Crisis in my long-distance relationship: My LDR boyfriend tells me that he struggles to feel desire for me and is unsure, what can we do?

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Hello,
We've been together for 2.5 years. I'm planning to move to his country in a year. Many difficult things happened during this period: pandemics, war situations as well, inflation that restricted us to see each other. Although we managed to meet 6 times and these meetups felt extremely good and we also had amazing communication, we have lots of fun.
Although, things are more challenging during distance time. We got used to having our special rituals of communication, we have online sex, talk daily, etc. He's working, and I'm working as well, but we manage to sync our schedules. We have a loving and healthy interaction, and we argue fair. But things got sour lately. He does not look as sure as he was at the start. He's generally quite introverted, but I can feel when he has enthusiasm. He told me that he feels forced by me sometimes - and from my site, I feel like I'm initiating the most and planning the most as well, deciding for both of us, which I don't like because we made our relationship effortless during the first year and its effortless IRL, but on distance, it gets very complicated, as I try to be active more. He told me that this makes him feel less attracted, sometimes not talking makes him more connected with me. Also, he has issues with my body - he wants me to be a bit skinnier. Today he thought he feels attracted to other girls and wishes me to have a skinny body as well. That made me feel very upset and disrespected since I'm trying my best. Now, I think there is nothing he's hiding from me because we're usually very open and he's honest as well. But we both know it's a BIG ISSUE and potentially would cause resentment. I told him that I can't continue on this theme and we should definitely work on our issues for the next year. What can we do? Do you think there is hope here? I repeat, LDR was not our choice, but we did our best to be here after 2.5 years. We don't want to give up because LDR is almost done and we'll be back together soon.
Crisis in my long-distance relationship: My LDR boyfriend tells me that he struggles to feel desire for me and is unsure, what can we do?
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