What to do about attention from younger man?

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I (32f) go to the farmers market every week. My husband tells me I’m attractive to him, but when I go to the farmers market, I look a mess. Usually a baseball cap to hide my hair, very casual clothes… absolutely nothing revealing or flirty. Just a t shirt and jeans. And I’m just there for business. I get my produce and leave. I politely ask “how much?” And say thanks after buying produce but nothing else. I also always have my baby with me.

Randomly, a young farmer told me he thought of me when picking strawberries. And has been very sweet to me and gives me flirty smiles. I usually catch him staring at me and his face softens every time I approach to buy the produce.

Not fishing for compliments. It just made me wonder. What do men notice in a woman first? I thought with how casually I dress and mind my own business, I didn’t expect a younger (and good looking man) to notice me when I give zero attention to him.

So now, I’m just curious. What do men notice in a woman?

And should I be concerned? I do not reciprocate at all. I’m just polite. But I can tell he has some interest in me. I’m married. I’ve even brought my husband a few times, so I’m just confused.

Orion84 · Answer

Lots of guys love casual women.

Sure, when you're going out, or on a date, it's customary to "dress to impress," and project the best possible image of yourself. The thing is, though; you're not always going to be on a date, and the majority of time you're going to be spending with someone is at home.

As a result, men love that casual look on a woman. The way she'd look at home, comfortable, just chilling. That's how we're going to see a woman we're married to, and a woman that's relaxed, comfy, and natural is a very attractive look.

As far as this guy is concerned, he's probably just being friendly, but the whole "thinking of you when picking strawberries" thing could be an indication that he may have a thing for you. It's probably harmless, but keep an eye out for any sort of escalation to his behavior, just in case.

bowenw · Answer

Physically I notice a pretty face followed by the overall body. You can't stop people from looking. If you're not interested in the attention, keep everything professional and polite.

itsannalee · Answer

He just being nice to customers, stop being delusional.

Nikki1989 · Answer

He has nothing to do with attention. He is just being friendly.

Staximus · Answer

Why are you even worried about some dumb kid giving you the googly eyes? You're married.

Anonymous · Answer

You're confused a finds you attractive?

What to do about attention from younger man?

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