Less attracted to my boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

I've been with my boyfriend awhile (years) and his look is different than when we first started dating. I look different too of course so its not just him. He grows his hair our really long now but doesn't really take care of it. It often looks messy. He gets a haircut maybe once a year now. Before he'd get one at least every 3 weeks. He also insists on shaving his beard randomly to bare faced. His beard comes back after like 1.5 weeks but the in between stage is weird. I don't know the long hair/peach fuzz combo doesn't get me going. I know it's so shallow but I just wish he'd put more effort into his appearance.

[Vikkrram]

Tell him that hey it don't suits on you so please have a hair cut.

[tfan1]

Talk to him about it. Remember communication is key. 👍

[spartan55]

I'm sure he has things about you he doesn't like either.

[Asker]

Probably

[spartan55]

So, what do you want to do? Figure it out? String him along until Chad shows up?

[Asker]

I assume you have a suggestion? I've told him about the hair already which is the biggest issue

[spartan55]

Okay and how did that go?

[Asker]

He said he knows he needs to but hasn't taken care of it. He tends to procrastinate on pretty much everything

[spartan55]

Is the sex life good, bad, nonexistent?

[_Troian_]

I see alarm bells are ringing for this guy, if not so soon.. one day u gonna cheat on him with another guy. Yeah thats a bitch move but I can't blame if your partner don't take care of theirselves lol.

[cloud9vortex1234]

Getting a haircut every 3 weeks sounds absurd.

[Asker]

Maybe to you. I know several men that go even every 2 weeks

[cloud9vortex1234]

Yes, it's not my hair. People will do what they want, but how much worse can it be in 2-3 weeks? The reason you are not as attracted to your boyfriend anymore is that he's not taking care of himself. Talk to him about it. Be blunt, but not in a mean way. Were guys, it's best if you tell us. directly.

[Brando10222]

Be honest with him. If you don't share its gonna affect your relationship so do it