How do men deal with pain mentally?

[Anonymous]

I’ve heard about how men don’t show emotions or process pain like women do. For example I’ve seen so many posts about how men don’t know how to grieve because they were never shown to. They were only ever shown to be apathetic. Is this true? If it is, when did you first notice that it was difficult to show emotions?

[RMorus]

Not sure if I am a typical case in that regard but am starting to think, it might be more typical than I know.

I am not quite interested in showing emotions except rationally interested. Internally, the thing of showing emotion especially to others does not quite happen to me mostly, especially strong emotions. Rationally I might be interested in it when I'd like to be emotional to fit the picture of what I believe to be right for example, or societal expectations maybe too.

It is possible that I am subconsciously afraid of showing strong emotions for some reason. Like I am afraid of them taking over in relations to other people for example because of knowing that this would not constitute the ways of being I adhere to.

But also generally afraid in sense of not used and not considering to within my pre-reactions implement strong emotions as a natural way of reacting to things.

KInd of dull toward the emotional component of the inner being.

And mostly: It just is not my way of being. I do not feel like being emotional in terms of strong emotions except when I am forcing myself too and this not feeling like it my life is implementing as its state.

If it is based on having been showed to be apathetic... Well, my father is certainly like that. Most other men I know probably too. If that is what made me like that I can't know. Considerable it is.

I also think it is inherent to women to make their feelings the immediately lived through surface to deal with them. By men this are rather thoughts that they necessarily have to deal with by making it the surface of the cotemporal experience. With feelings, we deal on a deeper level. Like women probably do with thoughts that give them unrest, by the principle of analogy.

This thing of not making your immediate emotions the surface you live through is probably rooted in prehistoric biological inheritance of humans. Men could not afford weakness, which surfacing emotions can represent while hunting or alike, when they were main fighters for survival and protectors.

[SnowedIn]

Apathetic (apathy) is no interest. So, not exactly what they're doing.

Many men HAVE emotions but choose not to display them. Various reasons. Some of it from parenting. Some of it from society. There's often a message that men should be stoic. That emotions and crying and wailing are "feminine" and therefore not "manly".

Often, however, many men will focus on what they can fix about the thing and then move on. It's not a rejection of emotion, or suppression, etc., it's just a valid way of working through.

And that's probably the real point and answer to your question: everyone is different.

[Anonymous]

I am perfectly able to show my emotions, I have just been taught as an adult not to show any kind of weakness to a woman that I want to fuck.

It might be possible inside a supportive and serious relationship but its still probably not a good idea, after all, what difference would it make?

Your problems are still whatever your problems are, whining about it isn't going to help.

[Anonymous]

We don't take care from jerks. We leave the mean women in out life be hide and don't put up with abuse. We get out there and get it. We don't sit around waiting for prince charming to come and help us. We get shit done.

We go where we are treated best. If nobody likes us in one place, we go where we are treated best.

[Twalli]

I was taught not to be a sissy and cry. I've been trying to not make that a deal. I still don't cry with pain, When I had my last serious injury I think I said "ow!" really loudly. That's usually what happens when I hurt myself. I can't cry from pain.

[UniquelyBasic]

Men probably just keep it inside and it builds up until eventually it comes out in rage or something.

[Anonymous]

Personally, I bury it deep inside my mind and hope it resolves itself. I don't have anyone I can confide in, therapist do not work.