Can a certain girl just attract men?

Question

Ever since Jr high I have been attracting crazy amounts of men. All different ethnicities ages etc.

Some approach me and a lot just stare at me excessively. It's very awkward for me especially when they're forward or much older than me. I am very shy and have never had a boyfriend so I don't know how to take all this attention. I am good looking but certainly not like a supermodel or anything. So in general, is there a type of girl or certain features that would attract such a large range of men ( different races, backgrounds etc)?

I don't feel comfortable posting a pic, so just answer in general, just gave my story for background info and an example

vagabondz · Accepted Answer

Yes. Super hot girls.

My bet is that you are super hot but you have not accepted it. For whatever reason you do not know it. I am sure people have told you. But you probably have not allowed yourself to accept it. I am not sure why. Those are you reasons and have to do with your self esteem and sense of worth. That is probably a good thing because it has made you develop other aspects of your personality.

I have a friend who is heart-stopingly beautiful. At some point she learned she was beautiful. In her late twenties. I have no idea why she did not understand or accept it before. God knows people must have told her. But when she finally realized it, It changed her. She is not as genuine and interesting as she once was.

I say don't think about it. Beauty and attraction are fleeting and do not last. You are in a more evolved stated. Focusing on understanding the effect of your beauty on men will lead you to exploit it and lead to a less evolved state.

I think ...

SevenWindsNineMoons · Accepted Answer

Most have said attractive but I had a female friend with the same issues. Old guys totally always went for her. Mostly creeps, but she attracted both player types and older guys (way too old for her, anyways). She was shy and baffled by it. She eventually realized and told me it was that she exuded an aura of innocence. She was home-schooled, very proper, always polite, and even had a squeaky voice and was very petite. Unfortunately, many of the guys attracted to that are the wrong type of guys - the ones who want to soil the perceived innocence or take it away.

I may be way off. It isn't only about looks in some cases. If you come off as either damaged goods or innocent you will attract guys almost by magic, usually. That said, to answer the main question there is no such thing as a woman that all 3.5 some odd billion men on the planet will all find attractive. There is no perfect woman. Some like big, small, black, white, etc. So no, to that.

blossom7409 · Accepted Answer

I think your looks help but I don't think that is the reason you are attracting guys.  I know exactly what you mean. It may just be the feeling you give folks you are around. I always get a lot of male attention and a few guys told me they just feel good around me, I am quiet, I am attractive but plenty of women look fabulous and much better than me. I think what makes them feel comfortable around me is I listen, I am down to earth, I compliment them, I am easy to talk to, not a bitter or jealous woman. A lot of women don't have any substance and believe their looks will get them everything they want and having a man defines who they are.  You seem that you like yourself just as you are and when someone is comfortable in their own skin others know that.  When all that you are a like a rare gem!

lottierose · Accepted Answer

Maybe you've got a the right balance between attractive/desirable and being attainable, like not so ridiculously out of their league that they are intimidated but attractive enough for them to be interested.

But, y'know, it could be more than just physical looks. Maybe you just have something about you that is attractive, a relaxedness, happiness, something. You might just give off a hint that there is something really nice about you as a person, and being good looking can't hurt.

See it as a good thing, I thinl almost every other girl out there would love to be in your position. If you feel awkward sometimes, just smile politely and brush it off. Have fun, and make sure any guy you do end up with is worth it.

Elenesephy · Accepted Answer

I share your story,I don't wear make up or designer clothes,sometimes I shave my hair is a mess but still there's always that way that guys give me the eye and they are all over me.I just take it as a talent and use it to bless the lives of guys that take interest.Must be my angelic/innocent nature or my gentle characteristics.I hang out with them,listen and understand,try to be helpful,but I don't sleep around or act inappropriately,but my magnetism gets me what I want and since I'm rather shy,it's the best thing that ever happened to me

coolbreeze · Answer

Guys look at you because that must mean that your very hot and attractive. They might be afraid to approach you because your hot and attractive. Don't take it personal or as it being awkward. It should make you feel good to be getting attention. Maybe it can be the way you dress or maybe you have big boobs or something that is catching their attention. You probably look good if guys are checking you out.

howdoyoulikeitnow · Answer

Yes! If consider yourself just a little bit above average in anyway, and look good as you must. Have a bang'in body meaning you're young and in shape and well proportioned meaning you look good in your clothes. Most guys will follow you everywhere. Some will even be afraid to speak to you because they might think your to good for them. Typically race doesn't matter it's the physical they look for first, anyway... Then everything else. Men sexually attracted to the physical first, no matter what they might say. Men are just programmed that way so to speak.

Anonymous · Answer

Haha wow, I can relate a bit...I'm nothing close to a supermodel -5'2 and not stick-like at all...But I seem to get asked out and have guys start up with me a lot, and its kind of scary sometimes because some of them are really scary men, and 3 times I have actually had a guy touch me against my will...And I mean real touching...Anyways I also have no clue why guys start up with me, because I actually don't think I'm pretty or smart or talented or anythng at all...I have no clue what the heck they see..

BTW, I don't go out as much or travel around in the city as much a I used to because I changed schools, so that's helped...But you shouldn't have to hide..

Thanks for asking this question, maybe it could help me too!

kheserthorpe · Answer

While men have somewhat different preferences, generally speaking a woman who is attractive is going to be attractive to most men, and a woman who isn't, isn't.

