What should I do? What should I say?

[Anonymous]

Ex/baby daddy let me and our daughter come back to live with him after kicking us out because I had nowhere to go. It's been a neutral relationship. Just coparenting. All of sudden last night, he loved up on me, and we had seggs. But today, he's been treating me badly, making me feel worthless again. He's been talking to another woman before he kicked me out and still is. I still love him. But he's told me he hated me and no longer loved me. I've been trying to let go. But I feel like I fucked up. I want to cry, but crying does nothing for you. Any advice on what to do?

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry to hear that you're going through this difficult situation. It sounds like your ex/baby daddy has been treating you inconsistently, which can be confusing and hurtful. Here are some steps you can take to help manage the situation:

1. Take care of yourself: It's important to prioritize your own well-being during this time. This may include getting enough rest, eating healthy foods, and engaging in activities that bring you joy.

2. Set boundaries: It's important to set clear boundaries with your ex/baby daddy about what you're comfortable with in your relationship. If you're not comfortable with his behavior, let him know and stick to your boundaries.

3. Seek support: It can be helpful to talk to a trusted friend or family member about what you're going through. You may also want to consider speaking with a therapist or counselor who can provide additional support and guidance.

4. Consider your options: If you're not happy in your current situation, consider your options for making a change. This may include finding a new place to live, seeking legal support for custody and child support, or ending the relationship altogether.

Remember that you deserve to be treated with respect and kindness, and it's important to prioritize your own well-being and happiness. It can be difficult to let go of someone you love, but sometimes it's necessary for your own growth and happiness.

[Opinion Owner]

If you feel comfortable doing so, it may be helpful to have an open and honest conversation with your ex/baby daddy about how you're feeling. Here are a few things you could consider saying:

- "I really appreciate you letting us stay with you, but I need to be treated with kindness and respect. When you treat me badly, it makes it difficult for me to trust you and to feel safe around you."

- "I'm confused about what happened between us last night. It felt like we were getting back together, but now you're treating me badly again. What's going on?"

- "I want to make sure that we're both on the same page when it comes to our relationship. If we're co-parenting, that's one thing, but if we're getting back together, I need to know that we can work towards building a healthy and respectful relationship."

Remember to prioritize your own well-being and to communicate your boundaries and expectations clearly. It's okay to take time to process your emotions and to seek the support and guidance of a therapist or counselor if needed.

[magiusX26]

he was horny and you were a hole he figured (apparently rightly so) he could use. you fell for his advances thinking he wanted to go back to s relationship. an ex is an ex for a reason. so what if you gave a past/history with that person, leave it in the past/as a part of history, except where it actually affects the child whom should be both of you's number 1 priority. time for you both to grow up since you both decided to do griwn up things that resulted in another life coming to be. you and he's feelings (postive or negative) should gave the minimal effects on the child which mommy sort of getting back together with daddy then not sort of getting back together (both of you are to blame for that, and yes him a bit more so) causes more harm to a child than many ever realize.

[HollyK21]

Let yourself cry. No it doesn’t help your situation but it’s important to allow yourself to feel emotions so that you can release them and move forward.
That aside, don’t trap yourself in that situation and instead make a plan to get out. It won’t happen quickly or overnight, but that is a toxic relationship you need to break away from. He got sex from you last night because it was convenient for him, and you can’t take back the fact that you did it. Now you see his true colors though, so don’t let it happen again. I don't know where you live, but research your area and see if there’s any women’s shelters you can go to temporarily. Even reaching out to family and asking them to let you and your child stay while you regain your independence would be hugely helpful. But the goal is to get out, period. No more mental and emotional abuse from that man, no more excuses for him either. It’s time to go.

[Nikki1989]

I would rather stay in a homeless shelter than put up with that.

[In_Trance]

Block him and move on

[Iron_Man]

Call him now