semester ends and during break I’m out to dinner with my fam. As our hostess is showing us to our table we walk past my professor and his group of friends table. During dinner I saw this guy get up and stare at me from behind a wall. I have bad vision far away so I didn’t realize it was him. By the time I recognized him it was too late, he had already left. I felt so bad for not saying hi.

I’m taking another one of his classes this semester and last week was the first day. I was kinda squinting at him because (again) I have bad vision and I made the mistake of sitting in the back. But I must have looked mad or something and he gave me another “what’s up?” nod. He still stares at me when I’m not looking. Advice?

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Update: I called my professor handsome. This is how he responded:

Hi (my name)

Thank you, you made my day with the compliment 🙂 you looked great as well by the way

I promise I'll keep you in mind from this point on and I'll say hi every time we cross paths 😉”

[WindAtMyBack]

It's possible he has a crush on you. Just keep in mind that a professor is still a person. There might be ethics that a professor shouldn't get involved with students, but those ethics go against what's natural. He will still be attracted to who he is attracted to. As a professor he will come into contact with lots of women, so it's completely expected and normal that he will be attracted to some.

Personally I don't see anything wrong with professors getting with students, as long as it doesn't affect the students grades or education.

[JSmuve]

It only really matters if you plan on acting on it. Do you want to?

[Asker]

I mean …. I would like to… But I also get the feeling that he wouldn’t want to pursue anything further. I guess he just likes looking at me? Lol

[JSmuve]

Why do you get the feeling he wouldn't want to pursue anything further?

[Asker]

The few times where we have interacted (mostly through email) he seemed friendly, but professional. He treats me like any other student, but yet he still stares and nods towards me.

Plus he’s very young, handsome, and popular so I doubt I would be his first choice.

[JSmuve]

Well, as someone who's around his age and has taught at the university level with girls your age in the classroom, I can give some insight here. He has to appear professional and can't play favourites, even if there are girls that grab his attention. He can find himself in some hot water if he misreads a situation and gives unwanted attention. So everything has to be done carefully on his part to not make any girl uncomfortable. But this also means he can't show any interest, even if he is interested, unless she shows it first. All he can do is drop subtle hints and hope she makes the first move.

If he's got office hours, then go see him during those. That would be my best advice. That's guaranteed alone time with him one-on-one. Then you can ask him more personal questions, build a rapport, and feel the vibe out.

[Asker]

Thank you for the advice !

[FreyaRed]

Don't interpret too much into his behavior. It's possible he behaves that way by every attractive girl. If you leave the class door, you're already forgotten and he focuses on next girl that visits his class as next.

[Jaylenn]

I been dealing with all through high school. Teachers undressing you with their eyes, staring at your chest, and behind as you walk. They are trying their hardest not to cross the line.

[ilikesnow]

i think maybe he does because if he treats you differently compared to others and stares at you then looks away i think those are signs that he has a crush on you? I don't know tho-

[Abdullah_m]

Some people are saying overthinking but it seems quite obvious. Especially if he makes u feel uncomfortable then maybe ask a friend to also observe his actions.

[Anonymous]

u already know the answer to this so why are u asking

[WhitneySnow]

I think he likes you

[SnowedIn]

5I do not think he has a crush on you.

[_Just_A_girl_]

ιѕ this P. L. L 📺

[Iron_Man]

Probably there’s always a chance

[TrillXHippy]

You could ask him

[Heolurt]

Hoping to get that A?

[Dav1dTh0ma389]

Overthinking. As usual

[Anonymous]

You are overthinking this way too much.

[Mamasanma]

Probably