How do I give a man more attention so he understands?

[Anonymous]

My crush at work asked me why I don’t visit him in his department (he always does to me), and now he’s doing it less. But I’m very bc shy and inexperienced and was taught make a man chase. But I feel bad cause I think he’s hurt or like annoyed. I feel stupid.

[MrOracle]

Both men and women have obligations and responsibilities during a courtship - he's acting on his responsibilities by showing his interest repeatedly and making the first move. Now it's YOUR turn to act on YOUR responsibilities, by returning his signals and making an effort in return. If you don't do this, then you'll remain single, and it will be your fault. That's just how the world works.

Now, I get that you are shy and inexperienced, and that it's hard for you, and that's okay, but you still need to make an effort. Here's my recommendation: write him a note, and tell him that you are interested in him, but that you are shy and inexperienced, and don't feel comfortable talking to him at work around coworkers, and while you enjoy his visits, it's hard for you to return them in the work context. So... can he call you in the evening so that you can talk? Or set up a date outside of work?

This way, you are making an effort, but you can keep it private.

[Guy13]

Ask him out or forget about him. He is weak. You want to know him then you are going to have to do it.

[Asker]

Hmm why is he weak? He can be a man for me?

[Alohav]

Share your personal matters where he can give you advices. In that way, you can tell how he actually feels about you.

[Asker]

Wow that’s kinda genius. I have to think of something to share.

[Asker]

Thanks!

[Alohav]

You're wlecome!

[HateyouxD]

It's okay to do it once or twice

[Asker]

What would you say if you visit a man in his department?

[HateyouxD]

Just hey thought I'd say hi and see emy buddy lol be cute

[Asker]

Lol!! That’s adorable. Ok wish me luck!

[HateyouxD]

Good luck!!

[spartan55]

If you expect the man to do all the work, to the point you won't even go visit him in his department, you will have a tough time finding a boyfriend.

[SnowedIn]

Don't give him more attention. You're at work to work. Don't get involved with people at work.