Why do some guys have the fight or flight response around me?

[Anonymous]

I’m not dating them. They are acquaintances / know some sort of well.

guy number one: immediately seemed flustered around me/ messed up his words. Then calmed down when started speaking to me.

guy number two: had to meet me alone, seemed mega uncomfortable and said this shouldn’t take long should it. Then I noticed his hands were shaking. He seemed nervous. Then said at end ‘see you around soon.’

guy number three: this is my boss. seemed very annoyed with me on one occasion and looked nervous. I was feeling nervous this occasion. Then other times met him after this he looked mega happy smiling at me. When I saw him at first on these occasions he slowly said ‘hello’ smiling, saying hello in this kind of overly professional, posh tone. Don’t know if condescending or if he was flirting. After our chat ended he went ‘okaaaay then. All on board?’

[spartan55]

So basically every guy you interact with is for some reason nervous around you? Come on.

[Asker]

The ones I’d be more attracted to yes

[spartan55]

Why would all of these men be nervous around you?
Doesn't sound like your boss was condescending or flirting.

[Guy13]

Sounds like he has interest but very nervous, got scared, and took off. Embarrassed.

[Asker]

Which guy thanks 1,2 or 3?

[Guy13]

Guy number 1. Guy number 3 is probably a misread on your part. This may be a better question for a counselor. Apparently, you are giving off something Negative that is making guys think twice and flee. It seems to be consistent and the possibility of maintaining a long-term relationship with this is going to be very difficult.

[Asker]

What about guy number 2? They don’t think twice. It’s from the get go