He was really weird and really creepy and really unattractive still lived with his parents at that age and his private part was like micro. I was on a date and he left and cut it short because he missed his ex so I was upset I’m so ashamed of myself that I even went to church today. I’m really traumatised from my rape and have very little support and it’s been causing me to make awful decisions
I'm sorry to hear that you had a traumatic experience with this person, and that you're struggling with feelings of shame and self-blame. It's important to remember that you are not responsible for the actions of this person, and that you deserve to be treated with respect and dignity at all times.
Here are a few things you can do to cope with your feelings and move forward:
1. Seek support: It's important to seek support from trusted friends, family members, or a therapist who can help you process your feelings and provide you with a safe and supportive space to heal.
2. Practice self-compassion: It's important to be kind and compassionate towards yourself, and to remind yourself that you are not to blame for what happened.
3. Take care of yourself: Prioritize self-care practices that help you feel calm, grounded, and safe. This may include exercise, meditation, spending time in nature, or engaging in creative activities.
4. Consider reporting the incident: If you feel comfortable and safe doing so, you may consider reporting the incident to the authorities. This can help you take back a sense of control and may prevent others from being victimized by this person.
Remember that healing is a process, and that it's important to prioritize your own well-being and boundaries throughout the process. It's okay to seek help and support, and to take the time you need to heal and move forward.
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Don't you live with your parents?, don't have a car or license?, and no real job?
Kind of the pot calling the kettle black if you ask me.
Maybe instead of insulting these guys when you sober up, you should stop getting blackout drunk and fucking strangers, especially knowing you're going to regret it later. Who do you expect to get with being a blackout drunk thats a 5 or 6? Do you really think you're gonna wake up to some guy that looks like Brad Pitt or Jason Samoa?
STOP BLAMING THE GUYS WHEN YOU KEEP GETTING BLACKOUT DRUNK, IT IS YOUR FAULT.
You ever heard of fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me?
Well how many times before you learn? Shame on you.
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study up on trauma therapy. find a support group for starters.
blacked out from what?
I guess it starts with forgiving yourself for what you didn't know at the time, and then going into the past to correct traumatic events that lead up to this traumatic event. Go from there. The hope, forgiveness, etc.. you learn in church is good reinforcement.
we're all messed up, everyone in their own way.
And then you build a platform on all that grief turned to strength and you help others overcome their issues, then your wound feeds you and others! Look what Christ did... look what so many others have done. That's the formula!
Ok. Your whole post doesn’t make sense. You said you were ashamed for sleeping with a dude you deemed unattractive, rant about all the negative things.. nowhere in the first few lines are the entire thing did you explain he forced you to have sex. And then all of a sudden at the end he raped you? I’ve known women to accuse men of sexual assault and rape when the man either didn’t do something that the woman wanted, got drunk and woke up and found out who they actually slept with or in your case, was ashamed and cried wolf. If he raped you, you need to go to the authorities and at least report it. But if that’s unsubstantiated, like it sounds right now. You should take responsibility for that.
I am so sorry that you were sexually assaulted. Look, everyone make mistakes. I have learned that sometimes not making a decision is the right decision. Have you gotten any therapy from a rape crisis center? There is help out there for you.
You need to admit yourself into rehab, like today.
no judgement here but I'm so sorry that happened to you. if there is anything you need or want to vent I am a good listener. just saying
I'm here for you but you have to stop putting yourself in these situations
If you were "blacked out", while "sleeping" with a stranger; that's called rape!
You poor girl, I feel terrible for you.
stop getting so drunk. it's a bad habit
LMAO
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