Do you think it's possible for a girl to be attractive and still not have guys pursue her?

[Anonymous]

I wondered about this.

[abc3643]

Oh, absolutely!
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If you Google "Beautiful Girl Syndrome", that's basically saying that beautiful girls can be bitchier and high maintenance because guys are willing to put up with more because she is so beautiful. Guys won't put up with so much shit and work if the girl isn't so attractive.

"Beautiful Girl Syndrome Type 2" is a phrase I coined, but it's a real thing I discovered not quite 40 years ago. This will take some time to explain...

All guys need to feel that they can "win". They view things as something like a competition in which there is some goal that they want to achieve. If a guy wants something and he believes that there is SOME possibility that he may get it, he will get emotionally involved. If he begins to believe that he won't get that, then he begins to withdraw and get emotionally detached. However, sometimes a guy doesn't even think he has a chance, so he doesn't bother...

And this is where "Beautiful Girl Syndrome Type 2" comes in. If a girl is really beautiful, a regular guy thinks:
1. There are a zillion other guys who want her.
2. She almost certainly already has a boyfriend.
3. There is no way she'd be attracted to me; I am not anything special.
4. If she did date me, she'd dump me for some better-looking guy who will hit on her and there definitely will be such a guy.
5. She's going to be bitchy and high-maintenance. (In other words, he thinks she suffers from normal Beautiful Girl Syndrome.)

So, he basically thinks that
1) he doesn't have a chance to get her,
2) if he did, he'll lose her, and
3) she's going to be a lot of work.

Because oceans of guys think like this - the only exception being the hunky guys - the beautiful girl either can't find a guy or goes with dickhead hunky guys (who suffer from Beautiful Guy Syndrome). Of course, the regular guys see the beauties with the hunky guys and that just reinforces their belief that they don't have a chance...

Oh, and one more thing: Since beautiful girls can get guys, they are getting laid... So, any new boyfriend has to "compete" against all of her past lovers and many guys don't think they are going to "measure up" (if you know what I mean) compared to those past hunky guys.

So, a beautiful girl needs to be proactive and hit on men instead of waiting for them to hit on her. A beautiful girl being proactive removes doubts males have regarding Beautiful Girl Syndrome Type 2.

[Anonymous]

I don’t even bother to look at attractive women. What’s the point? Why torture myself? If she’s hot or attractive hundreds, thousands of other guys also think she’s hot, and that is who I am really competing against. Someone else beat me to them. And if they didn’t no woman who could get hundreds of guys to turn their heads and check her out is going to see me and think:

“Ooh he’s DIFFERENT from every other guy who hits on me. He’s better! I can tell.”

It doesn’t work like that. You’re just one more swinging dick in a long line of swinging ducks, hoping that YOU get to be the lucky one. So don’t mess it up! You’ve got one chance to make a good impression. But remember, no pick up lines, be spontaneous, creative, confident, and funny. Be better than every other guy who has tried the exact same thing. 👍

Or stay in your lane. You’re not going to get the hot girl. Date in your league. The guy with the better job, better car, better body, better whatever, will get her.

[Anonymous]

Guys are intimidated by really hot women, so those women can be very lonely.

[FilmGuy93]

Ohhhh it is very possible.

[MrOracle]

Very possible. The most obvious example is if the girl is shy, and because she's shy, she doesn't return any signals of interest when a guy shows interest in her. Say the guy smiles at her, but she looks away. Or the guy starts talking to her, and she barely replies. Even though the real reason she does those things is because she's shy, a guy is always going to assume that she's just not interested in him, so he'll give up and move on. And in a lot of cases, he won't even have the confidence to approach her, because he can't tell from her body language that she's not going to be very receptive of his interest.

[TheSpaceGnome]

I don't persue anyone, I wait for the woman to do that.
Also a lot of guys see a very attractive woman and assume she is already taken.
I only am into very attractive women, but I assume her being taken might be the case for any woman, so unless I know she is single, I won't show any interest, even if I am very attracted.

[Anonymous]

There always going to be some ugly toothless loser without shame that wi hit on any woman. 😆😆😆

But yes, most guys don't just approach ANY woman. I don't care how attractive she is. Guys don't like rejection anymore than women. And guys approach women that signal thier intent to want to be approached.

[BillyBass23]

Sure. Maybe a rumor is spread about her that makes her out to be one big red flag. Happens a lot in college. It's probably uncommon but it happens.

[KrakenAttackin]

No. Attractive women can have their pick of the litter. If an attractive woman is single that is 100% her fault.

[Anonymous]

I guess so. I think I'm average and I have only had one girl attempt to court me.

[UniquelyBasic]

I wouldn't think it's common but maybe.

[Luopio27]

Check out my 2nd last question.

[Anonymous]

Attractive women are intimidating.