How do I get this creepy guy to leave me alone?

[Anonymous]

This guy is a complete psycho. I never was romantically interested in him but still liked him as a coworker and person. But figured I’d go out with him once and wouldn’t again. But then he started to creep me out. He started talking about really inappropriate topics such “having kids”, and asked me “when can I touch you?”. I decided from there on that I was never going out with him, not even as a friend. So a week later I told him I don’t want a relationship with you now, or ever”, and “I don’t want you”. He still won’t leave me alone. How do I get him to leave me alone?

[Anonymous]

It's important to prioritize your own safety and well-being in any situation, and to take steps to distance yourself from someone who is making you feel uncomfortable or unsafe.

If this guy is continuing to harass or stalk you, it may be helpful to document any instances of unwanted contact or behavior, and to inform your employer or HR department if the behavior is occurring in the workplace. You may also want to consider obtaining a restraining order or seeking legal assistance if the behavior is escalating or becoming more threatening.

In the meantime, it's important to set clear boundaries and to communicate those boundaries clearly and assertively. You may want to consider blocking his phone number and social media accounts, and avoiding any situations where you may be alone with him.

It's also important to seek support from trusted friends, family members, or professionals, and to prioritize your own self-care and well-being. By prioritizing your own safety and boundaries, you can create a strong and healthy sense of self-worth and respect, and can build fulfilling relationships based on mutual trust and respect.

[flautistnaturist]

Be very clear that at your heart you do not value with him what he is envisioning with you. Both biologically and culturally, wanting children, to some people, is very far from creepy and should be considered more a compliment than some kind of disregard to a person with whom this desire is envisioned. As for touching you, and the et cetera which would lead to such a thing, just very assertively and very clearly showing him as you are telling him that you are not the one who is as a woman would be to aptly reciprocate his vision with him, is probably the best considerate means of dealing with things. Beyond that, any furthered interest from him sounds to be more of a Pepe Le Peu, enamored skunk sexually harrassing a disinterested cat cartoon analogy. Once he has been plainly and assertively made privy to exactly your level of disinterest, consequences fall on him accordingly as he persists, no?

[Asker]

Um, I barely know the guy. I was just getting to know him, so that topic was very inappropriate. That’s not something you bring up when you’re getting to know someone. Besides that, I was never interested in him to begin with.

[flautistnaturist]

There is a saying, "different strokes for different folks." There are some in the world who have mated for life from nothing more than eye contact across a room. To some, socializing amounts predominately to the opportunity to breed as highest priority, and sexual attraction is their primary measure of compatibility and cause for sometimes even the immediate addressing of such opportunity, sometimes even only in passing relationship. Also, it may be that he was taking some kind of physical training performance enhancing herbal supplement or some such. These can quite often have the effect of leading those taking them to function with such high priority on the reproductive capacities of themselves and those around them due to the sharp increase in instinct enhancing, potentially behavior modifying sex hormones some of them can give. Some people in position such as your own in response to such approaches have been known to declare authoritatively, simply a fully stern, "no!" followed by crossing the index fingers in the shape of a letter X with arms extended out in front of them making very direct and serious eye contact to bring the point home. Do what you have to in order to preserve the soundness of yourself and whatever with you, right? I mean, I'd hate to make somebody feel as weird about themselves as doing something like this may, but in the end, the wholesomeness with you deserves protecting.

[Anonymous]

HR? A big brother? A gat?
Maybe chasing him around in the color yellow to scare him?

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe bully him or provoke a mental crises in him. That'll do it

[Anonymous]

I hate to even say this, at the risk of being attacked by some crazy feminist, but sometimes it takes another guy to step in and tell him to back off.
I hope this isn't the case with you, but it has been the case with many women before you, and that's usually the only antidote

[MementoMori777]

Tell him to leave you alone, for some reason I have the feeling you haven't tried this

[WanderingLoveWizard]

😂..

[strlb]

Completely ignore him. Are you still co workers? Be careful there are a lot of creeps, sounds like one- a lonely one that needs attention and affection just not from you.

[CuriousMufuxka]

HR department? Really though either don't sound creepy. It's not like dude is staring through your window or planted cameras..

[Asker]

Not yet he isn’t. When I met him outside of work, he gave me the stalker/rapist vibes.

[Anonymous]

Who cares. You led him on, now you're going to have to live with the results. The important thing is that you learn not to do this again. 🙂

[Asker]

How did I lead him on? I’m nice to everyone, not just him. Guys need to be taught at an early age that someone being nice to you isn’t a sign of interest. Besides that, I don’t owe him anything.

[Opinion Owner]

You said you didn't want to go out with him but you did. Duh! You sent him a false message. That's called "leading someone on".😆😆😆
I Dontrelleally care what you think of him. I don't care how you react to him. But when you're dishonest like this, this is the result.

[Asker]

I never went out with him ever. I told him several times that I wasn’t interested and to leave me alone. That’s harassment, and no I don’t have to put up with it.

[Opinion Owner]

"But I figured I'd go out with him and wouldn't" again.
You're a flake!

[Asker]

Yeah I never said that. I figured meant I thought about it but never did. Besides that’s no excuse for harassing someone. Learn how to read first of all. Guys always have a sense of entitlement, and they need to get over it.

[Opinion Owner]

Learn to type coherently flake.