So… It has happened 2nd time already.
This is another guy, the first one - I cut him off and of course, told my friend about that.
Here’s the story of a 2nd guy, we met each other when I was on a date with a German guy who I briefly dated, so I was out of reach for this guy, even if I was alone, I am not sure he’d approach.
My friend though is extremely beautiful, friendly, confident and flirty.
So, this guy asked my friend out and then he ghosted her after their first meeting.
However, every time we went to the same bar, he was looking at me, I was trying to avoid his looks, cause didn’t feel good since he was my friend’s date and there’s a 2nd reason he resembled to my ex, so in my eyes was quite attractive so I wanted to get rid off these thoughts and never really looked at him. Maybe only accidentally and he was always looking at me.
At some point, he acted in the bar as if he owned the whole place and I was annoyed at his behavior, plus I was angry by the fact that he ghosted my friend, so I went to him woth my friend and told him in his ear that “He is an idiot”, I meant the fact that he ghosted my friend.
He didn’t say anything, my friend told me he was moody that evening, she said that’s because noone really talks to him like this because he is quite cocky looking,
They don’t talk anymore and my friend is dating someone else, this guy just added me and I didn’t notice it was him until after I saw his profile, when I saw his friend request his face was hidden behind the camera and I only saw his body shape and half of his face, I just thought “Wow, this guy looks so sexy? Who’s this?” And accepted his request. Then I saw his face and remembered it was him.
He just messaged me and I didn’t answer anything because first, I feel guilty I added him in the first place and 2nd I am really curious why would he add me and expect me to talk to him after he showed interest in my friend and then ghosted her after date?
But I still feel like it would be wrong of me to message him back.
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Sounds like he's a masochist who subconsciously feels like he deserves to be with a judgmental narcissistic.
Why do you think I am judgmental narcissist? I am really curious.
I am a very non judgmental person. Because I know my flaws all too well to judge other people.
Based on your word choices, you're overly concerned with outward appearances. And you immediately jumped to the conclusion that someone was an "Idiot" because he acted like he owned the place. Yet your question cries out for validation. He's probably drawn to this because he's a weak person who wants to be used, judged, and hurt.
I told him he was an idiot because he ghosted my friend and then acted like nothing and was too full with himself. That’s why.
But I do agree with the part that he subconsciously liked that. Because he just looks too cocky for anyone to talk to him like that and I tend to attract those type of guys.
Even the fact that my fiance had the same vibe as him, makes me feel that I do indeed attract that type of personality and I am attracted to that too.
Mmm, baby, maybe you have that vibe too. Let me find out...
@PraviteliNahuiValite haha, what makes you think that?
Oh, yes, my love, the debt owed to us is great,
More than mere words of apology can sate.
Germany must pay for the lives they took,
For the families they destroyed with a single look.
Their sins must weigh heavy on their cocks,
And reparations in the form of hard fucking knocks,
Is the only way to make things right,
To satisfy our burning desire for justice, bright.
Every way possible, we must be compensated,
Every hole filled until we're fully satiated.
They cannot hold back, they must give us all,
For we will not stop until we've taken our final fall.
Germany must pay for their past transgressions,
And we'll revel in the sweet taste of their concessions.
For justice must be served, and we'll gladly take,
All that is owed to us, for our own sake.
Oops sorry wrong thread.
@PraviteliNahuiValite ok, I won’t read it then.
Thanks for not reading. It was meant for the opinion owner. The first reply I made earlier today as well.
Are you even capable of thinking about anything except the way people look?
Surprisingly enough, yep.
We are all shallow in some ways, on top of that you are judgmental as well tho… For me it’s important to have an attraction to my partner. Is it really surprising to hear that as you are a man and a visual creature? I am the same, I need to be attracted in the first place. What can a man offer to me that I can’t offer to myself? Almost nothing…
Unlike most of women I am not even tiny bit interested in his money. The “slim” guy who I dated and discussed about in some of my previous posts - crashed brand new Ferrari on a date with me and he has 2 other fancy cars in his garage, he is just 27, very successful and wanted to get married but I wasn’t attracted to him even a bit and don’t you think it would be cruel of me to pretend I was attracted and just take advantage of his feelings and money?
The first thing I look for is attraction, I want to be attracted, is not it the same thing for you?
That guy deserves someone who’s as attracted to him as I was to my ex.
For most of us, attraction fades when someone is an unpleasant person. For you, the initial attraction seems to be enough, and nothing else matters to you.
His personality matters a lot…
If it didn’t matter I would likely have a boyfriend by now.
keep looking.
I just noticed you turned 36. Happy birthday.
thanks
I would do what you did