How to deal with an inexperienced man?

[Anonymous]

I am dating a guy for 8 months and before me he had only 2 relationships before me, dated casually in between and never lived with anyone.

I lived with my ex for 4 years and I have certain habits and needs such as man's active presence and activities with him on daily basis.

Sometimes we meet daily sometimes we spend only one night per week together. He doesn't mind when we don't meet for a few days, but he is also not pressured if we do... It's like whatever almost lol

He told me he is still adapting to a relationship and that we are going towards what I am used to from my past experience but he isn't used to that and he can't change overnight.

I am trying to give him patience and understanding but it's affecting quality of my love life, I feel lonely and unfulfilled at the times. Which leads to my frustrations and arguments sometimes.

How to deal with the lack of balance in our needs and wishes caused my difference in our experience?

[SnowedIn]

Well, based on what you wrote, "He told me he is still adapting to a relationship and that we are going towards what I am used to from my past experience but he isn't used to that and he can't change overnight." it sounds like you ARE dealing with it.

But then you write, "I am trying to give him patience and understanding but it's affecting quality of my love life, I feel lonely and unfulfilled at the times. Which leads to my frustrations and arguments sometimes."

So, it sounds like he's working on it but not fast enough for you. So, I'd tell you that your needs and feelings are valid AND that he's working on it. So, the ball is in your court: either dump him and find someone who meets your needs right out of the gate, or tell yourself he's awesome and be more patient.

[In_Trance]

Smh. Move on

[riverrat3]

Train him