Is a guy considered a player if he flirts with another girl while in the dating stage with someone?

[Anonymous]

Let’s say he flirts or is attracted to someone while he is dating (but not in a relationship) with someone else.

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*not exclusive

[Guy13]

Looking and checking out other women does not necessarily mean he is a player. What it does mean is that he is thoughtless and disrespectful. He is not concerned about how he is feeding your insecurities of like am I enough for him, will he cheat or leave, and all those other woman things that go through your heads.

I personally would have a conversation with him and start from how it feels when he does that but not mention player and disrespectful ever !!

[Wise4myage]

Depends on what type of flirting. If its sexual, then yes he could be considered a player.

[Asker]

What is sexual flirting?

[Wise4myage]

Talking about sex in a very obvious way.

[Asker]

No , nothing sexual. I remember wearing a sundress and he avoided being around me/ looking at me.

[Wise4myage]

He was checking you out.

[Asker]

He wasn’t. I usually dress down and the only time I dress up he seems to avoid eye contact and being around me.

[spartan55]

@asker
Really? You almost slipped it by me.

[Anonymous]

All’s fair in love and war. But if he’s flirting while on a date with you, he’s a sleaze who can’t control his desires.

[Asker]

No a guy was showing flirty/attraction with me but I found out he was dating someone but not exclusive.

[Opinion Owner]

I’d go for it… they’re not married, right?

[Asker]

But I’m asking if that’s a player… if you’re dating someone you naturally don’t want flirt with someone else.

[Opinion Owner]

It’s not a player if he decides to leave her for you. As long as he’s not trying to sleep with both of you. If he’s sleeping with her, they’re in a committed relationship and I’d be sure that he dumps her before dating you. You’ll know if he’s married/de facto because he wears a ring, or he keeps making extreme excuses about relatives getting sick or being in hospital so he can’t see you or have you over to his house and only pencils you in at odd times of the day or night.

[Opinion Owner]

So he’d have to break up with her before dating you. It’s fair to tell him that if you get to know each other well and feel interested. Don’t settle for being the side piece.

[Asker]

Yeah I see

I was just curious if it’s bad to flirt with others if you’re not exclusive

[Opinion Owner]

No, he could still be making up his mind. Or you could. My married friend says nothing’s certain until you’re married.

[Opinion Owner]

I advise you if you’re a guy or girl in this situation that you’re not married. You’re not serious with this other one, so date them both casually until you decide whom you’ll commit to if you decide to commit to either. It’s only cheating if you were sleeping with either of them.

[Opinion Owner]

So no you or he/she are not players.

[Opinion Owner]

Just don’t tell either guy/girl you have two casual boyfriends/girlfriends/whatever. Until you make up your mind, then break up with one.

[Asker]

Okay

I saw that the girl liked him more than he liked her. She posted him a lot on her page and he never posted her… she always posted their activities etc and he would post the same pic without her or her tagged

I felt like he was prob unsure in the beginning but he chose her. He ended up posting her and saying how beautiful she is and that he “I truly do love her” and he can’t imagine life without her so.. ig it’s serious now

[Opinion Owner]

Oh I see, in that case, he probably wants you as his bit on the side. I was thinking maybe he was seriously considering leaving his partner for you. That is honourable if he’s not married. I’m sorry.

[Asker]

I mean he’s never been inappropriate. It was just mild flirting

When they got serious he kind of started to avoid me

[Opinion Owner]

Ohhh now I see. Now I know the whole story, it sounds like you might need to find someone else.

[Asker]

Yeah sorry for the confusion

Why you say that? Lol

[Opinion Owner]

Well if he’s saying he loves her, if you want to know if it’s wrong to break them up and have him leave her for you, no it’s not. Do it with my blessing. Until they’re married, he’s fair game. What I’d do if this guy means a lot to me, is to start off as friends, then start getting to know him for a few months, then tell him you‘re in love with him or really like him and ask him out. That’s what I would do if I were you. Ask him to kiss you. If he says no, then take him at his word that you’re friendzoned and find someone else. That’s how I’d play it. Always dress nicely, flirt a bit, try to spend lots of one on one time with him.

[Opinion Owner]

There’s not really a right or wrong answer here.

[Opinion Owner]

Assuming she’s not a friend or relative of yours..

[Asker]

Oh no, it’s nothing like that. I barely see him anymore

I remember dressing up one day (I usually dress down) I wore a nice dress etc and he avoided being around me that day then when I dressed normal he was kind of back to normal I don't know

[Opinion Owner]

No he wasn’t a player

[Asker]

How so?

[Asker]

Or was that kind of rejection?

[Opinion Owner]

He was undecided about whether he might prefer you to her. In my opinion, if you’re not tempted, then you’re lying about it.

[Opinion Owner]

I’m saying in general, all people in committed relationships get tempted.

[Asker]

He wasn’t in a committed relationship … they were not exclusive

So there’s no me breaking them up when they were not in fact together yet.

What am I lying about?

[Opinion Owner]

Totally true. You’re not lying in my opinion. I think you’re just curious about boundaries. It’s a reasonable question. There are no stupid questions.

[Asker]

So what do you think about the guy?

I also saw him give a guy I was having small talk with a stern look..

[Opinion Owner]

I don’t know him. I don’t think he’s a bad guy. Just confused about what he wants.

[Asker]

I meant about what I just mentioned but yeah

He chose her lol and he was my professor but we are close in age so

[Opinion Owner]

Bugger.. that sucks.

[rienna888]

I think it’s fine as long as not in a relationship

[Anonymous]

Matter of opinion. I say "yes". But I don't date more than one woman at a time. Not everyone has this opinion.

[driven159]

YES, YES YES YES did you get that! YES

[Asker]

What if he stops flirting once they become exclusive

[driven159]

you have to decide if he is really exclusive with you once a player always a player

[Asker]

No I’m the person I thought he was attracted to

[driven159]

It sounds like he needs to grow up

[Asker]

I mean I understand that guys can be attracted to many women … it’s natural tho?

[Asker]

He’s 34

[driven159]

age has nothing to do with maturity you need to not give you heart to him too soon

[Asker]

I don’t really know him lol I was honestly just asking. Also he was my professor. But it looks like he is in a happy relationship with who he chose

[driven159]

ok than time to find your man of your very own

[Asker]

Nah I wasn’t trying to take him or play side chick. I was genuinely just asking.

[driven159]

ok then enjoy life and all it has to offer. And do good in school

[Asker]

Thank you

I graduated 😁

[driven159]

good than what are you going to do with your life?

[Asker]

No clue. 😭 I just turned 25 and I’m so lost career wise.

[driven159]

ok one thing you can do is try something with the state or federal government, so you know you have a retirement. I have a state pension and social security so i have nothing to worry about but to enjoy my life and do a lot of fishing. and going to Disney World.

[Asker]

Yeah , a couple people have told me that. I’ll look into it fr

I appreciate it!

[driven159]

good luck with it

[Asker]

Thank you!

[spartan55]

Girls consider 99% of guys players, so yeah sure.

[singlemombizz]

Maybe he's just confident

[Asker]

What do you mean

[singlemombizz]

If he's flirting with others, he's confident in his appearance

[Asker]

True. Typical player trait