Should I bother approaching men?

[Anonymous]

I go to a luxury office corporate building to study at the lounge almost daily. Professionals at prestigious firms sit there to work on their laptops or answer calls. By 5pm, the lounge would be mostly empty but there would be a few professionals scattered enjoying a drink with their coworkers at the end of the workday. Sometimes, as I walk by I notice some bored guys sitting there all alone by themselves, pretending to watch the boring movie on the huge screen but really just people watching. Today as I walked by, I noticed a few of them glance at me. I'm just wondering if a woman should make the first move and just approach them. (Because no guy would ever approach me). A few people told me that a woman should never take a man's role in mating process. Because they say that if a man truly wanted you, he would approach you. It is male nature to go for things that he really wants. If He is not approaching you then it means he does not want you enough. then you will just be someone he settled for. Is this true?

[Anonymous]

I used to bartend at a lounge like this years ago, not all business men were the same obviously but they usually fell into 3 categories. Married with kids at home so the use the lounge to focus and get work done. Divorced and not looking to settle down. Or too busy with their career to make a relationship a priority. So should you bother approaching? Sure, there’s no harm but you don’t mind risking rejection and having potential to run into them after the fact.

[Jazzy54]

Speaking from personal experience, I wouldn’t. I’ve done this before and have gotten embarrassed and hurt by it. Therefore, I’d want a man to approach me first and go from there.

[Asker]

everyone faces rejection. its not something unique to just women. every time you approach someone, there's always a risk of getting rejected

[Jazzy54]

Indeed. At any rate, it’s up to you. 😊

[Anonymous]

"A few people told me that a woman should never take a man's role in mating process. Because they say that if a man truly wanted you, he would approach you. It is male nature to go for things that he really wants. If He is not approaching you then it means he does not want you enough. then you will just be someone he settled for."

I have no doubt that the few people who told you that were females. It's horrible advice

[richardcory]

Sure, in a causual way. Just say hi, or even just smile as you walk by.

[spartan55]

No, it's not true at all.

[In_Trance]

whatever works for you

[Tstrbrainer]

You can try