Getting checked out less when with boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

I’ve noticed that lately whenever I’m out, I barely get checked out if I’m with my boyfriend. I don’t know if that’s the reason why or if I’m just getting less attractive. I do get looks at the gym, which Is where I’m not with my boyfriend but I wonder if because I generally go out with him, if that’s why I’m not getting looked at. If anything I thought I’d get checked out more than at the gym because I’m dressed up and have make up on.

[ShiftingMonke]

This may blow your mind, but bear with me here. As I understand the phrasing of your question, I think I've got an answer.

Could it be, that when you're with your boyfriend in public, a lot of single men assume you're off limits to them? As such, they don't register you as a potential mate, since you're already spoken for?

Rather than becoming less attractive, you're simply experiencing a groundswell movement of morality and respect in young men.

If you enjoy getting checked out by strange men, I suggest you reevaluate your metrics and/or have a healthy talk with your boyfriend.

[SueShe]

It seems that you are anxious that you may not be the center of attraction. Validation seems also to be very important to you. Why? If you have a boyfriend, then validation should certainly not be a concern to you since you are in a relationship. Unless of course, you like to be "checked out". What does it bring you to be checked out? Does it bring you some kind of satisfaction or are you worried that if you are no longer being checked out that you are unattractive to others?

Just relax and take it easy. It is not that important to be looked at. If there is something I totally abhor, then it is to be checked out by others. I have the feeling that I am a circus or zoo animal that people observe. That is totally frustrating.

[Guy13]

Bottomline for me, as it relates to your receiving attention in relationships question, is the exactly opposite. I get more than ever. I’m assuming that you misregistered.
My experience and reactions is completely opposite whether at bars, fundraising, or charity gatherings. It seems to be that he must have Value. And, I must find out if this is true. I do date a head turning woman whether one is a butt or breast man though.

[Avicenna]

Presumably someone being taken is a turn off.

[In_Trance]

You're overthinking