Kevvy · Answer

It's not a bad thing, it's quite the opposite. I'm sure there are tons of girls out there who wish they were in your position. Instead of feeling uncomfortable about it, just take it as a compliment. Obviously they think you're good enough to look at, so that must say something about you. Instead of letting it creep you out, let it put a smile on your face. :)

oOsweet~o~nessOo · Answer

Probably because your just noticably more attractive than average -

OR

You grew into your beauty and aren't sure how to handle male attention due to the " shy " thing, so every guy you see seems to be wanting you.

Idk - either or - it's not a bad thing.

Just be very very careful about the guys you decide to hang with.

kinkynconfused · Answer

Being flirty stands for itself.  Some girls are natural flirts.  You can find an objective guy friend that can tell you when you are inadvertently hitting on someone else, so you can learn how to control your behavior if you don't want all that attention.

noctis_ · Answer

If you're average looking that it's probably your confidence, the way you carry yourself and body language. I know a girl who is average-looking, but she just gives off this very warm and approachable vibe that attracts guys like crazy. But since, you're good looking, I'd say your looks has some part to play as well.

cory1019 · Answer

confidence can attract a lot of guys. but there's all kinds of different things that attract guys short hair, long har, big lips, breasts, butt, maturity, personality, clothes and just how you act around people in general. How you dress is a major factor though a lot of how a guy sees you depends on how you dress no matter what any guy says that's the truth.

Someboy · Answer

There is a girl at my collage that all my mates are after and she gets loads of male attention, she is good looking but there are hotter girls in collage who get less attention. That sounds like what you are saying. She is also a bit shy and inexperienced but that is why she gets more attention, lads think that she is hot but at the same time they can have a chance with her whilst the really hot girls intimidate us and we assume they will have lots of older lads after them or maybe there personalities will make them difficult to approach.

Guysensei · Answer

well guys are not like girls, they will hit on you and every other girl they find cute and could seem themselves having sex with. sorry if that's blunt but its true, its our nature to spread our seed whereas with a girl its her nature to find the best seed. you are probably attractive and that's why lots of guys hit on you.

evastetruck · Answer

usually they are looking at your breasts first then your figure the breasts being the main attraction  if you have a good figure to go with them men will do a lot of noticeing the best thing you can do is enjoy the attention .just bare in mind it won't be long before guys will be asking you out and expecting sex all the time as if its payment for you to date them.

cfigueroa78 · Answer

It's a good thing and it means you are very appealing to men!  It's hard when you're shy and hopefully you'll embrace the fact that you're a beautiful woman when you're ready and you'll feel a little less uncomfortable.  Just be gentle with yourself - you're a beautiful young woman and men will continue to find you attractive.

Anonymous · Answer

u sound a little bit like me except I grew into my looks in my late teens. The attention from women was kind of weird at first because I'm shy too. But I don't think a certain girl would just attract men I think in general any attractive women will attract men. Just think of it as a positive  I mean would you rather have people look at you because they think you look good or because they think you look like a freak? You got the better end of the spectrum.

Matrim · Answer

Yes its called being attractive. See when something is attractive it attracts stuff. You don't have to look far the word says it all  -_-

Anonymous · Answer

Its normal there are people like that...that passers by have to take a second look...this happens to me often too...I'd be in a mall and there are some girls will stare at me and smile even with there boyfriends...the boyfriends would stare too but they usually give that I'm gonna kill you look...but what's funny is 20% of the stares I get are from mature women usually from the ages of 40 to their late 60's...and the older ladies would be the once who would give me their numbers...and try to be friends with my Mom.

this makes me feel uncomfortable...because I have low self confidence and when girls stare I my girlfriend usually punches me or pinch me...i just wish when she see's a girl staring she'll just hug me or kiss me :)

Anonymous · Answer

I think I kinda get it! people tell me the same thing about me having irresistible beauty (Oh my), and yes, boys/men sing praise songs to that regardless of their races, ages, backgrounds and all, not to mention I even get asked out by a les who left the country because of not having me :(. And I had not accepted this so-called fact until about a year ago but still wondering why and feeling immensely uncomfortable even now! And you know what? I'm almost 30, never been in a relationship cause either I am not confident or they were not confident to approach me! I sometimes even wished if I am not that, uhmnn, as people say, outstanding. I will have to add that besides my look, many admire me for being well-rounded :( Believe it or not, I am not into it! Now that I like this guy, I am even having to think of a way to let him know I am not that tough...Sad but true!

Anonymous · Answer

curves on a thin body-big boobs and/or big ass (if they are very large in proportion to your body expect a lot of attention and stares)

it would have to be with a pretty face too. big eyes and a nice smile win most guys over especially if you don't have any odd features like a big nose or bad skin or bad teeth

combine that with long hair

GG_UK · Answer

well how can you ask us a question then not back it up with a picture that daft

come on girl ..we need to see this beauty you claim to be then how can we help you if you just tease your audience ?

i am not hiding and I defo am not perfect etc

Mich_V · Answer

yes, some girls do just attract men.  If you are getting unwanted attention - then you have something.  Your girlfriends should tell you what it is.  If it is physical, you can hide it a bit, but if its personality, then you will learn to deal with it.

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